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“I just wanna talk to you! Why do you have to make me act like this!?”
I only hit you because I love you!
Why you make me do this to you?
“Yo look at my watch”
Lol this is like 10 minutes from me
It's 20 minutes from where I grew up! I freaked out cause this neck of the woods doesn't get much attention usually.
What was your high school mascot,mothers maiden name as well please and thx
Ugh, what a creep.
It’s scary that not every girl looks up guys names on county sheriffs for records and end up going on dates with guys like this and end up on the 6 o clock news
This happened to a friend of mine.They met up at a public place the first time and apparently had a great date. The second time he came over to her apartment. I guess he wasn’t happy about the fact that she did not want to retreat to the bedroom with him and he became violent. Seriously violent. She ended up getting out of the situation alive, but if she had done a simple backround check she would’ve discovered he had twice been convicted of sexual assault. She’s now permanently traumatized, and the whole thing was completely preventable.
Sounds about right for JT or Warren lol
Swipe Right. Get that reward.
Big brain moves
He’ll get out eventually but she’ll be stuck with him forever.
Easy there, Zodiac
He put "running" as an interest, but he didn't mention "from the law."
It also sounds better than "chasing"
He also put "Leo," apparently they were supposed to go together as a sentence: "running from LEO"
Well here’s where she messed up: the guy who’s wanted is Mitchell & the guy on Tinder is Mitch! Clearly a totally different person…
Maybe she can change him
She's the one!
trust in your potencial, return the slap you receive from the officer
To 'convicted for stalking?'
Maybe she can beat him at his own game
She’s not like the other girls
Funny thing about that...I read a woman's explanation about the change thing.
Some women will do everything they can to change you, and once they complete the transformation, they realize they have changed everything that they liked about you in the first place. Then they move on.
That's not an explanation, that's just a sad story.
Yes, but hopefully the change is for the better and it attracts new women to you sooo win/win?
Why change at all? He's literally already most wanted 😎
What in the incel-
About me: “Handsome”???? Weird thing to put in there when there are pictures.
I hate when people try to tell me how I’m supposed to feel about their appearance. Like, I’ll decide that for myself, I don’t care how you think you look.
I've been told by some "alpha" guy that it's a "psychology trick" lol
I mean, he's not wrong - acting like you're attractive makes you more attractive in my experience.
But saying you're attractive and acting attractive are two completely different things.
How people supposed to tell I’m attractive if not told?
I just have my mom text them to let them know.
"wanted" for being handsome. missed opportunity. loser.
At least he didn’t lie about his age
I checked out her TikTok page. The pic of Mitch is apparently on the local police's FB page. If I'm not mistaken, wouldn't he be "wanted" for contempt if he'd failed to appear???
She did an update all "what if he didn't do it? I don't want to ruin his life." He ruined his own life by not showing for his hearing. Even if he was falsely accused, he still has to go through the process.
Edit: Apparently the contempt was for violating an order of protection . He was booked on Dec 1 for a felony and given $200,000 bail.
Edit again: Holy crap in a hat, it's even worse. The first incident was July 9, and on July 28, he violated the protection order again, somehow involving reckless driving endangering a child.
It does list Criminal Contempt.
It does also say "Top 10 Most Wanted". I'm not sure simply missing a court date would be enough to warrant (pun not intended) being—what looks like—the number one most wanted person in an entire city/county, unless there's really just jack shit going down in Jamestown.
If it’s Jamestown NY there is absolutely shit going on there. Small little town in western NY on the boarder of Pennsylvania. Not a very nice place but they’re building it up with attractions like the comedy museum and it’s home the meme of the ugly Lucille ball statue
Bro. It's hard asf to prove stalking, he did that shit
Endangering a child? Look at his interests in the bio. The irony
At least he won’t ghost you 🤷♀️
He might. He ghosted his court hearing.
Can’t rely on anyone these day!
Ghosted by your own stalker. Imagine that
He clearly had other things to do that day, stalking is a commitment not a hobby!
