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Sapiosexual FAQ

What is sapiosexual?

A sapiosexual (also called, 'sapiophile' or the related term 'noetisexual') is a person who finds intelligence to be sexually attractive or arousing. It is not the same as the wanting intelligent conversation as a part of a relationship (that, just about everyone wants). Sapios find shows of intelligence to be the *primary* sexually attractive feature in another person. A sapiosexual may not even notice physical features of beauty until after finding a person's show of intelligence arousing.

What is the purpose of this forum?

This forum exists for sapiosexuals and those curious about sapiosexuality to respectfully discuss their experiences, thoughts, and questions, and to support each other in navigating life and relationships as a sapio. It does not exist to put others down, status-signal, or IQ-shame anyone.

What are good date ideas with a sapio?

Browse a bookstore or a library together, then discuss what you've found. Study or learn something new together, like a foreign language or a technical skill. Attend a community lecture on a complex topic, or watch a documentary together. Have good sapio date ideas? Post them below!

Are sapiosexuals arrogant?

Some are arrogant, some aren't, just like any other sexual orientation or preference. Generally sapiosexuals do not claim that they are any 'deeper' than others just because of their sexual preference. Many sapios do not even consider themselves to be particularly intelligent, but they just find signs of intelligence in others to be hot.

Are sapiosexuals ableist?

Attraction is not a value judgement. Sapiosexuality does *not* make the claim that differently-abled people are less worthy of love or attention. All people are valuable, but sexual attraction is specific and personal, and everyone has different preferences. It's not ableist to, for example, find large muscles attractive or to have a foot fetish. It's not sexist, for example, to find only women sexually arousing. It's the same with finding big brains arousing. Sapios just have a particular sexual interest, not a judgement against others.

What fictional character types do sapiosexuals typically find attractive?

Sherlock Holmes, Senku Ishigami, Steve Urkle, Basil of Baker Street, D'Vana Tendi, Mr. Spock, Lt. Data, Egon Spengler, Violet Baudelaire, etc.


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Do you need some kind of mental stimulation? I enjoy discussing various topics, especially philosophical ones, but I can get into anything. I often start infodumping out of the blue, and it feels frustrating when others aren’t as enthusiastic as I am. I haven’t had a good discussion in ages, and I crave it almost more than physical intimacy. I even miss listening to people talk about scientific topics. I need this kind of mental satisfaction. I think I am just venting, but I am wondering where I could find people that I could talk to about things like that, or just listen to someone very smart or open minded.


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