I (26F) and my husband Alex (27M) have been married for a year. Recently, I found out I was pregnant. This was not planned, HOWEVER, ever since we got married we have not been using protection every time we got intimate and I'm currently not on any birth control.

My guess is that I'm only a few weeks along (I haven't seen a doctor yet)

Anyway, I told him when he got back home from work yesterday. I personally was very happy about it because I've always wanted a mom. I was pretty sure I was all smiles when I told him, and I thought he would be too once he found out the news. Let me add that he's been neutral on having kids.

My assumption was wrong. Immediately he gets super upset and asks how in the hell this could happen? I explained to him that while it was sudden, we hadn't been using protection every time so it wasn't that surprising. I thought he would have understood.

For some reason he didn't. After a few minutes of back and forth, he demanded a paternity test and told me there was no way it was his.

I was hurt and insulted. Let me be very clear that I did not, and will never, cheat on my husband. I have also never given him any reason for him to be suspicious about me cheating on him, either.

I was so taken aback that he doubted my loyalty enough to ask for a paternity test. I told him I couldn't believe he was seriously asking me for that.

He said that I wasn't helping my case, and that if I had nothing to hide, then I would take the test and prove my loyalty to him.

I honestly can't remember all that I said, but I ended up saying something along the lines of "if you're doubting me and my loyalty so much that you think I cheated on you and got pregnant with someone else's baby, then I don't think I want one with you anymore. I don't want to be tied to someone who clearly doesn't trust me."

He blew up at me and accused me of cheating once again. It was a big argument, and he said I was being shitty, dismissing his concerns, and saying that asking for a paternity test was valid. In the end, !!‼️!! I AGREED TO THE TEST !!‼️!! but said that I stood by my words. Had to highlight that because some people are saying that I didn't agree to it when I very much did.

We haven't spoken since the argument and he's currently at work.

I went to my friend for advice and she said that while he was out of line for accusing me of cheating, I shouldn't have said that to him over one of his "valid" concerns, and that clearly had a reason to feel that way about the situation.

I cannot fathom made him feel like I was cheating on him. I was just so hurt that he would insult me like that and accuse me of doing something so disgusting when I thought we were supposed to have trust in each other.

But AITA for saying what I did?

Edit: A lot of people are suggesting he got a secret vasectomy that failed, and that did cross my mind! During the argument I did ask if he got a vasectomy or was infertile and that's why the baby couldn't be his, but he dismissed that and continued saying "it just couldn't be his" without providing me a solid reason. So in that regard I have really no idea what to say...

Edit 2: I feel I should elaborate on the "neutral about kids" part. I told him while we were still just dating that no kids was a dealbreaker for me. He said that was fine because his stance on it was that if we ever have kids, it's fine. if something happens and we don't, it's fine. I'm calling that neutral since I don't know what else to call it. So when I told him I was pregnant I thought he would be fine with it like he said. But apparently he just changed his mind about that and didn't tell me!

And also, I have no issues with men wanting paternity tests, I just had an issue with him blatantly accusing me of being a cheater with no solid proof to back it up along with it.