The District Attorney is a terrible date. Control issues...
That depends. Is he wanted for murder? Then he might indeed ghost her.
Good on her for checking on potential dates. Stay safe out there!
As a dude, and one who would never stalk/drug/hurt a woman, it came as a rude awakening when I found out the shit women have to go through with dating and when they're out just to try and keep safe
Like would any guy even consider looking up a date's criminal history or anything? Maybe we check their social media or something but that's it
Shit's fucked
I know who check their female dates social media! …to make sure they’re not secretly fat. I was shocked to find that out because I was looking up the men on dates for criminal activity. Screenshot their picture, send it to a friend, tell them my location, text them multiple times throughout the night so they knew I was safe.
Don’t get me wrong, I get wanting to make sure someone looks like their pictures! It’s tinder, it’s 90% about looks. But the difference in straight men and straight women prepping for a date is wild.
Yeah that’s hella smart. Never thought about that.
For a lot of people that’s just basic safety
I'd also suggest checking the sex offenders registery if your state has one. I checked my area and found 2 neighbors and 2 coworkers on it. Definitely an eye opener.
Dating sites should sell a verification service where you pay $20 for a background check and then you get a blue checkmark or something on your profile if you pass.
$8 seems more reasonable
Calling yourself attractive in your own bio that you wrote is super cringe.
Damn, girls put a lot more thought into swiping than guys huh lol? The boys and I make a decision in a few seconds. Good on her for avoiding this dude, super sus
Girls are just trying to stay safe. Too many times have girls fallen victim to creeps.
This me checking ppl on apps this last month . Have yet to meet anyone real that’s not trying to scam or catfish you.
I am too ugly for even the scammers.
The man has dedication
You say “stalker,” I say “persistent”!
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“Mitchell A. Costanzo, 28, of Frewsburg, was charged with second-degree criminal contempt and fourth-degree criminal mischief. Officers responded at 11:06 p.m. Saturday to the south side of the city for a reported domestic dispute. It was found that Costanzo allegedly broke a window to a residence and fled prior to officers arriving. An investigation found that Costanzo violated an order of protection to stay away from a woman inside the residence. He was located a short time later and was transported to Jamestown City Jail.”
She dodged a HUGE bullet
At least he didnt lie about his name so you know he is honest.
His truly looking for his Love I guess.
Through the blinds
That’s a peeper. Not a stalker.
Stalkers get OUT.
Lmao go on a date with him and turn him in for the bounty
Holy.. I live in this small ass city too. Small world!
Jamestown represent
REPRESENT!
Oh hey, hello northern neighbor. I'm from the Warren, PA area! Which is even smaller than Jamestown lol.
She found him in a criminal database with only "Mitch" and a few photos? Fake.
Mitch, lives in Jamestown.
Searches by first name Mitch in Jamestown criminal database. Maybe a couple dozen people pop up at most, look at the photos, narrow it down. Google reverse image search for Facebook profile. It's really not that hard.
Jamestown, NY is a town of 30,000 people. Everyone knows everyone lol it’s not that had to fathom. Source: my hometown. Really interesting place tbh. Very tourist oriented, worth a visit
She explained it in another post, she follows the local PD on Facebook and they post a weekly local wanted list. Mitch was on it.
Or she knows of him already and knew his last name and saw him on tinder?
There are a lot of explanations that don't involve this being fake.
Yes, Jamestown is small town, she definitely already knew or had a friend tell her
No no no. You misunderstand, haven't you been on a reddit post before. Anything less than an 80% chance of happening is immediately deemed fake by the all knowing reddit comments.
There is also facial recognition websites. I found someone from a lost wedding camera once. I didn't even pay for the service but managed to find the person and contact them. After I realized what I did it was creepy.
Shit, I Googled dates 20+ years ago. It's not creepy, it's SMART.
Not hard for you. Average person is rather dumb, sadly.
Can confirm, I are average person.
Something like 50% of people are dumber statistically :D
Me too either 👍
Ahem....it's you is average person.
