Can we talk about why "Ang Probinsyano's" latest plot about Cardo and Alyana is a big mess?
Let's start with the (problematic) advice of one of the characters to Cardo, "Kung di mo makukuha sa santong dasalan, daanin mo sa santong paspasan".
Para lang din 'tong "Walang matigas na tinapay sa mainit na kape".
These two send out the message na kapag kinulit at pinilit ang isang tao regarding something ay eventually he/she will give in to the other party's demand. In this case, ang magkabalikan sina Alyana at Cardo.
But of course, romanticized ang approach na ginagawa ng show.
So how did this become a mess? This resulted to the action taken by our protagonist, abducting his "ex wife".
Do I have to explain why kidnapping is a serious offense and therefore not taken as something romantic? Di naman na siguro.
Ngayon, how the does the show romanticized and normalized the wrongdoings of Cardo?
First, dinala ni Cardo si Alyana sa isang god who knows place. A place where she knows no one and can't ask anybody for help. Bright plan, diba?
Second, sa lugar na ito ang tingin ng mga tao sa paligid nila ay simpleng away mag-asawa ang nangyayari sa dalawa. Na kapag "sinuyo" ni bida si babae ay bibigay din ito at magkakabalikan na ulit sila. Walang kahit isang nakaisip na mali ang nangyayari.
Third, pinipilit ng show na ipalunok sa viewers ang idea na ang babae ay nagpapakipot lang. Kapag sinuyo at niligawan ay eventually magiging submissive ulit. That going the extra mile (which is crazy bad) will make a woman fall in love again.
Bakit walang bigat ang "NO" ni Alyana sa show na ito? Anong pinaparating nito sa viewers?
Hindi ba creepy na handang mangkidnap ang isang tao para lang patunayan na dapat siyang balikan? That is downright obsession, hindi na yan love. Bakit pinapalunok ng show na justifiable lahat ng actions ni protagonist?
In the end, the show's latest plot is problematic and not helping the plight of women empowerment in the country. This could also propagate rape culture in the country. Tandaan na ang masang Pilipino ang target audience nila at mga pamilyang Pilipino.
Media is the best tool to instill values (good or bad) in the mind of the populace. It may look harmless on the surface but if we'll dig deeper on to it, it relays something that shouldn't be dispersed. How will we give weight to the word NO if this is what people see every night
How will we make people see that consent is personal and will not be gained if they'll do crazy tricks? How will we educate our young boys and girls that they must respect another person's decision if this is what they see? That "perseverance" will make them change their minds.
Hindi naman ito yung unang beses na ginawa ito ng media, ginawa na rin ito sa mga pelikula at iba pang drama. Hindi rin lingid sa'tin na ang mga stints na tulad nito ay nagrereaulta sa mas malaking kalbaryo ng kababaihan na nangyayari nuon hanggang ngayon.
I know that you already heard of the stories of women forced into marriage because a man raped them. Nuon nga nahawakan lang sa kamay o nahalikan ay ipapakasal na. See the connection?
All because of the thinking "Kung hindi makukuha sa santong dasalan ay daanin sa santong paspasan" at "Walang matigas na tinapay sa mainit na kape".
How long shall we engrave this utterly disgusting concept in the minds of our people?
There's a fine line separating courtship from harassment. And that should be clear
Sometimes, these are the reasons why Filipino dating culture is faulty.
Ligaw →No(pakipot) →ligaw pa→sweet yes, congrats
Hindi ba pwedeng ang HINDI ay HINDI. Nothing more, nothing less.
I'll end it here, at pinagsisisihan kong nagbukas akong muli ng TV at sinubukang manuod ulit ng local drama.
