Q&As

I 25F am an electrician. I started my apprenticeship at 17 and was hired immediately by my sponsor after I received my license. The reason I chose a trade was that I grew up in a trailer with my mom and sister, and I have wanted to own a house since I can remember, and being in the trades gave me access to a stable job and access to more money sooner. My partner, 29F, Thea, is a plumber, and we have scrounged and saved. In the end we bought land and built a tiny house in the uptown area of our city. It has two bedrooms and one bathroom, one of the bedrooms is our reptile room, as I keep snakes and Thea keeps bearded dragons. We are child-free and happy in our home.

My Sister "Lucy" 34F, is a waitress and has three kids (M4, M3, M2). Her husband just left her for a woman my age and she is left without his income to raise all three kids on her own. Her husband bought out her half of the house during the divorce and that left her and the kids living with my mom in the trailer.

I can admit I didn't grow up in the safest of areas and was carrying a knife when I was a teenager because of the danger. Because of the safety issue, Lucy came to Thea and I and begged us to let her and her sons move in. She said we would have to get rid of our reptiles or keep them in our room, her sons could have the other bedroom, and she would sleep in our kitchen on an air mattress. She said nothing about paying us rent or helping around the house.

I told her no, because two toddlers and a little kid who is about to start kindergarten aren't suitable to be in our home and we don't want too many people in our house. She said that we live in a better part of town with better schools and that she needed the help. I told her we didn't have the room and that I was sorry, but I could hook her up with some journeymen I know and she could get started on an apprenticeship that pays better than her current job if she needed extra money.

She called my job and Thea's job "Dirty blue collar trash" and left our home. She posted about how we wouldn't let her stay online, and now my relatives are messaging me about, "How could I let a single mother and 3 kids be homeless," How "they're your blood," and "You owe your sister better than that." I feel like a complete asshole even though Thea told me I have every right not to want them in our house. AITA?

I (M, 46) have been married to my wife, Heather (F, 45), for 18 years. We have two kids (16F and 14M). We work for the same company but in different departments. She works on a different floor of our building. We recently hired a new employee, Sarah (F, 30). I helped her a lot with her training and even prepared a guide for her so she could catch up on the new role quickly. I told her she could drop by anytime if she had a question. She kept coming to my desk to chitchat. Even my coworker, Chris, who shares an office with me, noticed. I thought she was new and lonely, so not a big deal. She asked me to go out for lunch with her. I laughed and joked, asking if Chris wanted to join us for lunch. Then Sarah looked at me and said no, she meant just us to talk, plus she wanted to buy me lunch because I had been so nice to her. Chris gave me a look. I told her she didn’t have to and that I was just doing my job. She insisted, and I agreed. During lunch, she started rubbing my hand. I moved my hand and changed the topic to my wife, bringing her up repeatedly. She eventually said she found me attractive and wanted to be more than friends, suggesting we start with friends with benefits and see where it goes. She said she thought I wasn't happy in my marriage because I was having lunch with her and laughing, while she never saw me having lunch with my wife. I told her I was married and wanted to keep our friendship professional. She didn’t like my reply and became quiet. I apologized, but she said it was all good. I paid the bill for both of us since it was so awkward, and we went back to work. I received a letter from HR telling me they needed to talk to me because Sarah filed a complaint. She said I had asked her out for lunch, been inappropriate and handsy, and even pressured her to have sex with me, but she left. I was floored. Luckily, my coworker Chris can confirm my side of the story. I immediately told my wife the whole thing, and she got furious at me. She said she believed Sarah's side because she stands by the victim. I told her Sarah was lying! Chris can confirm she invited me! Also, I wasn’t inappropriate; I didn’t touch her and turned her down. My wife rolled her eyes and said Sarah is a gorgeous woman much younger than me, implying I took advantage of her. I was so annoyed! I have always been faithful to her. How could she possibly think of me like this? Luckily, the HR issue was resolved, and I just have to do some training. I asked to move to another team so I won’t be working with Sarah anymore. Am I the asshole for resenting my wife for not believing my side? For taking her side without any proof? I basically barely talked to my wife since the incident.

