Q&As

I mentioned to my GF that I've never been within 10 feet of a cow and she said I was weird. Like what percentage of Earth's population has honestly been within 10 feet of a cow?

I have three kids, they are not old enough to be left alone at home. They are 10, 8 and 7. We had a babysitter but she is in college now and can’t do it.

I have a niece that is 16 and she has high functioning autism. My wife and I agreed to let her babysit when my sister asked. Easy way to have a babysitter and she gets pocket money to spend.

She babysat last week and she was late. We were able to get to our event but it was annoying. The whole night went well and the kids had a good time. I informed her she can not be late since we have places to be.

Today my wife and I had to get to a work function and we needed to be on time. She was suppose to babysit but when she was 20 minutes late I called her and told her not to come. I pulled a favor form my neighbor and we left.

I got a call from my sister pissed that I fired my niece and it’s not her fault she has time blindness. That my niece has been very upset about being fired and personally I think it’s a good life experiences. Better to figure it out now before she gets a job where you clock in.

My sister called me a jerk and my wife is thinking I may be too harsh even if she agrees that her being late is an issue.

I 25F am an electrician. I started my apprenticeship at 17 and was hired immediately by my sponsor after I received my license. The reason I chose a trade was that I grew up in a trailer with my mom and sister, and I have wanted to own a house since I can remember, and being in the trades gave me access to a stable job and access to more money sooner. My partner, 29F, Thea, is a plumber, and we have scrounged and saved. In the end we bought land and built a tiny house in the uptown area of our city. It has two bedrooms and one bathroom, one of the bedrooms is our reptile room, as I keep snakes and Thea keeps bearded dragons. We are child-free and happy in our home.

My Sister "Lucy" 34F, is a waitress and has three kids (M4, M3, M2). Her husband just left her for a woman my age and she is left without his income to raise all three kids on her own. Her husband bought out her half of the house during the divorce and that left her and the kids living with my mom in the trailer.

I can admit I didn't grow up in the safest of areas and was carrying a knife when I was a teenager because of the danger. Because of the safety issue, Lucy came to Thea and I and begged us to let her and her sons move in. She said we would have to get rid of our reptiles or keep them in our room, her sons could have the other bedroom, and she would sleep in our kitchen on an air mattress. She said nothing about paying us rent or helping around the house.

I told her no, because two toddlers and a little kid who is about to start kindergarten aren't suitable to be in our home and we don't want too many people in our house. She said that we live in a better part of town with better schools and that she needed the help. I told her we didn't have the room and that I was sorry, but I could hook her up with some journeymen I know and she could get started on an apprenticeship that pays better than her current job if she needed extra money.

She called my job and Thea's job "Dirty blue collar trash" and left our home. She posted about how we wouldn't let her stay online, and now my relatives are messaging me about, "How could I let a single mother and 3 kids be homeless," How "they're your blood," and "You owe your sister better than that." I feel like a complete asshole even though Thea told me I have every right not to want them in our house. AITA?

There is a whole lot of unnecessary back story I will leave out.

I rented my parent's house after they retired and moved south. I paid slightly below market rate. The plan was for me to save up and eventually buy the house at a great price. They would then give that money to my brother as his part of their estate. My share was the subsidized rent and the very subsidized purchase agreement.

Everyone thought this was fair. Until my brother's wife started running up debts they couldn't cover. This lead to them losing their home and needing help. I love my brother and my nephews so when my mom asked me if they could move in I talked to my husband and we agreed. We are in the process of adopting two siblings but we are still not there. It was only going to be temporary so why not.

Half off the rent for a few months would totally help us with the down payment and expenses. They moved in in February. When March rolled around I sent transferred half my usual rent to my parents. My mom called to ask me where the rest was. I said I assumed that Brad was paying the other half. Nope. I had to pay all the rent. I asked why I had to pay for them to stay in my house. My mom said it wasn't my house yet and that I was being mouthy.

