Title says it all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I’m not quite a poor, but I’m far below them. I have no illusions that I’d ever pass for one of them, and I don’t want to try. I want to come across as polite and friendly, while avoiding doing something that screams “poor person over here!”
We live in the world where a little hey/hi or “can I ask something” can turn into friendships and relationships or either business partnerships
Here are some of my examples I personally experienced:
I made a group of friends just by one of them asking me directions in my hometown and conversation kept going then I became friends with them
I was buying a phone and answered a question of somebody else and it turned into a conversation. Later I asked him if I could make an internship in his company and I did.
While I was in a cafe, someone randomly asked if I liked my laptop and then it turned into conversation. While leaving he offered me a %50 discount in the company he is working in
Now I know some of you are shy or anxious so in this circumstance it is normal that you want to close yourself off You and “subconsciously your body” wants to keep you safe so it builds walls to protect you
But if you ever want to give a shot, here are some tips to make someone approach you:
Remove earphones/headphones: it makes harder for someone who wants to quickly say hi to you, adds another layer to your defence. You need less walls and less defences if you want people to approach you
Relax: Stiff body, nervous energy repels people off, I especially said nervous not anxious so there is a slight difference. I know “just relax” isnt a good advice for socially anxious people but dont take it as an advice, take it as “if I remove nervousness from my body, it can make others be more open to approach me.”
No Resting B. Face: if you look at people like you hate them or world, how can you expect them to approach you? You may think this is my neutral look but you may want to reconsider by looking at mirror and think if I looked at someone else with this face how would they feel? There is something called smiling from inside and it really changed my social experiences. Basically you smile on inside even though you dont physically smile. If you still dont want to do it. Just relax your face but dont look at people with hatred
No crossing arms: it subconsciously means that you are closed to have a conversation or an interaction. Creates another layer between you and people
Now another example I personally experimented in my daily life: There is a difference avoiding people and not being interested and its somehow visible. When someone looks at you I know many anxious people just looks elsewhere quickly. Dont look down; it means you got shy Dont look up/roll your eyes up; it means you’re irritated by that person Dont turn your look sideways “quickly”: means you got nervous. If you “slowly” look sideways it is more likely mean you are simply not interested But if you can keep the eye contact a little bit like 2 seconds, eye contact+little smile and slowly look sideways it is way better even if you dont approach yourself to this person.
Keep in mind, the idea here is to create a safe environment for people to approach you and start a conversation. The person who wants to approach you may be suffering form anxiety as well so we try make it more easy for her/him
Edit: thank you for commenting, for some reason my own reply comments dont show up(maybe related to low karma points) Yes I was also socially awkward person, had anxiety, social anxiety and depression. After years of healing work I recovered from them.
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