I [25m] have a child named Aimie [1f] with my fiancee Jess [24f]. We live together in one of the safest cities in the United States.

About four months ago, Jess and I were walking home at night with Aimie sleeping in her stroller. It was a suburban road that we've walked down hundreds of times. Suddenly, we heard several loud banging noises from around the corner. My first instinct was to check out where they came from, and so I jogged a couple of steps forward to peek and see what was going on. As it turns out, two teens were hitting the window of an SUV with a baseball bat. I watched them run away, get into a car, and peel out.

I turned around to see Jess, but she wasn't there. I looked back the way we came to see her about 50 yards away, running like her life depended on it. I called out to her a few times but she was obviously scared out of her mind and didn't hear me. A few minutes later I called her on her phone, and she picked up. I explained that it was just a couple of dumb kids with a baseball bat.

Jess sheepishly walked up a few minutes later and I couldn't help but laugh at her. She said that she grew up in a rough neighborhood (she did not) and mistook the sound for gunshots. I actually did grow up in a bad neighborhood and told her they sounded nothing like gunshots.

But what really stuck with me was her first instinct in an emergency was to abandon a 9-month-old baby and her fiance to fend for themselves as she protected her own hide.

Well, last night we were watching a documentary together, and there was a scene with a woman who was frozen in terror during an animal attack. Jess scoffed and said that if it were her, she would have fought back, especially if Aimie were with her. I looked at her for a few seconds and then said, "Yeah ... you don't really know what you'd do." Jess insisted that she would have fought tooth and nail against any threat against our daughter, to which I responded "Even a couple of kids breaking a car window with a baseball bat? Let's call it for what it is: you're kind of useless in an emergency."

Jess stood up, called me a dickhead, and walked away. It felt really shitty because she was victim-blaming the woman in the documentary when she showed herself to be a coward of comic proportions.

Were my words too harsh?

I (19f) am missing a leg, and have a false one. I most often wear boots and baggy pants, so people don't tend to know that about me. Upon moving to a much hotter place for college, I've been putting more shorts into my wardrobe.

One woman asked me to cover up because I could be disturbing and triggering to some people. I told her to fuck off and asked around about her, and managed to get invited to a costume party she was going to. A put on a playboy bunny get-up. She got fairly upset and said I ruined something she had to cancel her things for. Was I immature?

I (34f) have been married to my husband for 4 years, together for 7.5 years and we have two children (2.5 and 5 months). My husband was married before we met. He and his ex-wife separated during her pregnancy with their daughter (13) and divorced after she turned 1.

To my stepdaughter I am dad's wife. I'm okay with that. We get along fine, mostly. She does struggle to be left with me in charge. My husband knows this. We have discussed this at length. We have worked together to figure out solutions. We even talked with his ex, who is okay with me being around her daughter (I know some aren't) but did not like the idea of her daughter being with me if she could be with her (they don't have a right of first refusal and didn't get it added after this discussion). And generally didn't love that I would be in a parent role if alone with her kid. She has a very big dislike of the idea of stepparents becoming just parents and she has never wanted her daughter to view me as any kind of mother figure. So discussions were had and agreements were made.

Onto our issue: My husband always has a very busy period of work in June/July and he's basically just home to sleep and nothing else. In June his ex is having surgery and will be out of commission and in the hospital for some time. The ex's surgery was not mentioned to me at all. But Saturday night while we were at my ILs house, my husband started venting about his ex's surgery and her not wanting their daughter to be in my care all day and his daughter not wanting to have me in charge of her that much, and how he told them I would be doing it and nothing they said or did would change this.