I saw the writing on the wall. I paid the rent and started looking. We had a good amount saved up and we didn't need a big old house with lots of maintenance issues we had been handling.

We paid the full rent in April as well. But we moved out and into the house we closed on. It was ready for immediate possession. With my husband and I having decent income and 25% down it went smoothly. The only downside is the much smaller yard. But it is a block away from a public park so we aren't losing much.

I did tell my parents we were leaving. May first I got another call from my mom. She wanted the rent. I said I wasn't living there any more. She said I was breaking our deal. I said that our deal never included me paying for my brother's living expenses. She said that they couldn't afford to cover the mortgage without my rent. I told her to get money from my brother. He was still working. She said he was trying to pay his debts. I said that his wife should get a job.

I could write a much longer post just on this discussion.

Long story short she said I was being cheap and viscous to my brother and to my parents.

We are settling in to our newish house and just ignoring them for a while. But I'm wondering about if maybe I'm wrong.

AITA?

My girlfriend Lisa and I have been together for a while. I recently bought a red Plymouth Fury. I know what you might be thinking, but it's exactly why I'd wanted to get one.

Lisa has a severely autistic sister. She's Sasha. When I showed Lisa my car, she laughed and said "I hope it won't bring about danger. Sasha asked what we were talking about & Lisa mockingly said "It's an evil car, you just be careful around it."

Yesterday Sasha was visiting us. When she saw the car, she apparently thought it'd better to get rid of it or something. She sprayed it with paint and did other stuff. The end result is there were scratches, etc.

I got mad. Lisa said "Well, it's just an old car." I threatened to sue her family & she began to yell at me. I said "If you were my wife, I wouldn't sue family. But you are still my girlfriend."

The end result is her parents got to know about it & they paid me in the end. But Lisa's still mad at me, she said that I shouldn't have cared as it's an old car or whatever. Sasha is also really upset.

AITA?

I know I said that that would be my last update. It’s not really necessary for me to make another, but now I’m kind of using this as a form of journaling which I’ve found cathartic. The previous posts are all under my username.

I only had one run in with my ex since the last incident. He came to my house. I only spoke to him through the camera. He asked about getting his things. I told him that I had already got rid of everything as I had warned him, but that his kids had taken some things. I also told him he needed to leave and to not come back. Surprisingly he didn’t make a big fuss about it. He just said okay and that he was sorry for bothering me before he left, but he did look very tired so maybe that’s why.

I have not seen him since and apparently his ex and his kids haven’t heard from him in all this time either. This update had more to do with them than my ex actually. His ex contacted me to ask about him. She wanted to know if I had heard from him or had his new contact information. His phone is apparently no longer in service. I told her how I hadn’t had any contact with his since the aforementioned visit.

She also asked if she and I could meet up for coffee and talk. I declined because honestly I couldn’t think of a reason for us to meet up. Though I did offer to pass on any info about him if I heard anything.

She apparently wanted to talk to me about helping her pay for her eldest child’s (who is now a senior in highschool) education next year. She also subtly implied there was some fault on my part for their lacks of funds. I rather cowardly told her I would think about it and ended the call.

To be honest I feel like it’s an unfair position she’s putting me in. The main reason being that her children don’t seem to care for me. We got along alright while I was with their dad. However since I ended things with him it has been complete silence from them. I did try to reach out to them to see if they were okay. They never responded. Even when they came over to get their things they ignored me and my youngest. However I did get a message after the call with their mom about how she missed me. The timing though just makes it seem sort of like manipulation to get money out of me.

Edit. I have since blocked all of them.

I (19f) am missing a leg, and have a false one. I most often wear boots and baggy pants, so people don't tend to know that about me. Upon moving to a much hotter place for college, I've been putting more shorts into my wardrobe.

One woman asked me to cover up because I could be disturbing and triggering to some people. I told her to fuck off and asked around about her, and managed to get invited to a costume party she was going to. A put on a playboy bunny get-up. She got fairly upset and said I ruined something she had to cancel her things for. Was I immature?

