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I (F35) saw a text message between my husband (M36) and I can worker calling her mi Reyna yesterday was my husband’s birthday and I saw a text message where she wishes him a happy birthday and he responds saying “thank you mi Reyna” which means my queen in Spanish he said it doesn’t mean anything but I can’t help feeling weird about it am I over reacting?

I’m watching Starstruck and it’s such a contrast to him playing Rizz in junior year of Fantasy High. He seems so liberated to rip and run and goof off versus having to play 3D chess against Brennan constantly. Give this man a break!

So it’s been a little over a month since the situation went down. Since then, my fiance started working with his dad at work. His dad gave him birthday presents for us at work one day and told us to open the card. It basically said “sorry for the miscommunication, we didn’t mean to make you feel threatened. We just want to be the kind of grandparents who get to spend quality time with our beautiful grandson”

I sent them a text basically saying “nice try, but it wasn’t a miscommunication. Everyone agrees there was no other way to interpret your message other than threatening me and my family. I don’t allow my own family to disrespect me so I won’t allow it from you either” About 2 weeks later we get another card from them ACTUALLY admitting what they did was wrong and taking some accountability for what they said. But of course at the end they had to throw in a little “In the future please come to us directly if there are any issues rather than involving others. Face to face discussions are more effective than text messages” Like okay but if you don’t want me to involve others, don’t start shit with me when I’m with my grandma. Because she ALWAYS starts shit when I’m with my grandma.

I honestly don’t even know when but my fiancé switched from “I’m done with them” to “we need to give them one more chance” and I really really wish I had it in me to give them another chance but honestly, I don’t think I have it in me to ever forgive her. I don’t think I ever have it in me to trust her. The idea of seeing her again gives me intense anxiety. I’ve had to let things go in the past that really upset me for the sake of my son’s relationship with her, but I’m tired of having to sacrifice my sanity and mental wellbeing for my son to have a relationship with someone. My own mother has never and will never meet my son because she is toxic to herself and everyone in her life, why is MIL any different than my own family? Especially considering I did some digging on MIL and discovered all of her other children petitioned the court to stop visitation with her by the time they were all 13. And for a court to deny visitation to a MOTHER 30+ years ago? I have questions on what she did to her children.

I’m really not sure how to get over this. Or if I even should get over it and just take this hatred and anger I have to my grave. I do have one slightly positive update since my last post, about a week after I posted here I went to get a tattoo in memory of my grandpa who passed away a few years ago. He loved me and my sister like we were his own kids and always did what he could to protect us. While I was getting the tattoo, MIL got sideswiped BAD by a pickup truck and her car is toast. My family says it’s my grandpa still looking out for his girls from beyond and I’m okay with that 😅

My husband and are are 28 years old, happily married 7 years with a 1.5 year old. My husbands parents divorced when he was about 2 years old and he was always told (and told me) they “grew apart”. He has specifically said to me “neither of my parents cheated”.

Both parents are now happily remarried and both step parents are great and have a good relationship with my husband. Father in law remarried when husband was about 7 and mother in law married when husband was 11. Me and my husband have close relationships with both sets of parents and love all four of them dearly.

His mom and dad still text each other occasionally, they all show up to big family events together, my husbands father and step dad sit next to each other at football games, by all accounts they’re all on good terms.

Despite this I’ve always had a feeling that the reason for my in laws divorce was because father in law cheated on mother in law with his now wife, do to several comments over the years that never added up. But I never voiced this to anyone or “snooped further” or anything, I just took what my husband said at value and let the thought of “is there more” lie quietly. I had no reason to believe that there was cheating because my husband told me several times about the divorce and that “wasn’t part of it”. However comments from his mom like once we were talking about a different family members divorce and I said “I just don’t get people who cheat just break up” and MIL replied “oh if you only knew”. Over the years she’s said several things like that “oh (OP) the things I could tell you” but she would never elaborate and I didn’t push it.

However, about a month ago one of my husbands cousins ( this cousin is more like a sister to my husband, his moms side of the family is VERY close so my MIL is like a second mother to this cousin) told me that my gut feeling was right, my father in law did cheat on my mother in law with my husbands now step mom. The only reason it came up was the cousin was talking to me about her own divorce in which her husband cheated and she camped it to my in laws divorce and said it as if I already knew. Then followed up with “the whole family knows exactly (husband) someone should just tell him at this point”

I feel very stressed knowing this information and not telling my husband but I don’t know if it’s the right thing to do. Apparently everyone knows except my husband. I feel as though his parents are amazing for putting him first and not letting this get in the middle of his childhood but they should have told him when he was 16 or 18.

My husband is now 28 and the only one who doesn’t know the real reason for his parents divorce. My husband has a wonderful relationship with his dad and admires him greatly I’m worried that telling my husband will shatter his world.

He is currently under a lot of stress at work and looking for a new job, I fell like if I tell him now while he’s already stesssed constantly it will make him spiral. Should I tell him later when work has calmed down or should I keep this to myself as it is clear all the parents have moved on

So the bottom line is, my gut reaction is to not tel him, I don’t want to tell him. But not telling him feels like I’m lying to him?

It's funny how all points of community discussion get flooded when a cast member makes a mistake, but there's near crickets when something positive comes of it.

I wanted to make a point to say, you're a good man for apologizing publically after getting grilled nonstop since the incident. We all get caught up in our thoughts and can misinterpret things in the moment, but most of us have the luxury of not having those moments broadcasted out into the universe. What you did was a great example to us all on how to resolve friction with our peers. Thank you.

You know how they say you don’t know that you’re in the good old days until they’re over? I think we are in the good old days with regards to H3. 3 high quality shows a week is just insane. They have not been missing recently. Be grateful for this moment as I think we’ll be looking back fondly on the 2023-2024 era of H3.