He was pissed at his ex and his daughter a little for having such a dislike for me being in charge even though we get along fine. I asked him when all this happened and he said it had been a few days. He told me she would be with "us" from June 6th until July 4th and possibly longer. That he was already told he will need to work most Saturdays in June and July. So he told me I'd need to figure out how to best deal with that. I asked him why he sprung this on me in front of his family instead of discussing it privately. He waved me off and said he knew I wouldn't say no because I love my stepdaughter and I understand that she needs to be with an adult. He saw an expression on my face and told me I couldn't be pissed about it when I know my stepdaughter is still a kid. I told him I wasn't pissed at her. I was pissed at him. He told me he can't help his ex and his daughter being somewhat unreasonable. MIL chimed in and offered to take my stepdaughter during the daytime for June. He told her I would handle it, she should be with "us". This is when I accused him of treating me like the hired help and not his wife because he wasn't discussing it with me and was making decision for me without asking or discussing things through.

It was afterward he told me I shouldn't speak to him like that in front of his family.

AITA?

My parents marriage ended 5 years ago when my mom found out my dad was cheating on her and got the other woman pregnant. Dad didn't want his cheating to end the marriage and he offered not to be in the baby's life if mom would stay or he offered to find a way for them to raise the baby together. Dad tried to rope my siblings (17m and 15f) and I (18f) into his little shitshow and was disappointed when we all said no. I stopped seeing dad after that because I told the courts I wanted my mom to have custody, my siblings saw dad for a couple of years before they could declare a lack of interest in going and the courts listened. In that time dad had moved in with the affair partner but tried to use my siblings to get mom and him back together. They didn't want that to happen and mom was furious at him for using the kids. His youngest daughter was born around that time. I never met her but my siblings did, though they never formed a relationship with her.

Dad's affair partner left and hasn't been a part of his daughter's life since.

Dad died 14 weeks ago. His daughter went to live with my paternal grandparents who we don't really see because they were angry at mom for the divorce and they felt we were too hard on dad, who didn't just cheat but tried to use his kids to keep his marriage together. Like a week after my dad's death my paternal grandparents reached out to mom and asked her to raise dad's daughter as her own. My mom said no and that should have been the end but it wasn't and it is boarding on harassment now but it isn't there yet according to the officer and lawyer mom spoke to.

My paternal grandparents went on a character assassination of mom and told her that if she doesn't take their granddaughter this poor little girl will grow up with no parents and no siblings because clearly we have no intention of being there for her. They told mom their granddaughter should be part of our (mine and siblings) family and life and we should be part of hers. Mom said that she wasn't going to force us and she told them it did not mean she would raise her late ex-husband's child from his affair. They called my mom selfish, heartless, evil, spawn of the devil and all kinds of insults. Which has been going on for weeks. My mom has blocked them but they always find another way to contact her.

I reached the end of my rope when they started publicly talking about my mom letting her children's half siblings go into foster care and how heartless she was because she told everyone we wanted her with us. I confronted them and told them to fuck right off and stop trying to make mom responsible for their cheating son's kid. I said he was a terrible person and mom did not have to do a thing for his child and they had zero right to harass her to take responsibility.

They were so offended and angry and told me I had no right to be so disrespectful to them.

AITA?

