Having strippers at the bachelor/bachelorette party is outright cheating

moistbitch · 2022-03-30T00:50:36+00:00

Strippers should be more popular at a divorce party than a wedding

MadChild2033 · 2022-03-30T08:40:48+00:00

they see wedding as the end of their freedom and happiness

which kinda explains how most marriages are either unhappy or end with divorce

edit: chill folks, i don't give a shit about your marriage

O_Poe · 2022-03-30T06:22:58+00:00

I know someone that was the groom and the stripper took his cock out (in front of everybody) and rubbed it on her bare vagina. That is cheating and disgusting. I wouldn’t marry someone that would ever think that that’s okay.

TlMEGH0ST · 2022-03-30T01:56:15+00:00

Ok so… I used to dance and knew a lot of girls who did bachelor parties outside the club. I can understand the logic- last boys night out, whatever. I still love strippers and would probably want a joint bachelor/bachelorette party at a strip club tbh. BUT the girls who did parties… were mostly escorts. It is SUPER common for the “strippers” at bachelor parties to f*ck the bachelor. this is INSANE to me!! I know so many guys who do this and their buddies keep it a secret and everyone acts like it’s NBD, “one last hurrah”… I would cancel the wedding.

socksandshots · 2022-03-30T07:21:52+00:00

Yea... It's really strange - I'm getting married, time for strippers!

How the fuck is that where your minds at? Lol

Lacielikesfire · 2022-03-30T03:52:25+00:00

I agree.

I don't understand the whole concept of "last night of freedom" that people use for bachelor and bachelorette parties. You're not "free", you're still engaged. You're getting married. If you crave that freedom so much then why are you getting married?

EDIT: I will say that I get the idea of wanting to have a fun night out with friends before you get married, since a lot of newlywed couples like to take time to themselves after the wedding. But the whole "I'm a bachelor/ette tonight" thing is just weird.

JasonStatesUs · 2022-03-30T09:36:41+00:00

I don’t understand strip clubs in general.

Who pays to be sexually frustrated around their mates for a few hours? Never made sense to me, but to each their own, I guess.

Romanticlibra · 2022-03-30T10:17:54+00:00

Literally if the night before your wedding is you seeing it as a last night of freedom then maybe you shouldn't be marrying that person 👀

2022-03-30T05:36:00+00:00

Cheating depends on the rules of the relationship. That being said, I wouldn't marry someone who would hire a stripper for their bachelor/bachelorette party. My fiance and I would consider that a deal breaker.

Chibaku_Tensei_ · 2022-03-30T04:55:30+00:00

As a dude who’s taught and heavily surrounded by people who are in support of all that. I whole heartedly agree, I keep to myself but have always thought how WEIRD it is all because you still aren’t “married” as if you haven’t been doing things up until then to ensure loyalty and commitment

risathekid · 2022-03-30T11:30:15+00:00

As a man I agree with you. It is straight up cheating. I don't know what kind of shitty husbands do this.

CDBaller · 2022-03-30T02:57:48+00:00

These comments are why the divorce rate is 50%...

ooo-f · 2022-03-29T22:55:39+00:00

As a former stripper, bachelor parties always made me feel so icky. So many of the guys who were married/about to be married would push boundaries with the dancers or try their hardest to get them to come home with them. It's one thing when married/engaged guys go out, lots of them either get one awkward dance or say "no thanks", but bachleor parties most of them were specifically on a mission to try and cheat with a stripper. It was so gross.

The only cool ones were when the bachelors and the bachelorettes would come in together and do a joint party, those were always a blast.

nobodyneedz2 · 2022-03-30T04:40:49+00:00

Having been a stripper, I concur. There’s a time, place and vibe for that and a bachelor/bachelorette party is simply not it (unless of course both ppl agree).

Too frequently has the groom acted sexually excited and told me things his fiancé would likely find painful to hear; too frequently have I seen trashed bachelorettes groping male models. It’s straight up disrespectful, let’s not normalize this behavior.

thunder-bug- · 2022-03-29T22:12:11+00:00

It’s only cheating if it’s crossing a boundary in the relationship. Not all relationships are the same.

2022-03-30T05:39:42+00:00

Never understood this. If you feel like you need that before being “cuffed” to someone then maybe you don’t actually want to marry them?

Lilp0is0n · 2022-03-30T04:58:32+00:00

I absolutely hate when people say "it's because it's his last night of freedom". I'm sorry I didn't realize he's going to jail?