Hi so I’ve been saving to put a down payment down on a house in Brooklyn . If been hard saving and skipping night outs etc but I’ve always wanted to have something in my name so that later in life it will pay off. I never usually tell my family about me making big decisions because in some way they always try to spin it to try to benefit them. I told my mom that I’m excited about a house I saw. It’s in Brooklyn but in the suburb of Brooklyn. The house needs some work: new driveway , paint , I def would redo the kitchen . I’ve always been handy and I can do most of this stuff myself or figure it out. I’ve fixed/ worked on my car by watching videos on YouTube so I would prob do the same with the house. But I wouldn’t mess with the plumbing or electrical work. It is a decent size house has 3 bedrooms 2 bathrooms and has a decent sized yard. I told my mom about it and she told my older brother. It’s him his wife and 3 kids they live about an hour and a half north. But he also works in the city like me. He called me and told me how our mother told him about the house . He does work as a electrician and said he could help if I needed . I thought owe wow that’s great. He has his own house up north as well. I’ve been approved for the loan and waiting on paperwork etc.

He just called me today and asked when is he and the kids are moving in because he has to ask off work to move things. I was so confused because I thought he was just messing with me . So I said wait what are you saying? He said that he offered to do electrical work in the house so he and his kids should be able to live there.

I explain to him in what world does he believe doing electrical work equates to him living in a house that Is mine? He started to go on about how having multiple kids is expensive and commuting everyday for work is costly. I simply said that is not my problem you are a adult . I hung up on him. My mom called me screaming saying why am I promising to let my brother stay in the house and now changing my mind. I never promised anything to him and it’s annoying that he is trying to manipulate the situation. I told my mom that he offered to do electrical work and now he is saying he is moving in. I told her he is not moving in and I’ll hire someone else to do the work. She started to tell me they are close to losing their house and need help and that I should because we are family. I asked her why is it that the people who are telling someone else too help, always the ones not offering help. (My mom telling me to help but she not offering for them to stay with her ) I said it’s not going to happen. Majority of my family have been calling me and saying I am disgraceful. It’s so annoying because I don’t want my brother on thes street with his family but what if I never got the house? They would’ve still been in the same predicament .. I refuse to help , it makes me not even want to buy the house .

I have a 6 year old autistic son. The other night before bed he began crying hysterically asking my wife for a robux gift card to give a kid at school. Upon further inquiry, it turns out this was an idea of our sons to give the other child the card as a means to get him to stop touching my son.

We launched an “investigation” with my son’s school to figure out what’s going on. We were assured that they were going to make sure the kids were permanently separated. They also assured us they’d be interviewing the people around them to get a better understanding of what was going on. We raised concerns that 1-2 weeks prior during our parent teacher conference that our son’s main room teacher had mentioned our son was sweet and a great child but he was easily influenced by other children. We raised this concern with the administrators of the investigation.

A month goes by and they’ve now questioned my son twice. A week later they release the “evidence” of their investigation for both of the families to review. In their “evidence” they have a transcript of a voice recording my wife and I made of our son telling us what happened, transcript of their first interview, the other child’s interview, and a 2nd interview with my son. A couple things discovered, the kid that did this to my 6 year old autistic son in kindergarten is a 5th grader. Absolutely nowhere does it show anything related to questioning anyone around my son and so on so forth. There are many more details involved that look like this is a “make sure our school can’t be held liable” rather than finding scrutinizing what happened and discipline/pursuing legal repercussions towards the other child. I called the police, met with an officer and provided him with a copy of the recording and haven’t heard anything. At this point I’m feeling like we’re getting covered up essentially. No ones using an ounce of their brain to handle this like it should be.

Do I need to get a lawyer involved? Are their legal assistance avenues for victims like my son? I don’t really have the financial means to hire a lawyer if there isn’t assistance but given the way this is unfolding, it absolutely feels like they’re doing their best to sweep it under the rug. They had the fucking audacity to ask my son if he knows “the power of no” and “how do you feel about (kids name)?” It’s fucking gross and my heart breaks for my son.