I is* average person.
I think women of a certain age are pros at finding stuff online
It’s creepy what my sister can find out. She really knows how to Facebook stalk people.
Well, the video poster is probably not an "average person".
So then statistically its more likely that the original person above who stated "Fake" is likely one of the rather dumb ones? If he was above average he could have understood this is possible.
It's not that hard to find a person if you know how to search, but people don't know how to search xd
Once I was bored and my friend told me about her father who had left when she was a child, she told me his name, I found the Facebook account and we saw that he had a new family
I give people advice on googling themselves. Everyone will look you up. If you want to hide, don’t use an online nickname like foxy14748, use something like a mix of various famous peoples names. Sports athletes work well. Something generic. Michael McDavid, Jonathan Curry, etc. Google that name, make sure something comes up.
Never use your real name online and limit your socials. Never post your kids photos either.
The only people that know my real name is the government and the banks and close family. Most of my friends don’t even know my real last name.
A lot of people use their middle name as well, this can be effective too.
Friends mom learned my real first name when she attended my wedding, she’s like “who the hell is Edward”. Been friends with my buddy in my wedding party since we were kids.
I see Asian and South Asian people do this a lot when they try to “integrate”. Get an English name. It’s super effective as well especially if you have a common last name and use a Bible first name. David Li, Michael Kim.
Friend changed his name to Gary once and it was super effective when I caught up with him later in life.
I’ve seen women use a pseudonym for conferences/professionally and then if anyone called them that name later they knew where they found them from.
Someone walks up to you on the street and uses a certain name it could send off a bunch of red flags.
Use it for your protection. The internet is forever.
most people do not want to search for people they have known. Why bother? Yes you can find them, but you are guaranteed more sadness.
I am average person and I have been looking up local criminals in my neighborhood everytime I move since I left my parent's house. It's easy to google "______, county arrests, FN\LN"
I would do this for any stranger I was about to meet up with for real. Never used tinder but assume the worst when you're looking on craigslist dating app.
Women will find anything they need to if they put their minds to it. I know. I am one.
Agreed. She probably had that criminal database up with the search parameters for men in her town only and would check over every guy while swiping.
49% of people are below average intelligence.
Consider the bottom 10% of all people. Real chicken heads. Now consider that there's 320 million people in the US. That means that there's about 32 MILLION chicken heads out there. It's frightening.
I don't think we are using that term the same way because that sounds like great news to me! Chicken heads can peck their way right on over here!
r/nothowstatsworks
I feel like there’s plenty of people who know google reverse image search is a thing.
Any half decent stalker would know this!
Bonus, if you’re in Florida and a voter google your name and number and hunt down the voting sites publicly posting your address and what party your aligned with. Sunshine law has some scary implications sometimes. Luckily every one I found allowed me to request they remove it and they complied.
Basic r/osint things lol
Damn, is this you Mitch?
Depending on the area, it's really easy to find a whole bunch of info on someone from just their first name, location (city) and a picture of their face to confirm.
My gf when we first met, knew only my first name, and what city I lived in, and based on that, was able to find me on Facebook, get my full name, and found an article I wrote in college that was published in the paper. She brought it up on our second date.
Edit: My gf and I have been enjoying the replies/messages. Our favorite so far was the explicative riddled one with racist overtones, which was an interesting choice we felt. Overall a C-.
It's pretty wild how easy it is. I don't have a common first name. If you type in NAME, AGE, TOWN...the first result is a page that shows my current address with a link to the google maps street view of my house.
Like thanks...I'm active on dating apps, any woman that wants to see where I live, how much care I put into landscaping my yard or what I drive can do so in about 10 seconds.
A few years ago I purged myself from the internet, but now that Im a homeowner its the first and only result... Kind of wished I would have flooded the results with bullshit instead.
How did you do this?
OP is your girlfriend Mitch "stalking 4th" Costanzo?
