I (32) have been married to my soon to be ex-wife (30), Madison, for four years. We are currently in counseling but it is not going to work.
About a year ago I found out she was having an affair by coming home to their clothes in our living room and sounds coming from our bedroom.
I lost it. I was getting my cricket bat out of the front closet when I stopped to think about consequences. I did not want to go to jail.
Instead I took all their clothes and left quietly. I went to a friend's house but not before throwing all the clothes in a McDonald's garbage can.
I turned off my phone and got shitfaced with my buddy. His wife hosed us off in the morning.
After I turned my phone back on I had dozens of calls and texts from Madison. First scared because she got my updated flight information. Then upset that I hadn't called her to let her know I was going to be coming home early. Then freaked out that the house had been broken into. Then crazy because she figured out it was me. They just got more deranged.
The guy she was with is five inches shorter than me and about 60 pounds lighter. So if he had taken my clothes it would be obvious.
He ended up calling his friend to go get his spare keys from his house. Unfortunately for him his wife smelled a rat and followed his friend back to my house. Where she saw him leaving in oversized clothes.
Long story short she took pictures and she had evidence of his infidelity. Which caused their prenup to be cancelled. Which cost him a lot of money. It is all one big giant shit show.
It took a couple of months but my wife convinced me to try and forgive her. We started going to counseling and we were working our way through it. Until recently.
In a counseling session she said that I was wrong to steal his wallet, phone, and car keys. She said that his divorce is costing him a lot of money and that I should have dealt with it in a more mature manner and that it was my fault.
I have never admitted to taking his stuff. To begin with I was afraid he might call the cops. Then I didn't want to give her ammunition in case she wanted a divorce. Now I just don't care.
I told her that her cheating was the reason her boyfriend is getting divorced. And that I hope his ex takes everything.
I am still not living at home. I have my own apartment and I'm filing for divorce. Now that I know how she feels it is kind of a slap in the face that she is blaming me for his divorce.
I 22M have a girlfriend 20 F and she has this friend 21 F who is completely unbearable. Her entire personality is basically how she doesn’t fuck white guys and constantly goes on rants about how white guys are bad at sex or how they can’t handle her blah blah blah. I get people have preferences but she always finds a way to integrate into any conversation her sexual preferences.
It’s like we could be talking about what we had for breakfast and she would be like “oh you had a pop tart? I once gave this black guy a pop tart after he was done fucking me. I never would have given a white guy a pop tart because he wouldn’t have fucked me good enough to deserve it”that’s what I mean when I say it’s her whole personality.
The incident happened when she told my girlfriend IN FRONT OF ME that she needs to experience a black dick once in her life (my girlfriend has never banged a black guy) and she looked at me, smiled and fake laughed and said oh just kidding!!
My response is where I might have been an asshole. This friend is a bigger girl. Probably a size 18-20 in pants. I said “I speak for the white guys when I say we will gladly give the white girls your size to the black guys, you may not wanna fuck us but we don’t wanna fuck you either. Black guys tend to like the big girls”
She shut up reeallll quick. But after the hangout my girlfriend said I need to apologize because her friend speaks that way out of insecurity. She knows she’s bigger than the rest of the group and she says these things to cope. I said I was fine, albiet annoyed, but fine until she insinuated my gf should cheat on me. I’m refusing to apologize until she apologies for that. Aita
Edit: I showed GF this post. She says everyone is overreacting and this isn’t that deep. She told me I don’t need to apologize and to just not bring it up again.
She has a comment actually: I know my friend is a piece of work. But I also don’t love how my boyfriend responded. He should have but his tongue. My friend has always been boy crazy so her having this attitude is nothing new. I’ve gone to parties and clubs with her and I have noticed she does not get much attention from guys in general. When she does get attention; they are usually black guys though. That is also all she talks to on apps. I try not to dig too much because I do find some of her behavior gross. Ex. She will match with a guy on a dating app and respond right away something like “do you wanna get your dick sucked later?” And very forward sex comments.
As for her weight, her parents split up her first year of college where she gained most of it. She also struggled with her grades and making friends (we don’t go to the same school) so that may have something to do with the eating.
