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Context: We live on a military facility in Alabama. This particular posting offers on-base middle and elementary school, but not high school. This means all on-base children have to go off-base for school after the 8th grade.

We have the choice of sending our children to one of 5 neighboring districts, 2 County systems and 3 city systems. This is a very rural area in Alabama, and only one of these districts is well funded. Most on-base families choose this district, and many other non-military families choose to apply for waivers to attend here as well.

4 years ago this district decided to start charging tuition for non-resident students. This meant military and non-military children now had to pay a yearly fee to attend. The district justified this by saying it was to pay for excess materials needed to house the surplus students. As a result, many non-military families chose to stay at their local schools and military families chose other schools.

The tuition also scales each year you attend. For example, Freshman year is $1200 per student and Senior year is $2400 per student.

This was not a huge deal at first; but, in the 4 years since, the 4 other adjacent districts implemented the same policies. This keeps non-military families in their local districts.

However, military families are subject to tuition in each district tuition policy because we live outside the district. Because we don't have am on-base high school, this means that all our options charge tuition. This means it's impossible for our children to attend public high school without paying thousands of dollars.

Military parents have organized against this, but the schools have stood firm and the Army hasn't made it a priority either.

To make it even more annoying, the schools still mandate military children fill out and return "Blue Cards" which send federal money to these schools for housing military children on top of the tuition.

So my question is, how is this legal?

My dumb ass of a husband has been giving my 60 pound 11 year old shots of hard liqour every Friday night. He is a bit of an alcoholic himself and we've had conversations about it, but this is a new low for him.

I also discovered that he has offered shots to my FRIEND'S 12 year old child, without her permission!!!!. God knows if he's tried to get my 6 year old to take some. I'm in tears. I'm so FURIOUS and disgusted and I'm trying to stay rational enough not to explode and make the situation worse.

This can't be legal, can it?? We live in Wisconsin. All I can see in terms of laws is that a minor can be given liquor if under the supervision of a guardian. But an 11 YEAR OLD?? Can someone please clarify if this truly is legal?

I’m having an emotional hard time right now and I’ll try my best not to word vomit.

Fiancé (35m) brought up doing a prenup this morning. There was never a discussion about doing one our entire 3, almost 4 years together.

In addition to this, a few days ago, he wanted to remind me that he still thinks ethical nonmonogamy “would be fun”. He knows this is a hard no from me and it’s his choice to stay in the relationship and continue with getting married. I gave him an out if this is a lifestyle he absolutely needs. He said he doesn’t and it’d only happen if I wanted it. This conversation also happened 5 months ago and took me a while to feel safe and secure again. Now damage has been done that I have to try and repair myself before the wedding. (I have trauma from this because we broke up for a few months about 2 1/2 years ago for this reason. He never cheated or slept with anyone else but he did go on dates while we were apart).

Now he’s talking with his buddies in the group chat and 3 of them have gone through divorces. One guy has a brother that cheated and left his wife for his mistress. His ex wife verbally said she was ok with getting a house and car in cash but once she lawyered up she was told she could get way more. And now she’s getting alimony and “he got screwed.”

This freaked out my fiancé apparently and wants to do a prenup so “no one gets screwed over and we don’t even need a lawyer to do it. Just do it online and get it notarized”

I feel like this is so he doesn’t get screwed over if he messes up and I’m not sure how I feel about doing this without a lawyer. I’m just so blindsided and my mind feels like scrambled eggs. I’m not sure what to do. Any helpful advice?

I don’t need to hear advice about leaving him, I already go to therapy once a week and have gone through all of that with a professional.

Edit: Sorry, I should have made it more clear, I’m needing advice on how to handle the sudden suggestion of getting a prenup and if I should be firm on having a lawyer involved when my fiancé said one wasn’t needed.

I think I’m going to tell him I won’t do a prenup before the wedding. If he wants a prenup we will have to postpone the wedding and I want legal representation. If he doesn’t want to postpone and continue with the marriage, we can do a post nuptial with legal representation.