Edit: thread locked. Thank you everyone for your advice. Dealing with this is a struggle so having to digest it all little by little. I’ll respond to anyone I can when I can manage. I appreciate everything.

I (47F) was married for 21 years with 3 kids ( now 16F, 15M, and 13M) when my husband died from a stroke.

My husband was a great man who always tried his best- he always had his heart set on being an entrepreneur, but struggled with making tough business decisions. Two years before the stroke that killed him, he had had another stroke and that made him prone to impulsive decisions. He hired a friend lousy bookkeeper who gave him further bad advice.

My husband insisted I stop working when our youngest son (13M) was born. Before that, I had worked part time as a receptionist and then helped him with admin tasks, cosigned on business loans I didn't fully understand , was on a business bank account. I supported him through the lows of when one business failed and then he started another.

My youngest son " Marc" is severely autistic.

My husband died with a lot of debt and a lot of negligence in terms of bookkeeping and taxes. I tried parlaying my unique experience being the head admin of a household with an autistic kid to executive assistant roles, or school jobs, but besides a noon aid job the schools were not hiring.

My sister invited us all to stay with her and share household expenses but she told me a few months in that her 11 yo daughter is afraid of my 13 yo and my BIL started claiming my 13 yo's expenses were an excessive burden.

They were saying my 13yo needed to leave, which obviously translated to me having to leave, but I had $120 in my account at the time. They evicted us ( but it's only on my record) 4 months ago and my kids and I had to first live in a car and then a shelter.

My sister then calls my older kids behind my back and tells them that if they continue to keep their room clean as before and pull their weight around the house, they could move back in.

Then her and my kids exchange texts where they complain about how dealing with shelters and motels has affected their brother. My kids then tell me they want to move back to their aunt's house. I tell them she evicted me and by extension all of us, and if she doesn't want me or her brother there, then she doesn't want any of us because we are a unit.

Despite that, they continue to want to live with their aunt. I asked them what kind of mom would I be if I just gave my kids away to somebody else. And I didn't understand why they weren't angrier at their aunt and uncle for saying their younger brother was a burden and how them hurting him hurts me and them too.

I told them if they wanted to go they have arms and legs, but if they are making this decision know that their brother will feel like they are traitors and I feel betrayed too. AITA? They are still with me and I really as a mom feel it's unthinkable to just be separate from my young kids and still feel that I like to tell them a hard no, that they need to stay with me because we're a family even when times are a bit tough now.

I (M, 46) have been married to my wife, Heather (F, 45), for 18 years. We have two kids (16F and 14M). We work for the same company but in different departments. She works on a different floor of our building.
We recently hired a new employee, Sarah (F, 30). I helped her a lot with her training and even prepared a guide for her so she could catch up on the new role quickly. I told her she could drop by anytime if she had a question. She kept coming to my desk to chitchat. Even my coworker, Chris, who shares an office with me, noticed. I thought she was new and lonely, so not a big deal.
She asked me to go out for lunch with her. I laughed and joked, asking if Chris wanted to join us for lunch. Then Sarah looked at me and said no, she meant just us to talk, plus she wanted to buy me lunch because I had been so nice to her. Chris gave me a look. I told her she didn’t have to and that I was just doing my job. She insisted, and I agreed.

During lunch, she started rubbing my hand. I moved my hand and changed the topic to my wife, bringing her up repeatedly. She eventually said she found me attractive and wanted to be more than friends, suggesting we start with friends with benefits and see where it goes. She said she thought I wasn't happy in my marriage because I was having lunch with her and laughing, while she never saw me having lunch with my wife. I told her I was married and wanted to keep our friendship professional. She didn’t like my reply and became quiet. I apologized, but she said it was all good. I paid the bill for both of us since it was so awkward, and we went back to work.

