We had a sitter for the kids last night so we ate (at home) and then got out the door to catch a movie as soon as the sitter got here. It was a pretty long movie, so we were both really hungry again afterward. She was craving pizza from one of our favorite local places that was only a 2-3 min walk, so without even realizing what time it was, we started in that direction.
Well, as we came thru the door I could see the place was completely empty. They close at 10 pm and it was 9:51 or something. My wife could see I was wanting to leave but she was being really difficult and I HATE having arguments when we're in public...so I went along with it.
She's done this before at 20-30 mins before closing times, but never this late. All I can say is it made me feel really uncomfortable. I've never been a server but I could tell from their faces that they were really f*ucking annoyed.
And of course, she had to order one of the specialty pizzas with all this extra shit on it. Once the waitress left, I only somewhat jokingly said "They're gonna spit on your pizza." She could sense the sarcasm in my voice and asked what my deal was. I explained to her how I was uncomfortable going into a sit-down restaurant when it's this close to closing time.
She was upset by this and got really defensive and said it's their job to serve customers until the stated closing time. She said if they're open, we should be able to dine there. I tried to explain that the staff probably wants to clean up and go home, and it's just common courtesy not to barge in right at the last minute.
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Backstory: I (F) and fiancé (M) have broken up over this. Need some impartial opinions if i am asshole.
I am very insecure about my weight and put on over 10kg through covid, work stress and grief.
I received an ultimatum in July from my fiancée that if I didnt lose 4kg by my birthday (yesterday) the wedding at the end of this year is off and demanded to know what my starting weight was. I was really distress/sad by this at the time of request that I couldnt even engage with him for a week. I even saw a psychologist to help me process it. I eventually cracked and told him my weight (76kg). We don’t live together. I work really hard and lose 5kg in about 5 weeks. Yesterday was my birthday, the weigh in day, he came over to visit.
First thing in the morning i want to get this over with (still upset by the whole experience) and I stood on the scale in my pjs with my weight coming in at just over 70kg which he looks at and verbalizes. He weighs himself then asks me to come back and re-weigh myself in front of him without any clothes on. I refuse. My reasoning was that I already felt humiliated and I was mentally only prepared to do it once which in my mind I did.
He thinks I’m the asshole because I refuse to do something that was important to him. I think he’s the asshole for making me go through this experience. I texted a single trusted friend who gave me some reassuring words (essentially that I’m not crazy and this isnt my fault) which i shared with him not saying who the friend (F) was. He thinks that is not impartial and i’m badmouthing him. We broke up over my refusal to re-weigh myself in front of him without clothes on.
I know people who are impartial…. The internet!. Am i being unreasonable/the ah in not doing something that was important to him?
Am i for refusing to weigh myself in front of my partner