Also, I do see the red flags. I’ve told him he’s showing me a lot of red flags and he’s really making me consider not going through with the marriage. He’s been trying his best since to make things right (besides bringing up the prenup this morning) and his actions since getting back together 2 1/2 years ago have shown he’s committed. It seems as though he has intrusive thoughts like a lot of people do and doesn’t realize the hurt it can bring by saying them out loud.

I've been working abroad without my companies permission for 9 months now, living in SEA hopping countries every 3 months or so (or whenever the tourist visa expired). Yesterday out of the blue I get an email from IT basically saying they know what's going on and I've got a formal HR meeting coming up.

It's a billion dollar US fortune 500 company in the Finance industry, I'm a low level software engineer dealing with back end code and no customer data. I've only ever had production access to real live servers 3 times (no db access IIRC). I've performed well, done all my work and thought I could outsmart the system..

I'm now terrified that they could incur massive fines for them not having a business entity in those countries and I'm not only going to get fired, but also sued to levels where I'm financially ruined..

In short I'm panicking quite a lot and as a hail mary thought I'd ask what the likelihood of me getting sued is and if so.. how much I'm potentially looking at? and what's the best way for me to act during this? Should I be totally up front and honest about the length of time and countries I've visited.

Edit: My employer is based in England and I've been working there for over a year and a half.

I don’t know if it’s just my firm or if I’m already an out-of-touch partner, but the posts in this sub about associates worked to the bone are so different from what I experience in my day-to-day firm life. Most associates are protective of their schedules and regularly turn down work, even if they’re working below or just at their hours expectation. MANY associates don’t bill their required annual hours. The firm only gets involved if it’s shockingly low (like half) or there is a significant shortfall (over 10%) for multiple years. Associates also fight the firm for billable credit for things like business development or mentoring. In my group, partners have higher hours than associates while also balancing all of the truly non-billable stuff that comes with partnership. If a client needs something I don’t have the ability to say no, even if I’m dealing with a hellish travel schedule, presenting a webinar, trying to finish an article for Bloomberg, etc.

Associates also complain if they feel they’re working too much and can get partners in trouble. I had an associate who crapped on me in an exit interview because they didn’t like how much they had to work on a TRIAL where they were third chair and I was second. The comment bugged me and I looked back to see I was billing significantly more time than them; they worked around 200/month at the peak. Recently, another partner was dealing with unfortunately clustered court deadlines and because no associates would agree to help, they had to rely more heavily on the one associate already assigned. They told the associate they were working on staffing and this would be a short-term push, but the associate went over their head to complain about working a weekend and the partner was told to “back off” so the associate wouldn’t quit. This partner was regularly sending 3am emails and barely keeping their head above water.

What’s more troubling is the fundamental lack of ownership. Very few associates actually dive into their work and think proactively. They blow deadlines all the time. It’s like pulling teeth to keep an assignment moving. Some meet their deadlines but give totally half-baked work. They may not read the instructions and answer the wrong question, or their legal analysis begs more questions than it answers, or if I pull up their sources I see they missed something critical to the assignment. Feedback often isn’t implemented. I’ve been burned many times by investing heavily in training someone only to see minimal if any changes to their work product. At this point I usually cut bait. This isn’t all associates—some are rock stars, and the angels sing when they agree to do work because then I can trust them and relax for a moment. But they are the minority, maybe 1 or 2 out of 10. I’m sure I could be a more effective manager and inspire better work from the non-star associates if that was all I did. But I’m exhausted, damnit, and at some point I need to spend time with my kids.

I don’t know what I’m missing here. Am I blind to the associate struggle? To me they feel overcompensated and entitled and frankly a waste of client money. I’d torch the law firm hiring model if I could. But for now I’m too tired.

Well, basically I rushed to hire a lawyer for a case that was not that serious. Since I hired him almost 6 months ago I haven't received any information from him, no messages, calls or any updates with my case, he just made me pay and disappeared completely.

It was like that until my court day arrived and he didn't notify me either, so I decided not to remind him to see if he would show up, the court day arrives and indeed my lawyer never showed up.