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My parents did not have a favourite child growing up. I now 24F, up until two years back was in a relationship with a guy I met in college. I introduced him to my family 2 years back and my parents did not really like him because of our cultural differences but we're not rude to him. Though my sisters, now 22F and 11F enjoyed his company and welcomed him as a part of our family which made me overjoyed. For context, this guy and me worked in a different city and had been there for just 2 days and we did not live together because I come from a culture that sees it as a sin and we could not get a place together before we are married. After the meeting with my family, we left within 2 days. Three months after this meeting, I was at my boyfriend's place and while he was in the washroom there was a notification on his phone. Normally I don't look through his phone but that day I don't know what happened and I did. It was my sister's message. I went through their chats and it was full of sexual and flirty texts. I took a screenshot of all of that, sent it to my phone and left without saying a word. Before I reached my apartment my phone was blowing up with his calls and messages because I did not care to delete the pictures. I told him to fuck off, sent it to our friends group chat (we had the same friend group in college) and blocked him. More than his betrayal I was broken and hurt because of my sister's betrayal. We had been present for each other because of being so close in age and our parents being absent and neglectful. The very next day I flew off to my parents place, she lived with our parents. I confronted her in front of our family and she admitted all of it without an ounce of shame and hesitation. My mother slapped her and dad was very very angry at her. I was no longer angry, just hurt and I felt completely broken. Dad gave her a week to move out but two days later she came in to say that she was pregnant with my ex's child and this made my parents to soften up to her. I said a lot of harsh words to them and they told me that no matter what, they won't abandon her. I left and told them never to contact me ever again. I just kept in touch with my youngest sister because she's a kid and I was worried about her. I blocked my entire family except her. 2 weeks after all this fiasco I received the wedding invitation from my mother who had got a new number just to talk to me. Honestly I was not shocked about the wedding because my parents are very image conscious and here having a child out of wedlock is the biggest sin. She called me to say that I have to attend this wedding for the sake of our family as 'what will people say if I don't '. She went on to say that even I have to get married before my sister's child comes into this world because I am older than her. I told her to get lost and blocked this new number of hers. As expected, their wedding happened and my parents told all the relatives that I wasn't there because I had work commitments. Some relatives and a few cousins I am close to, reached out to me asking why I wasn't there. Most of them were genuinely concerned while others were blaming me for not being there for the family and being selfish. Now this is a bit out of character for me but I went to Facebook and made a post detailing what had happened. Within a few hours my phone was blowing up but I ignored it and eventually it stopped. I just talked to a cousin and she was on my side and I was sure now most of my extended family knows what happened.

Now coming to the present, my dad passed away 5 days back and though he was not the best person out there, he was my dad. My mom did not even care to tell me and it was my baby sister who called me crying.

I booked the first flight available and went to their place. My sister and mother just after seeing me, went ahead cursing me and saying that I had no right to be there after abandoning them and I was just there for the money and most of the elder relatives agreed.

My dad had a will and I am surprised knowing that he has me in the will. Infact I have the most share in all his assets combined it goes like, Me 40%, my youngest sister 30%, my mom 20% and my douchebag of a sister 10%.

My scumbag sister and her husband want me to give up my share and threatened to sue me if I don't do that. I know they cannot do anything legally.

Now honestly even I feel that this is just too twisted and my dad would have given a much more portion because she has an year old son and he had taken her side during all that fiasco. But there is no way I am giving them anything after what they did to me. We have a meeting with my dad's lawyer in a few hours and then maybe things will be more clear.

Edit:

I am on my way back to the hotel. I did not think this post would blow up. Thank you to everyone who sent kind words.So I had a meeting with my dad's lawyer and now some of my questions have been answered. The lawyer is also my father's really close friend.

My dad absolutely regretted what has happened to me but he couldn't go against the cultural norms and my mother. He never supported my sister, it was always my mother but he did not interfere. He was guilty and when I had cut off all contact, there had been an instance when he had called out my sister and her husband calling them selfish and cheaters. This happened in the absence of my youngest sister so I never knew of this. He constantly checked upon me through my sister but never had the courage to contact me. He had been suffering from heart disease for a long time and he had a sudden heart attack. He left my sister money so that she could not easily challenge the court and also for her kid (I doubt she will save up anything for her son with her extravagant lifestyle). My mother has been a stay at home mom all her life so this is a sort of her retirement money which he felt he owed her. The house has always been in my mom's name so I have been living in the hotel. My youngest sister has a fund of a really good amount which she will receive when she turns 18 and nobody can access it before that, not even my mom to which i am thankful. I have the same amount as her with all his shares because my father was a very active investor. This is what the lawyer told me.

Now to the person who called me greedy and i am just as bad as my sister- I ain't. I did not know of the will when i came here. Honestly I had expected that there would be nothing for me seeing our past. I have never hated my parents. Not even my mom even after what she did, let alone my dad. I was just disappointed in them but they are my parents no matter what. I was grief stricken when I heard of his death.

I am already in contact with a lawyer friend of mine and he has assured me that there's not much she can do because she is a part of the will and has not been ignored completely. She will probably lose whatever she has if she does.

