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It's funny how all points of community discussion get flooded when a cast member makes a mistake, but there's near crickets when something positive comes of it.

I wanted to make a point to say, you're a good man for apologizing publically after getting grilled nonstop since the incident. We all get caught up in our thoughts and can misinterpret things in the moment, but most of us have the luxury of not having those moments broadcasted out into the universe. What you did was a great example to us all on how to resolve friction with our peers.

TNT just announced that Jokic is the MVP, only for Shaq to go on a tangent saying SGA actually should've won it. Then he pivoted to complaining about all the times he was "robbed." To top it off, they interview Jokic with terrible audio. And yet fans wonder why NBA discourse is so toxic. I know everyone loves Inside the NBA, but Shaq sucks and ruins everything. What a joke this has been.

So it’s been a little over a month since the situation went down. Since then, my fiance started working with his dad at work. His dad gave him birthday presents for us at work one day and told us to open the card. It basically said “sorry for the miscommunication, we didn’t mean to make you feel threatened. We just want to be the kind of grandparents who get to spend quality time with our beautiful grandson”

I sent them a text basically saying “nice try, but it wasn’t a miscommunication. Everyone agrees there was no other way to interpret your message other than threatening me and my family. I don’t allow my own family to disrespect me so I won’t allow it from you either” About 2 weeks later we get another card from them ACTUALLY admitting what they did was wrong and taking some accountability for what they said. But of course at the end they had to throw in a little “In the future please come to us directly if there are any issues rather than involving others. Face to face discussions are more effective than text messages” Like okay but if you don’t want me to involve others, don’t start shit with me when I’m with my grandma. Because she ALWAYS starts shit when I’m with my grandma.

I honestly don’t even know when but my fiancé switched from “I’m done with them” to “we need to give them one more chance” and I really really wish I had it in me to give them another chance but honestly, I don’t think I have it in me to ever forgive her. I don’t think I ever have it in me to trust her. The idea of seeing her again gives me intense anxiety. I’ve had to let things go in the past that really upset me for the sake of my son’s relationship with her, but I’m tired of having to sacrifice my sanity and mental wellbeing for my son to have a relationship with someone. My own mother has never and will never meet my son because she is toxic to herself and everyone in her life, why is MIL any different than my own family? Especially considering I did some digging on MIL and discovered all of her other children petitioned the court to stop visitation with her by the time they were all 13. And for a court to deny visitation to a MOTHER 30+ years ago? I have questions on what she did to her children.

I’m really not sure how to get over this. Or if I even should get over it and just take this hatred and anger I have to my grave. I do have one slightly positive update since my last post, about a week after I posted here I went to get a tattoo in memory of my grandpa who passed away a few years ago. He loved me and my sister like we were his own kids and always did what he could to protect us. While I was getting the tattoo, MIL got sideswiped BAD by a pickup truck and her car is toast. My family says it’s my grandpa still looking out for his girls from beyond and I’m okay with that 😅

Little backstory-A few years ago, I was barely divorced, and found out I was pregnant from a fling at work. I worked hard to try to make it work and bought a bigger house so we could live together with his kids. He quit his job when our baby was less than a year old and he is working at a dispensary. This has led to a lot of issues especially with schedules and has left me with most of the child rearing for our son and his older kids. I love the kids but it’s been hard going from 0 to 3. It is especially frustrating as I am in a career that allows me to pay all household expenses. A lot of his money goes to the company store and he gets a huge amount of employee samples on top of that. There have been so many fights that make no sense. It would be a book to write about all of them, but I think I’m losing my mind sometimes and just need some perspective.

So today we were arguing and I went outside for air and saw our cat run by. So I was coaxing our cat out between my boyfriend’s car and the fence. When my boyfriend came out he accused me of messing with his car and was blocking my way inside. I told him I wasn’t and he continued to block my way, so I finally responded that I probably popped his tire and he should get out of my way and look for myself (I know nothing about cars and I know this was not a great response). He went and checked and then followed me back inside and was upset I would say that and told me he accused me of messing with his car because prior to my divorce I crashed my ex husbands truck into a tree in our yard when I caught him cheating(But like at 2 miles an hour because I can’t drive a shift).