A few days later I called him to let him know that he had failed to show up to my court, I told him that I couldn't trust him with this type of failure and that I no longer required his service, in addition to requesting my money back.

A few days go by and I kept arguing with him about my money every day, he finally agrees to pay me, he told me that he would send a check to my address and I could expect it in two weeks, it's been more than a month since that and I still haven't received anything, apparently he blocked me and my calls didn't even go through, what could I do here? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Update: Thank you to you all for the help, I had a last call with him from a friend's phone, I told him that if I did not receive my money by today I would report him to the state bar, and also sue him for malpractice, not even 10 minutes passed and he had already sent me the receipt that the check had been sent, now I will just wait to receive it and confirm that the amount is correct.

Also, I don't know if I should or how bad this looks but I would still like to report him, I was fighting with him for over two months so he could finally give me my money back, I wouldn't want anyone else to have to go through something like this with him.

UPDATE: Thanks for all the advice everyone! You've been a great help! My wife and I greatly appreciate it!

11 years ago, my parents gifted my wife and I $50k for a down payment on our first house, which we have since paid off and now own.

Now my parents are threatening to sue us to return the $50k now claiming it was a loan.

We made no verbal agreements with them nor have we signed any documents agreeing that it was a loan to be paid back. We were all in agreement that this was a one time gift.

Do they have a case? What can I do?

Edit: If it helps, I am in Texas.

Edit 2: My parents are well meaning, but quite overbearing. They're pissed at my wife as she has been out of work since the COVID lockdowns.

They want her to get a job and had made this threat: "get a job in 3 months or we will sue you to get the $50k back and you'll have to sell your house to pay us." They claim they "have proof" that it was a loan and not a gift.

We're nearing the end of month 3. And that's where we're at now.

My parents are 70+ year old retirees that retired wealthy. Mom recently had cancer, step-dad recently had surgery for bowl obstructions, if any of that matters.

My grandma gave me property in Oct 2023 the property is already under my name. My uncle won’t leave and my aunt is backing him up they are trying everything to stay on the property even trying to claim the property was given to me fraudulently. If I evict them and have all the proof will the judge understand or I’m going to have to go to civil court? The property is 66,000 and in Texas. The property was given as a gift deed and my grandma is no longer alive. I’ve also been paying the taxes. I’ve also harassed by my aunt that she’s going to sue me but she hasn’t fallen through she’s been saying she’s going to sue me since February 2024.

State: Indiana

Background:

I purchased my home a little over 10 years ago. I bought the home from the original owner. No one else has lived at this home besides him (and his family) and me.

Situation:

About 6 months ago, I started to receive credit card statements from Citigroup for an individual that does not live at my address. Initially, I thought this was just some clerical error, so I discarded the statement. The statements continued to arrive, so I contacted Citi. They said they would stop sending the statement. They did not. So, I contacted them again. I also asked, how could someone open a credit card with my address when they never lived at my address. They were just as confused as I was. They promised to stop sending the statements.

I know this person's name from the credit card statements (obviously), so I attempted to contact him. None of his information is available online except his place of employment. He's a doctor. I call the hospital, and they were 0 help in getting in touch with him (not surprisingly). So, that was a dead end.

Next, I get a ticket from the Massachusetts DOT. This is for a different individual, but with the same last name. At this point, I'm concerned. So, I contact the United States Postal Inspection Service (USPIS). They mentioned that this could be a case of mail fraud, and opened a case.

Satisfied with the USPIS handling the case, I go back to living my life. Today, I receive a call from my insurance broker stating that they need to confirm that there is a new driver at my address. Guess who? Same guy.

Also, I opened a brokerage account and during the verification process, they had this individual listed as someone who was associated with my address.

Question:

What else can I do legally to have this person disassociated with my address? Are there any other risks about this situation that I should be concerned about?

ts is like high school I can’t even believe it grown ass adults act like children and it’s so surprising to me that these ppl are our future lawyers. no class!