🚩
And after the date she says to me "nice stalkin to ya"
Probably a preventative measure for her own protection
With LinkedIn, Instagram, etc, it’s very easy to find people with little information in their profile
and facebook.
And reverse image searches (Tineye and Google image search being the two I'm most familiar with).
I track down previous owners for lost cats based on the same amount of information. It's very, very easy to find out personal information from public information. Stay safe with your details everyone.
LOL. If you think that isn't enough, you need to go through and very thoroughly update your privacy settings on every online account you have.
Yes. Yes it fucking is. Because it's not just first name and a couple photos. It's name, location, and age (star sign, narrowing it down), and that much is definitely enough.
A lot of women could be working for the FBI if they wanted to.
True. Found out my date had filed for bankruptcy in another state that he lived in even before we met.
I found my current husband's criminal record before we met with about as much information. I'm not even sure we had exchanged real names yet.
I've had women refuse to date me because they couldn't find me with searches online.
I have no social media and have no criminal record. If you Google my name, you get an actor.
Isn't being able to not find me a good thing?
There's a lot of different factors on that:
some years ago, there was a bit of pop science being passed around the smaller news sites claiming that not having a social media account was a sign of being a sociopath. While the average person may look at that as probably being sensationalist, there are are a handful of folks who would have taken it to heart, and would behave accordingly.
some could be suspicious of being given a fake name. As you say in another comment, social media accounts for fake names are certainly put together or faked fairly often, but it does require a lot more commitment to the lie than the average dude trying to have a relationship under a fake name may have, especially if he's giving you a fake name because he has commitment issues and wants to have an affair without either partner knowing. People really go to weird degrees with this double life shit my dude, it's bizarre imo
Idk, maybe they're looking for certain types of information for some kind of leverage? Like maybe they're planning to stalk you. Bullet dodged on those, eh?
I don't care and just move on from them. I understand the need to feel safe, but I also see it as trust issues.
Because of my job and my security clearance, it's just a whole lot less of a hassle to not have an online presence tied to the real me. And in my area, DC, it's not unusual. It seems to be a thing people just moving here seem to be hung up on.
That must suck Harrison Ford.
r/nothingeverhappens
Not fake. This is Jamestown NY. Tiny town where everyone knows everyone
I was gonna say, tinder is regional so there's a good chance she already knew about mitch and the charges, and when she came across him on tinder she thought to make this video.
Can confirm. Just showed this to my girlfriend and before the video even started she goes, "This is Mitch."
I went to high-school with the girl and Mitch's cousin. Gotta love small town drama
I miss Topix sometimes.
Not at all fake. Real, his booking photo came out today https://www.sheriff.us/prisoners
What’s up with the 3 and 4 dollar bails
Holy crap, charged with a felony and given $200,000 bail. Wtf did he do???? That's not just run of the mill creepy stalking...
Sheesh you've never cyber stalked someone 😬
Mitch has.
A relatively simple task that is not within my comprehension, skill set or general understanding? Must be FAKE!!!!
/s
Um... Literally just Googled "Mitch finance manager Jamestown" and found the guy. Just straight up the first four words of his bio.
Zero detective work. Didn't even need to know the state.
Dudes laugh at women for snooping and tracking people down. This shit is why.
I've seen dudes online telling women that watching true crime is making them paranoid. No, men pulling this shit is making them paranoid.
Yep. It can make us feel like we're learning what to watch out for to avoid being the victim. Also because inevitably most of these cases are exacerbated by inaction or mishandling by police. We learn it's up to us to protect ourselves.
I seriously do not know a single adult woman who hasn't been seriously sexually harassed, assaulted, or had a partner or date turn out to be a total creep who stalked or harassed them. We've all gotten the "Hey, beautiful" messages that turn into "Fuck you, ugly ass bitch. Have fun dying alone" when you tell them you're not interested or even don't respond fast enough. We're on high alert because we have to be.
It's as if some men don't like it when women become aware of the risks we run by interacting with them, especially in a private context, and they want us to remain ignorant and gullible. There's many issues with true crime (like exploiting people's tragedies for entertainment or personal gain), but teaching women to wise up isn't one of them.