I asked him for space and for him to leave for a while. He went outside to mow, and I again said he should just leave. He mowed over the pollinator garden the kids and I were growing. I came out when he started and asked him to stop saying again it was our pollinator garden. He responded it was just grass and mowed it down. I know it was just a strip of plants but it honestly felt heart breaking. The kids and I spent hours out there getting it ready and putting a fence around it. We were so excited to see it all grow and all the bug friends we could see this summer. Am I being dramatic feeling this heartbroken over this? I’m honestly just done right now but want perspective for the kids.

I Just need to vent

I 24F have been living with my 25M now ex boyfriend for about 8 months now. I have a teddy bear that my grandmother gave to me when I was younger. It has no monetary alum but the sentimental value is more important. When I was 8 she gave it to my while she was struggling with cancer. It was stage 4 and spread quickly and there was nothing they could do. She gave me a teddy bear and told me to take care of it and I could talk to the teddy bear whenever I missed her. She got one of those talking mics put in it and it would say “I hope you’re feeling loved today because I love you more than all the stars in the sky and all the fish in the sea and you mean the world to me” she would say that all time when I would spend the night.

He knows how much it means to me. I told him. He’s seen me hugging the bear and sitting outside to talk to my grandma when I was sad or Just needed to vent without Judgement or even a response. 2 days ago he decided that it was “raggedy” and “not appealing to look at” I can admit, bear bear has been through it. I carried it around with me everywhere for 2 years. He would go in my book bag when I went to school, went to dance class with me, he even went out of town when I had cheer meets when I got into high school. My cousin pulled out one of his eyes when I was 10 and he’s missing an arm when my brother got mad at me and cut it off. It was sewn back on and then ripped off again. You get it. But he was mine.

I found a button that was exactly like his from some bear at a Good Will and was going to sew it in his eye. I went to my room (we have separate bedrooms, I can decorate my space how I want and have my work space and the same for him but we always sleep together, I Just never had my own room and have only been living alone for 2 years so I want to keep that for a while) I went in there to do it and he wasn’t on my bed. I went scouring for him for hours and he watched me. I started to cry because that was the last thing she gave me and she made special for me. He finally told me he threw it away because it was disgusting and he hated coming in my room and seeing it. I got so mad and I felt so betrayed.

He likes to spend time on legos and building them. He’s built the Eiffel Tower, the Harry Potter tower, a cherry blossom tree, and dozens of other. I went to his room and I destroyed them all. I threw the pieces around the room and out the window and in the garbage. He came in screaming at me and saying how dare I touch his things he bought with his money and he spent hours on it. I told him he can gtfo and spend hours rebuilding it some place else because I’m done with him. He started telling me I was overreacting and whatever else. I forget a lot of the argument because I was pissed. I told him he had 1 week to get his things out and move out but he wasn’t staying here while it happened. He started telling me that I couldn’t do that and he paid bills. I told him I really don’t give a shit and to get out or I’d call the police.

We have mutual friends and he’s told them a completely different story because 2 have texted me asking “how could I do that to him” and I really don’t care to clear it up. In the moment I didn’t feel bad but now I kind of do because that’s his hobby but I was so hurt and betrayed by what he did. He’s even called me a few times saying he’ll get me another and we can work on things and don’t throw away 3 years over a mistake but I am completely disgusted by him.

I (F35) saw a text message between my husband (M36) and I can worker calling her mi Reyna yesterday was my husband’s birthday and I saw a text message where she wishes him a happy birthday and he responds saying “thank you mi Reyna” which means my queen in Spanish he said it doesn’t mean anything but I can’t help feeling weird about it am I over reacting?

You know how they say you don’t know that you’re in the good old days until they’re over? I think we are in the good old days with regards to H3. 3 high quality shows a week is just insane. They have not been missing recently. Be grateful for this moment as I think we’ll be looking back fondly on the 2023-2024 era of H3.