My sister got pregnant because my boyfriend flew every weekend to the place where my parents live and it is merely a 2hr flight. I did not know because his job requires him to travel all the time. I do not know the details though because I don't want to find out.

I also asked if there's any way I can get the custody of my youngest sister because my mom and sister can mistreat her but as of now, I can't because there's nothing they have done of that sort. My sister has assured me that she will not take any bullshit from them and will immediately inform me. At the end of the meeting the dumbass husband of my sister threatened me saying, "you will regret doing this" and i replied with a, "once a cheater, always a cheater". My mother called me names and her words are the only thing that hurts me nowadays.

I highly doubt they will stop here though. I am here in the town for the next 10 days. Hopefully everything goes well. I will update if something happens.

To everyone saying this is fake, it isn't and ik this is a bit too unbelievable, but this is not fake.

My wife and I have a 16 year old daughter who just cleared a highly competitive exam. Now, we are extremely proud of her and my wife sort of “brags” about this in her circle of friends which is fair I guess. No big deal. However we do have a couple in a different social circle whose son (16M) couldn’t clear this exam and my wife knows.

According to social etiquette and in general you’re not supposed to push your achievements in faces of those who failed, and naturally, any discussions around this exam is a sore spot for them. However this didn’t stop my wife from asking the mom what rank the boy got, how our daughter is undergoing university counselling to decide which college to go to and stuff like that. I could tell the mom was getting uncomfortable and I nudged my wife to stop but she didn’t.

When we came home I berated her for how she acted and reminded her we already talked about this so why did she deliberately try to make the couple feel bad about this exam. She tried to plead plausible deniability but I set the record straight and said if she ran her mouth again like that I’ll call her out in front of everyone and embarrass her.

She started crying and told me I was awful for how I spoke and the words I used. I don’t normally talk to anyone like that but her persistent behaviour has put me off now as it’s not the first time a thing like this happened. I told her I’m sorry if my words hurt her feelings but she deserves to be called out if she decides to continue acting like this.

I felt justified in giving her an ultimatum/warning because this has been the last straw for me and I’m tired of having endless conversations with her. This was the only way to get through to her

I have a 6 year old autistic son. The other night before bed he began crying hysterically asking my wife for a robux gift card to give a kid at school. Upon further inquiry, it turns out this was an idea of our sons to give the other child the card as a means to get him to stop touching my son.

We launched an “investigation” with my son’s school to figure out what’s going on. We were assured that they were going to make sure the kids were permanently separated. They also assured us they’d be interviewing the people around them to get a better understanding of what was going on. We raised concerns that 1-2 weeks prior during our parent teacher conference that our son’s main room teacher had mentioned our son was sweet and a great child but he was easily influenced by other children. We raised this concern with the administrators of the investigation.

A month goes by and they’ve now questioned my son twice. A week later they release the “evidence” of their investigation for both of the families to review. In their “evidence” they have a transcript of a voice recording my wife and I made of our son telling us what happened, transcript of their first interview, the other child’s interview, and a 2nd interview with my son. A couple things discovered, the kid that did this to my 6 year old autistic son in kindergarten is a 5th grader. Absolutely nowhere does it show anything related to questioning anyone around my son and so on so forth. There are many more details involved that look like this is a “make sure our school can’t be held liable” rather than finding scrutinizing what happened and discipline/pursuing legal repercussions towards the other child. I called the police, met with an officer and provided him with a copy of the recording and haven’t heard anything. At this point I’m feeling like we’re getting covered up essentially. No ones using an ounce of their brain to handle this like it should be.

Do I need to get a lawyer involved? Are their legal assistance avenues for victims like my son? I don’t really have the financial means to hire a lawyer if there isn’t assistance but given the way this is unfolding, it absolutely feels like they’re doing their best to sweep it under the rug. They had the fucking audacity to ask my son if he knows “the power of no” and “how do you feel about (kids name)?” It’s fucking gross and my heart breaks for my son.

