r/askSouthAfrica

I'm a 30 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend and I'm reaching that point in life where I feel like if I don't do something now I'll just end up dying alone.

I take a bus to and from work every day, and recently I've been noticing this girl on there. She's so beautiful and she's always by herself and I really just want to go up to her and say hi. But whenever I think about approaching her I'm just overwhelmed by fear and I freeze up.

I've considered writing her a note telling her how I feel and then giving it to her just before I get off the bus, but I'm afraid that might be too childish.

Does anyone have any tips or advice on what I can do in this situation?

been thinking about this for a while and I can't seem to make up my mind. As I grow older, my perspective on family is starting to change. I'm starting to reconsider who I want to keep close to me and who is just a lost cause. The dynamics within both sides are just too complicated. Mom's side was the obvious choice growing up but now that I've grown up, I've realised that it's just as bad as dad's side.😅

Which side is the worst for you and why?

Hey everyone, I honestly really need to vent.

A couple of months ago a friend of mine's mom passed away. I've previously lost a family and so my heart really went out to him. He become very depressed and was living alone basically told me all his friends didn't want to be around him because he was in a depressed space. So I basically was there him, everyday after work I would phone and just let him vent and sometimes this would go on for plus 2 hours. He didn't have a car at the time, so I would fetch him on weekends and take him out just to get out the house. We would go to the beach, mall etc often even just braai at my house. Point is I was there for this man. Everyday I would check in and listen to his problems. I had him over every weekend for about 3 months but then he got better ( which of course I'm happy about ) but then he stopped hanging out with me. He would cancel all plans, ghost me etc....I would literally worry sick only to see him posting whatsapp status hanging out with those same people who ditched him during his grief.

Worst part is he then throws a braai at his house that I wasn't invited too and post so grateful for you guys.

I'm not jealous, I just feel used..two weeks ago I sent him a message just checking in as I haven't seen him in a few weeks and he doesn't even bother to respond. I'm angry because I was a genuine friend to him and I really cared. Now it feels like he was just using me and that he never really cared. Honestly I don't want anything to do with him anymore. What should I do? Should I block him? Or should I bring it up with him? I don't think it's worth doing that at this point.