I received a letter from HR telling me they needed to talk to me because Sarah filed a complaint. She said I had asked her out for lunch, been inappropriate and handsy, and even pressured her to have sex with me, but she left. I was floored. Luckily, my coworker Chris can confirm my side of the story. I immediately told my wife the whole thing, and she got furious at me. She said she believed Sarah's side because she stands by the victim. I told her Sarah was lying! Chris can confirm she invited me! Also, I wasn’t inappropriate; I didn’t touch her and turned her down. My wife rolled her eyes and said Sarah is a gorgeous woman much younger than me, implying I took advantage of her. I was so annoyed! I have always been faithful to her. How could she possibly think of me like this?

Luckily, the HR issue was resolved, and I just have to do some training. I asked to move to another team so I won’t be working with Sarah anymore. Am I the asshole for resenting my wife for not believing my side? For taking her side without any proof? I basically barely talked to my wife since the incident.

First she hated my husband. She thought he was “short” and pathetic and simp. By simp she meant he loved and respected me and didn’t play games. He was so confident in himself that he told me he liked me after the third date and when he proposed, he admitted that he was in love with from our first date. I am so in love with him and her “kidding” didn’t bother me. All I did and said is that I wished her to experience real love, only then she will understand why I am with him. That was on my wedding day when she again was kidding. My sister told her that her passive aggressiveness was showing and that she wasn’t fooling anyone. The rest of the girls laughed.

For two years now she has never spoken ill about him. I was very relieved in the beginning but then I started wondering. She is too nice to him. Always complimenting his looks. She usually doesn’t even hug hello (she says she’s autistic and can’t) but now, she hugs and kisses him hi. Always sits beside him. Texts him memes and she told me that they had the same humor (they don’t). I didn’t know what to do should I say something to any of them? My husband is oblivious and I don’t want to hurt her if I was being mistaken.

Two weeks ago she sent my husband a text saying that she was in love with him. He didn’t answer her so she sent him hello? He asked her to stop because he is very uncomfortable and doesn’t reciprocate her feelings and that l loved her so she shouldn’t do this again. A week later she sent him nudes.

At that my husband told me everything. He said he wasn’t sure at first but she made a move on him a month ago then he showed me the text. I was very angry and disappointed. He told me he was blocking her now.

So last Sunday I just confronted her when we were out for dinner. It was the same usual friend group. I blurred her nude but her face and sent everyone the screenshots of what she wrote to my husband. I asked her what she thought about that and she was livid.

So basically what’s in the title. She is so angry at me, calling me an abuser and an AH. But for me, if what she was doing wasn’t wrong then she wouldn’t be ashamed of me outing her would she?

I (34f) have been married to my husband for 4 years, together for 7.5 years and we have two children (2.5 and 5 months). My husband was married before we met. He and his ex-wife separated during her pregnancy with their daughter (13) and divorced after she turned 1.

To my stepdaughter I am dad's wife. I'm okay with that. We get along fine, mostly. She does struggle to be left with me in charge. My husband knows this. We have discussed this at length. We have worked together to figure out solutions. We even talked with his ex, who is okay with me being around her daughter (I know some aren't) but did not like the idea of her daughter being with me if she could be with her (they don't have a right of first refusal and didn't get it added after this discussion). And generally didn't love that I would be in a parent role if alone with her kid. She has a very big dislike of the idea of stepparents becoming just parents and she has never wanted her daughter to view me as any kind of mother figure. So discussions were had and agreements were made.

Onto our issue: My husband always has a very busy period of work in June/July and he's basically just home to sleep and nothing else. In June his ex is having surgery and will be out of commission and in the hospital for some time. The ex's surgery was not mentioned to me at all. But Saturday night while we were at my ILs house, my husband started venting about his ex's surgery and her not wanting their daughter to be in my care all day and his daughter not wanting to have me in charge of her that much, and how he told them I would be doing it and nothing they said or did would change this.