Im a student so i haven’t experienced that yet, i just think its morally wrong for society to normalize working so much just for people to barely be able to see family or friends Not to mention the physical or mental toll it takes on you

I just want to know if anyone who works that much is doing ok and how do you cope?

There is a whole lot of unnecessary back story I will leave out.

I rented my parent's house after they retired and moved south. I paid slightly below market rate. The plan was for me to save up and eventually buy the house at a great price. They would then give that money to my brother as his part of their estate. My share was the subsidized rent and the very subsidized purchase agreement.

Everyone thought this was fair. Until my brother's wife started running up debts they couldn't cover. This lead to them losing their home and needing help. I love my brother and my nephews so when my mom asked me if they could move in I talked to my husband and we agreed. We are in the process of adopting two siblings but we are still not there. It was only going to be temporary so why not.

Half off the rent for a few months would totally help us with the down payment and expenses. They moved in in February. When March rolled around I sent transferred half my usual rent to my parents. My mom called to ask me where the rest was. I said I assumed that Brad was paying the other half. Nope. I had to pay all the rent. I asked why I had to pay for them to stay in my house. My mom said it wasn't my house yet and that I was being mouthy.

I saw the writing on the wall. I paid the rent and started looking. We had a good amount saved up and we didn't need a big old house with lots of maintenance issues we had been handling.

We paid the full rent in April as well. But we moved out and into the house we closed on. It was ready for immediate possession. With my husband and I having decent income and 25% down it went smoothly. The only downside is the much smaller yard. But it is a block away from a public park so we aren't losing much.

I did tell my parents we were leaving. May first I got another call from my mom. She wanted the rent. I said I wasn't living there any more. She said I was breaking our deal. I said that our deal never included me paying for my brother's living expenses. She said that they couldn't afford to cover the mortgage without my rent. I told her to get money from my brother. He was still working. She said he was trying to pay his debts. I said that his wife should get a job.

I could write a much longer post just on this discussion.

Long story short she said I was being cheap and viscous to my brother and to my parents.

We are settling in to our newish house and just ignoring them for a while. But I'm wondering about if maybe I'm wrong.

AITA?

I 30 f have an 11 year old so with my ex husband 42 m . My husband and I had struggled a lot when my son was first born up until me and my ex had divorced when my son was 5. Me and my husband kept it civil , didn’t even go to court for child support or visitation we simply did a 50/50 and have an expense fund for our son that we use to split all the expenses 50/50 between us . My husbands wife knows about our fund account and thought it was an awesome idea and even started to do the same with her daughters father . We all get along fairly well. Around 3 years ago I had landed an awesome job and now earn enough to live extremely comfortable. Within these 3 years I paid off my entire home , my student loans , and even added 50 thousand dollars to my son’s college fund and will continue to add to his fund either the thought that if he doesn’t want to go to college he can buy his first home with the money. Last weekend I had a BBQ at my home where my ex husband and his wife complimented me on all the new home improvements I did to my home . They asked me if it was a good idea since I don’t own the home, I quickly said I own the home paid in full . In a joking manner they said prove it so i showed them all the paperwork for my home and my sons college fund. My ex husband looked at me as if i dropped a bomb right on his front lawn and asked where did all the money come from . I told them about my job and his wife looked sad and they excused themselves. Later I had gotten a call from his wife saying “flaunting my wealth in their faces knowing they are struggling hurts them “ she went on to say that my son will not be treated the same if his sister knew that his future is basically handed to him and she’ll have to work all her life for the same luxury and opportunities as her brother . I reminded her that our kids are only siblings my marriage and it’s something that just comes with having a blended family not everything is fair. She went on to say I should at least spit the fund in half or help pay for their mortgage on their home. I had told her I could do so but I’m not going to all things considering I’m not obligated to help anyone but my son financially especially a child I have no claim to . My son came to me saying my ex husband demanded he splits the fund once he turns 18 with his step sister .my son said he doesn’t want his fund split and I reassured him that it wasn’t going to be . Ever since then my ex husbands family has been going out their way to contact me in regards to my money ive helped his brother with a few hundred dollars because he needed a new water heater but thats all i told my ex husband to stop mentioning my money to his family and he said if i cant help his daughter the least i could do is help his family out. i said no and restricted our contact to email. his wife is still calling and his family has recently asked me to help out w my ex nieces wedding plans which i said no too. i loved my ex niece but shes no longer my niece sadly so i cant. so am i the ass hole