Getting married isn't losing your freedom, heck if he wasn't game for "losing his freedom" he shouldn't have proposed. It was his choice to pop the question.

Strippers and outrageous bachelor/ette parties are disgusting. Your supposed to celebrating the union.

Dr_Fluffybuns2 · 2022-03-30T00:09:35+00:00

I agree that the entire point of a stripper is to turn you on. They're there to make you sexually excited. they'll get naked and grind on your lap until you get an erection. And what are you thinking about? How you want to fuck her. I think of both people in the relationship agree that's fine then whatever but using a Bach party as an excuse for one off time is weird. Like I wouldn't go to a restaurant and have a random woman do that and be okay with it. If I went to the club and started dancing and grinding with a non stripper girl on the dance floor while in a committed relationship that wouldn't be okay so why do we all act like it is on this occasion.

CrDub75 · 2022-03-29T22:29:33+00:00

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EyeOfTheCyclops · 2022-03-30T02:16:52+00:00

Is this really unpopular? I know it’s a trope in media but it’s crazy to me that this would ever been seen as okay unless you have an open relationship

Edit: I’ve read the comments and it seems it is indeed unpopular

Aggravating-Key-4464 · 2022-03-30T06:21:04+00:00

I agree with this. I find it shocking what some people think isn’t technically “cheating,” so they justify their actions as, “I didn’t have sex, so it wasn’t cheating, right?”

There are lots of ways to utterly betray your partner without sexual intercourse. Couples really ought to discuss such things early in the relationship to make sure they’re on the same page. Unspoken rules aren’t usually enough.

DogmanDOTjpg · 2022-03-30T05:42:48+00:00

Yeah if you fuck someone else there's not going to be a wedding, I don't give a fuck about some stupid midlife crisis wannabe frat culture that people seem to want for their bachelor/bachelorette party. If you're older than 17 and doing that shit you're acting like a child.

You know what my dad did for his bachelor party? Went fishing.

geek_of_nature · 2022-03-30T06:12:34+00:00

From my experience as the bartender, people who have strippers at their bachelor/bachelorette parties are the type who would have cheated one day anyways. The sort of people who put on that cocky, "Yeah I'm getting hitched" type of attitude, but don't seen to actually live their partner.

On the other hand I've seen and heard about lots of bachelor and bachelorette parties which are just about the groom and bride having fun with their friends. Getting drunk, hanging out, etc. And those are the marriages that last.

OldDJ · 2022-03-30T06:26:31+00:00

Wait... people still do that??

confusedpossum01824 · 2022-03-30T14:48:16+00:00

And let’s not forget the whole “one last night of freedom” thing.

If you see marriage as a prison or end of your freedom, don’t get married

2022-03-30T10:10:17+00:00

I actually didn’t get invited to my now brother-in-laws stag do for this very reason. He didn’t want me to see him cheat on my sister.

ihih_reddit · 2022-03-29T21:45:24+00:00

The fact that many consider this normal is bizarre to me.

Honestly! I never understood it myself

LittleNoodle1991 · 2022-03-29T21:46:09+00:00

Guess what, each couple can decide for themselves where they draw the line when it comes to cheating. Isn't that great?

grw313 · 2022-03-29T23:29:40+00:00

It depends on the relationship. Every relationship has different boundaries and rules. Some of them may allow for strippers. Some may not.

I do think it is silly the amount we normalize the bachelor/Bachelorette party as a place where it's okay to break the rules of the relationship because "it's the last night of freedom." The last night of freedom was the night before you became a monogamous couple, not the party. Stuff that would be a no-no during the rest of your relationship is still a no-no during the event (unless your spouse says otherwise).

Annual_Blacksmith22 · 2022-03-30T06:47:24+00:00

If anyone orders a stripper to my bachelor party I’m leaving.

Hell. Tbh if anyone makes me a bachelor party I’m leaving. I’m happy to get married, I have no reason to go wild on my “last day as a free man”. I don’t need that shit.

Would just rather sit down with the close friends for a pizza and that’s it.

Onetimehelper · 2022-03-30T08:08:24+00:00

Bachelor parties are cringe, probably started off as some incel fantasy that became a cultural thing. If you're starting off a marriage by cheating, might as well prep for the divorce.

SayNOto980PRO · 2022-03-30T04:24:05+00:00

Upvote.