He was pissed at his ex and his daughter a little for having such a dislike for me being in charge even though we get along fine. I asked him when all this happened and he said it had been a few days. He told me she would be with "us" from June 6th until July 4th and possibly longer. That he was already told he will need to work most Saturdays in June and July. So he told me I'd need to figure out how to best deal with that. I asked him why he sprung this on me in front of his family instead of discussing it privately. He waved me off and said he knew I wouldn't say no because I love my stepdaughter and I understand that she needs to be with an adult. He saw an expression on my face and told me I couldn't be pissed about it when I know my stepdaughter is still a kid. I told him I wasn't pissed at her. I was pissed at him. He told me he can't help his ex and his daughter being somewhat unreasonable. MIL chimed in and offered to take my stepdaughter during the daytime for June. He told her I would handle it, she should be with "us". This is when I accused him of treating me like the hired help and not his wife because he wasn't discussing it with me and was making decision for me without asking or discussing things through.

It was afterward he told me I shouldn't speak to him like that in front of his family.

AITA?

AITA for telling my pregnant wife that people might not think she’s pregnant?

My wife of 8 years is 4 months pregnant and we’re currently on a beautiful beach vacation.

She’s always been a naturally thin woman and prior to getting pregnant, lead Pilates and yoga classes. She’s the kind of person who takes a ton of pride in their physical health.

A few days before this trip, she wanted me to go swimsuit shopping. I obliged and we went to a few different stores. Every shopping trip ended in her crying in the dressing room because she hates the way her body looks. She can’t fucking get over the fact she has a belly now and things “don’t fit the same”. I think she looks incredible and I was extremely patient the entire swimsuit shopping fiasco. She kept calling herself fat and being pretty over dramatic about everything. Finally, she settled on something. I kept assuring her over and over that I think she looks incredible (she does).

Fast forward and this morning we decided to make a trip down to the pool. I’m getting our son ready and she comes out in her new swimsuit. I tell her she looks cute and I loved it. Couldn’t take my eyes off of her. Then I said something that had the same reaction as if I spread my ass cheeks apart and took a shit on a 5 star restaurant table. I said “honestly babe, people might not even think you’re pregnant”. She looked stunned and horrified. She asked “you don’t think people will know I’m pregnant? My stomach is huge”.

And she’s right, it’s a decent size compared to her pre-pregnancy body. But people have stomachs that are that size without being pregnant. And that’s all I was trying to say.

Immediate tears. Immediately freaking out and changed into clothes and is now refusing to come down to the pool. She said she doesn’t want people to think she has a big belly, she wants people to think she’s pregnant. I told her I can’t control what people think? And that people might not realize she’s pregnant? I started to get really pissed off because I personally have a bit of a belly and she’s making it seem like it’s so insulting to have that.

I genuinely don’t understand the big deal. I think she’s being ridiculous. SHE CARES TOO MUCH ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK and is now ruining our trip by staying inside and not making memories with her son. Instead she’s crying in a hotel room, throwing it in my face that she paid for “everything” for this trip and I ruined it for her. I love her more than anything and find her fucking sexy as hell, pregnancy or not. But this is getting out of hand and I’m fed up with all this talk about her feeling insecure when she still looks perfectly fine.

ETA: Many people suggesting she has body dysmorphia, eating issues, etc. While I understand that it comes across that way from this post, it couldn’t be further from the truth. I’ve known my wife for 15 years. She has never displayed eating issues or body image issues. She simply takes pride in being healthy and has worked hard to be fit. She get a kick out of sculpting her body and I think being pregnant makes her “lose control” of that ability.

Since finding out she’s pregnant, she’s taken a step back from working out. If she was continuing to work out more or skimping on meals, I’d be concerned. But I think she’s not used to seeing a “bigger” version of herself in the mirror and having trouble finding clothes that fit her.

Thank you everyone for the input. I apologized to her and explained where I was coming from. I was trying to downplay her belly size which was a huge mistake because honestly, she’s pretty big lol and very much knows it. Thanks again everyone. We’re off to enjoy our vacation now.

Last edit because this has gained more traction than I anticipated. People are jumping to the conclusion that she has an eating disorder because she doesn’t want to be perceived as fat. Not wanting to look fat doesn’t mean you automatically have a mental health issue or eating disorder. I looked into eating disorders mentioned and she doesn’t fit the bill for any of them. But it was worth looking into, just in case.