Ever since I gave birth 4 months ago (so I have 4 kids total), my MIL has been showing up whenever she wants and when she's here, she always helps herself to whatever she wants. She has never offered to help me or the baby in any way, shape or form. She's basically here to see her son and that's it. Like, about 3 weeks ago I made a small pot of coffee (enough for 2 cups). I went to go nurse the baby while waiting and at some point my MIL shows up, let's herself inside. When I came out, she had drank the entire pot. I had no coffee grounds left. Or she's eaten my leftovers straight out of the fridge multiple times. And she's always like "thanks for the food/coffee!" As if I offered it to her when I absolutely didn't because all she's doing is making my life miserable. I told my husband to speak to her about it and he told me he did but I truly don't think so. I spoke up the last time she was here (3 weeks ago) and told her she needed to stop helping herself because she's eating and drinking stuff that I wanted and/or made for myself. She said "oh I'm sorry" and then stopped coming around for awhile.

Well, today I made 4 homemade pizzas. I told the kids to come help themselves to dinner and that I had to go get the baby down for a nap real quick and would be right back. Well, it took me like 45 minutes because the baby is fussy (she just had shots). I come back out and ALL the pizza was gone and my MIL and husband are sitting there chowing away. I just said "are you fucking kidding me right now?" My husband asked what was going on and I said "you guys couldn't have even left me a fucking slice? Sure, let's feed the fucking neighborhood before I even get to eat. That's so awesome of you guys! Thanks!" And start to walk off. My oldest son (13) comes in and he's like "mum I left you out a plate. I put it right on the counter" and walks over to grab it and low and behold, that's gone too. MIL said "I thought it was leftover from dinner". So my son's apologizing to me even though he did nothing wrong but my MIL and husband just stand there? They literally aren't saying anything. So I looked at both of them and said "you both need to leave, now". My husband then decides to speak, saying that it was an "honest mistake" and that "no one meant any harm" and said I was making a mound out of a mole hill, which honestly just pissed me off further, so I snapped again and said "yeah except every time your fucking mother comes here, I end up going without because she eats or drinks my portion of everything. But sure, let's defend someone taking food out of my mouth, shall we?" His mother just storms out of the house and my husband looks at me like I'm insane, so I say "quick, chase her" and walk out.

My husband thinks I'm "fucking mental" and that this all could have been resolved if I had "acted like an adult". He won't come home. But at this point, I don't even want him to come home because it means his mother will stay away.

I asked it for a list of restaurants in my area using google maps and it said there is a restaurant (Mug and Bean) in my area and even used a real address but this restaurant is not in my town. Its only in a neighboring town with a different street address

This is going to come off ranty. Also on phone

I am so tired of unclear communication. My wife has a habit of saying things she doesn’t mean. She will say it is fine but after the event she gets mad.

She does this all the time, for example I ask if she wants to join a work event, she agrees to go, we go and then in the car she is pissed she had to go. I literally gave her the option not to go.

This has happened over and over and over again. She has done this other so many things. I ask if she wants me to grab takeout, she says no. Then is pissed when I get home that she is tried and doesn’t want to cook. So then I cook and she is still pissed the whole night since I didn’t get takeout.

I have talked to her so many time, just asking her to be honest with me. I can not read her mind, I just can’t.

Her birthday was yesterday and for the last month I have been asking her what she wants to do. Over and over again she told me she doesn’t want to do anything. I get her a small cake and a gift. Well she was upset that I didn’t surprise her with a night out.

This started an argument. My point is that I did what she asked. She told me I am a jerk and I should have planned something for her birthday. She isn’t talking to me as my sister said I am also a jerk.

AITA?