I'm getting married this December. I'm not sure if I'll be able to have a party, but I totally agree on the stripper thing. I want my bachelor party as a LAN party with my buds. I love my fiance. I dedicate myself to her. If some people will pull out that stripper card thing, I'm walking out.

Soft_Way5085 · 2022-03-30T06:53:21+00:00

You are right about people. I am not a fan. I agree strippers are cheating . Many for a divorce party 🎉🎂

owbun · 2022-03-30T03:27:08+00:00

No shit. I thought this happened only in movies.

Wonder_bread423 · 2022-03-29T23:52:58+00:00

I actually agree, and I’ve never understood why people do it either 🤷🏼‍♀️ but everyone’s relationship is different so I don’t judge.

heretolose11 · 2022-03-30T04:20:43+00:00

H A L L E L U J A H

Couldn't agree more.

Thank you

Salpal777 · 2022-03-30T10:03:09+00:00

It’s not normal. It’s a setup. Just go fishing with the boys.

haeleewin · 2022-03-30T14:58:06+00:00

Totally agree. I found out years later that my ex husband went out to the strip club THE NIGHT BEFORE our wedding. If I would’ve known that then it would’ve saved me years of heart ache because he turned out to be a total cheater and creep.

People who have the “marriage is a trap” “stuck with one person forever” mentality aalways end up divorced. If they feel like being with that one person forever doesn’t sound good why the hell would they get married. There’s no such thing as “one last hoorah”, if they desire to be with other people before marriage they’re going to feel that way after.

FinalEgg9 · 2022-03-30T15:06:11+00:00

I don't understand people who spend good money to sit with their mates and get boners together, but whatever, each to their own.

I also don't understand this "last night of freedom" nonsense. Being married isn't a prison, and if you're at the point where you're getting married, you've been with this person for a while... surely what's acceptable before marriage and what's acceptable after marriage doesn't change. Getting married doesn't change whether sexual interactions with other people are okay or not - they're either okay in your relationship, in which case there is no "last night of freedom", or they're not, in which case you don't have the "freedom" you're after anyway.

2022-03-30T15:09:54+00:00

A lot of these comments are just proving how common cheating is in American culture

fuckmerunning9 · 2022-03-30T04:39:00+00:00

I agree. My best friend wanted strippers and wanted me to organize the party but he didn't make me best man. So no strippers for you.

cherrychampagnetoast · 2022-03-29T23:56:46+00:00

It is cheating to me. I talked to a guy about this before and I said you going to a strip club is the same as your wife making an only fans. They didn’t want their wife to make an only fans and let other men pay their gf/wife to been seen naked but they think its ok to give strippers aka Naked women who aren’t their wife money. They think its okay to have a wife on their fb page but be seen lusting and giving money from their home out of their childrens mouths to strange naked women. But that’s just how I see it some people are okay with it. That is until they got a toddler and a newborn stuck at home while their husbands are still looking at new shiny 18 y/os and giving them money.

2022-03-30T04:46:02+00:00

Yeah, it's cheating when you're dating and when you're married. I don't see why this is somehow even kind of okay at a bachelor or bachelorette party.

I was the best man at one of those parties recently, and we played mini golf, bought a ton of meat, had an art contest, and the groom-to-be shot the losing art pieces (that he judged) with a high powered rifle. It was something that he'd like, but it was also something he could talk about happily with his fiancee later. I think that's kind of the ideal situation. It shouldn't be a "last day of being single do this while you can", it should be friends sending their friend off to be married with a big party.

2022-03-30T01:03:52+00:00

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Dhrakyn · 2022-03-30T03:28:54+00:00

Eh, it's tasteless and trite, and honestly if you're marrying someone so unimaginative that they feel like doing this old worn out nonsense, you probably have bigger issues. But it isn't "cheating" unless there were clearly established relationship guidelines that were broken/crossed. If looking at other people is "cheating", make sure you communicate that to your significant other, because, as you so rightly assumed, it is not a common (popular) viewpoint.

Bronze5yrsplus · 2022-03-30T04:41:49+00:00

Are people just not getting this sub? I sit here on the phone app and see the vote counter going up then down then up. Don’t downvote if you disagree - it’s the point of this sub.

Lifewhatacard · 2022-03-30T06:58:53+00:00

My guy said he wasn’t into doing that way back before we married. And he didn’t. At least not all guys are that tone deaf.

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