She didn’t want to come down to the pool because she was crying. Again, she’s pregnant. Hormones. I could have been more sensitive. We kissed and made up. She rocked the bump the rest of the day. Again, thanks to everyone who offered different perspectives.

Adios yall!

I [25m] have a child named Aimie [1f] with my fiancee Jess [24f]. We live together in one of the safest cities in the United States.

About four months ago, Jess and I were walking home at night with Aimie sleeping in her stroller. It was a suburban road that we've walked down hundreds of times. Suddenly, we heard several loud banging noises from around the corner. My first instinct was to check out where they came from, and so I jogged a couple of steps forward to peek and see what was going on. As it turns out, two teens were hitting the window of an SUV with a baseball bat. I watched them run away, get into a car, and peel out.

I turned around to see Jess, but she wasn't there. I looked back the way we came to see her about 50 yards away, running like her life depended on it. I called out to her a few times but she was obviously scared out of her mind and didn't hear me. A few minutes later I called her on her phone, and she picked up. I explained that it was just a couple of dumb kids with a baseball bat.

Jess sheepishly walked up a few minutes later and I couldn't help but laugh at her. She said that she grew up in a rough neighborhood (she did not) and mistook the sound for gunshots. I actually did grow up in a bad neighborhood and told her they sounded nothing like gunshots.

But what really stuck with me was her first instinct in an emergency was to abandon a 9-month-old baby and her fiance to fend for themselves as she protected her own hide.

Well, last night we were watching a documentary together, and there was a scene with a woman who was frozen in terror during an animal attack. Jess scoffed and said that if it were her, she would have fought back, especially if Aimie were with her. I looked at her for a few seconds and then said, "Yeah ... you don't really know what you'd do." Jess insisted that she would have fought tooth and nail against any threat against our daughter, to which I responded "Even a couple of kids breaking a car window with a baseball bat? Let's call it for what it is: you're kind of useless in an emergency."

Jess stood up, called me a dickhead, and walked away. It felt really shitty because she was victim-blaming the woman in the documentary when she showed herself to be a coward of comic proportions.

Were my words too harsh?

Im a student so i haven’t experienced that yet, i just think its morally wrong for society to normalize working so much just for people to barely be able to see family or friends Not to mention the physical or mental toll it takes on you

I just want to know if anyone who works that much is doing ok and how do you cope?

I (19f) at an impasse with my parents (46m, 44f) regarding rent for the house where we all live.

Background: when I was in the early high school my grandmother unfortunately passed away. In her will, she left half of her house to my mother and half to me, she had no other relatives. My whole family moved to grandmother's house, and we've been living there ever since.

When I finished high school, I enrolled into a local college, and honestly it didn't make much sense to move on campus as living home allowed me to save money. So I continued to live home. Grandma's money also helped cover my tuition, and I have a YouTube channel that generates some income, so I can cover my living expenses and have some left. However, my parents are not happy that I continue to live at home and yet refuse to obey their "home" rules, like curfew, or how much time I spend playing videogames (even though videogames actually generate my income), or that I don't come upstairs to join them for the meals, and instead cook my own in the kitchenette downstairs.

So they tried to pull the "our home, our rules, either you pay rent or get out" spiel, and I pointed out that it's as much MY house as it's my mother's, and whatever rent they charge me, I can charge my father as he isn't on the house deed. I don't mind contributing towards groceries, utilities, and house taxes, but they can't charge me rent for living in a house that I legally own, nor can they kick me out, I am not a kid anymore and I am not a tenant. They are pissed that I dared to throw "my house, my rules" into their faces. AITA?

UPDATE: All the replies made me realize that my parents might think I am paying for the occurring expenses with inheritance, not with my streaming income, and they might not understand how much I am actually making playing video games. I'll show them the printouts for the last three months, and see what happens. Wish me luck!)