Edit: thank you for everyone that responded, I have to go to work so I am getting off but I got my answer.

So I'll try to make this as short as possible. I met my wife 10 years ago, we were both in our mid 20s but she had a 6 year old daughter. We got Married two years later. We had our ups and downs but overall our marriage was great and I treated her daughter like she was my own. Even though she never called me dad we were very close. During our marriage we both worked full time, we had separate bank accounts. We were saving up to buy a small farmland and build a house on it. That was always our goal.

But 8 months ago I found out my wife has been cheating on me. I only found out because my daughter found some messages from her lover on her phone and she showed me them. If it wasn't for her I never would have found out or even believed that my wife could cheat on me.

We ended up getting divorced, we both kept our savings but she kept both the cars, mine and hers. That was the agreement that we came to. I wasn't exactly happy about it but I didn't want to spend more money and time fighting over this. But we did get equal custody of our daughter, in our country if a child doesn't have a father listed in their birth certificate and then the mother gets married the child is legally the husbands also that's why I was able to get equal custody. And the fact that my daughter said she wanted to have contact with me and that she saw me as a father in court.

After the divorce my family and friends were angry at me, they blamed me for the divorce, they always took my ex's side, for some reason they adored her. A month ago my daughter got her provisional license, my ex obviously refused to buy her a car and she asked me if I could buy her some crappy car that she could practice on. But I took her to a dealership and bought her a two year old Range Rover. I spent all my savings on that car. Every time I saw that balance in my account it just reminded me of my ex, of our marriage.

Since then my family wouldn't speak to me, they were holding out hope we'd get back together but since the news of me spending all my money on my daughters car got out they refused to talk to me. So do most of my friends. And honestly I don't know how to feel right now. All I keep hearing is that I acted like a "p*ick" for doing that. So AITA here?

I (37M) have 2 kids (13M and 13F), with my ex. We have split custody and this week is my week with the kids.

I went to pick the kids up on Sunday morning and when the kids got in the car, Britton (my son) asked me if we could go to some stores that day as he wanted to get his teachers gifts for teacher appreciation week. He said his friends from baseball were all doing it for his teachers and he felt like he needed to. He said over the past week he’s been asking teachers about what they like and he had a list of what he wanted to get.

Bella said to drop her off first because she didn’t want to get anything for her teachers. I asked her why and she didn’t respond. I asked if any of her teachers are bad and she started to complain about them. She made some disgusting comments like calling her teachers “bitches” and she said one of her teachers was “crazy” because of “pregnancy hormones”. Britton also has this teacher and started to argue with Bella, as he was defending this teacher. He said this teacher was really sweet and only got emotional when people were mean to her or others, like bullying other kids. Bella said if she “can’t handle being around bullying then she shouldn’t be a teacher”.

I dropped Bella off at home and took Britton out for the day. Britton was upset and cried about how Bella was being mean to her teachers. Britton is our emotional child, he’s the crier. Him and his friends are some of the nicest teenagers you’ll meet. I love Bella, and she has her own strengths but being nice isn’t one of them.

I’ll admit, I spent more than I’d like but my current wife and I make a very decent living and it was nice to see Britton happy.

When I was out with Britton, my current wife came home from a work trip. Bella is close to her stepmom while Britton really isn’t. They get along but Britton spends way more time out with friends than Bella and my wife shares more interests with Bella. Bella thought my wife would be on her side when she told her what had happened in the car, but my wife was horrified and took away her phone and told her she was grounded this week.

I got home and Bella was telling me that her stepmom had gone “crazy” and explained to me she was grounded for “sharing her side of the story”. My wife and I talked about what happened in our bedroom and I upheld the punishment. She started to say her stepmom wasn’t “her real mom” and that she didn’t care what she had to say.

Yesterday, I got a call from one of Bella’s teachers saying she was mocking Britton and his friends for brining in teacher apprenticing gifts. I was upset by this and called my mom for advice and she said that I shouldn’t have let my wife punish her because she’s the stepmom. She said I should apologize to Bella. AITA?