Such a Leo
Moments like this that make me realize how much easier I have it as a guy. Definitely never crossed my mind that the girl im seeing could be a danger to me, usually I'm trying to make sure they can trust me.
Women really be the FBI
Online dating for women in a nutshell
It’s cause he’s a Leo
It’s always finance bros
Isn’t it all of our du diligence to do this kind of stuff? Like I get that I can but I don’t and haven’t ever needed too because I tend to not date a ton and when I do I take people at their face value.
That’s spoken as a man with male privilege, I totally understand women and/or other socially repressed populations dealing with much more than I would ever have to deal with, I understand the conditions that some have to deal with… I will never understand, but I hope to at least try and understand and grasp the message that is trying to be conveyed.
We should all worry and protect ourselves, knowledge is power! This person exposing this guy is great, good use of public information!
Does that really work for you girls? I mean seriously, show a fake watch and say you're a financial manager. This dude screams like, I need attention, I'm a Narcissist. Not even necessary to check if he is a stalker or other kind of criminal, what he probably is.
You’ve never been to Jamestown NY. Dude’s a 10 there.
Source: Grew up in the area. Am a Jamestown 4.
r/SuicideByWords?
Nice self-burn either way.
Lmao every life situation has a class system of people that are too dumb for that, people that fall perfectly in the trap, and people that are too smart for that. All of us fall in different categories at different times. I wouldn’t fall for this guy. But if you offered me “weed” behind a dumpster at waffle house at 3 am, i might actually go.
lol at the pose trying to show off a rolex.
Wow…great job being safe. This is exactly why I worry about my daughter and son dating in this day and age.
But also, I tried online dating and got into a relationship with a dude for 7 months and then decided to Google him…turns out he had a sec charge. Ughhhh so gross
90s kid. Sus
Can’t trust anybody…
Like…you know…whatever
This seems like a terrible idea? To make a profile on Tinder while you’re wanted?
I mean at least he admitted that one of his interests was running.
SHE'S GONNA MAKE SOME MONEY BOUNTY HUNTING lol
Interests: Running Him: Yes I like to run, from the cops
Of course he has to "subltly" show that watch in the picture.
The bs he wrote in his bio should have been a massive red flag and you should have swiped left without even doing that kind of search. Loving, caring, searching for the right girl….. lies. Writing that he’s handsome…. raging narcissist. Anyone that puts that they’re handsome, hot, beautiful etc., why are you even contemplating linking up? That’s all you could come up with about yourself? Also a huge red flag. You went searching for things when you had all the evidence in front of you.
That is this man’s fourth stalking charge. Avoid.
Just making sure you're alright... always.
Savage
Lmfao
Reminder to myself: always check the most wanted list in case there's a reward for someone in tinder.
If he has a bounty out,you could totally collect it by inviting him out,and notifying the police beforehand.
Of course then he stalks you for the rest of his life
Use a fake profile
True.That could work.
Dodging bullets like neo in the matrix
Why isn’t tinder doing a background check?
Because it’s expensive and time consuming and the would lose a lot of customers who (rightfully) don’t want to hand over personal info, copies of their ID, or SSN.
Also they don’t want to be liable for other people’s crazy. What if they miss something one someone with a criminal records and something and happens? It’s far easier to make the user assume all the risk.
Stalking is just another term for 'TOO caring' lol
Mitch the bitch!
Holy shet thats scary lmao
Nice to see someone doing their homework
Damn, stalking in the 4th!
He's 29!? Looks like 39 to me boss
Actually swipe right. Message him. Setup a date. Call the police. Get your reward. 💯
Nah, that’s a different guy his names Mitch, not Mitchell.
A stalker that’s into running. He sounds fun.
Pretty smart to have that open while looking on Tinder.
Bruh, we don’t claim him.
PLOT TWIST: this is how she makes a living, setting up these thirsty fools.
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