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You married a man who you knew cheated in his prior marriage and who cheated on you for 5 years prior to your own marriage. The fact that you are surprised is honestly the most shocking thing about this post. I’m not the person you initially replied to here but imo you should just move on and let karma deal with both of them, possibly with some assistance from your new divorce lawyer. File for divorce, get what you’re entitled to from the marriage and get on with your life. You will only drive yourself crazy trying to tell her anything or prove to him that you’re the better woman. He clearly will never feel guilt over it and she doesn’t seem to either, maybe it’s because she doesn’t want him or because she doesn’t give a shit about your feelings but it doesn’t matter. Let them be together, or just let him make a fool out of himself for someone who just wants money. It’s no longer your problem. Also, he adopted your son so don’t pass up child support. Put it in an account for your kid if you don’t need it.

If you’re not already, you should look into therapy. You need to find out why you accepted being cheated on and basically signed up for a lifetime of it through marriage. Thats not a healthy path. Im happy for you that you’ve realized you deserve better. Don’t allow that nonsense ever again.

Do you not have friends you love? Must love be romantic?

Looks like you can check whether he has an emt license here. I didn’t go further than the first page though so idk what you’ll need as far as information.

I couldn’t figure it out either but I went to libertailia for another quest and ran into the synth who helps with the quest. Then it finished.

An urn. On Father’s Day I had a grandma, mom and little girl at one of my tables. I’m talking to them, doing my thing and towards the end the little girl pulls out an urn and says something like “my dad died, we brought him with us to celebrate Father’s Day.” After almost 30 years working with the public I rarely am left speechless but it took me a minute to register wtf was happening. I got it together quick enough I guess but like…don’t surprise people with that info! Leave dad in the bag please.

My husband wasn’t interested in me when I gained weight but couldn’t understand why I didn’t want him near me when I lost weight. It’s unreal how many people look at other people’s weight vs how they see their own.

He used to leave his wet towel hanging off the bed, over the door, basically anywhere that wasn’t a freaking towel hook. So every time I saw it out I would put it on his pillow. Didn’t take long for him to realize what the damn towel hooks are for.

Just out of curiosity…are married men flocking like a moth to a flame cause holy shit I think I’m putting off some vibes that draw in married men. I’m in the middle of getting rid of a husband, I don’t need anyone else’s!! Are we giving different energy after filing? I’m so confused.

Start keeping an eye out for nursery sales on perennials. Buy some smallish hydrangeas and plant them, making sure to leave room for growth. Fertilize, obsess, give up, neglect, get sad when you look at them and then one year they’re just doing their thing and it’s perfect. It’s where I clean my bong lol, I guess it likes it.

Just don’t do too much and your hydrangeas will be happy. Good luck!

Your facts are wrong. KJ’s first case was dismissed because she had no legal address. The second was dropped because rabid red hats went after her for besmirching their king. She was a child and he raped her.

Since you’ve already been told they’re zinnias, I’m just gonna say I appreciate the little guy in the back who looks like he’s sitting on one of them. Like your own little fairy garden 💕

OR maybe it’s not the confidence at all but the fact that someone who wasn’t interested in them when they gained weight suddenly became interested. By the time I lost some weight my husband had been turning me down regularly for 15ish years, including through two pregnancies with his children. There was no way I could accept him suddenly having a sex drive after I lost weight. I lost my sex drive completely when faced with the realities of a shallow man. If you love someone, you love them PERIOD

I didn’t know the family nickname wasn’t my “real” name until elementary school. I’d say your plan is a solid one that both honors his birth name and also gives him the choice of something more common if he wants it. My daughter uses her middle name a lot, like seriously a lot, because her name is so uncommon that if you ever knew a girl with it, you’d find her in an instant. It’s recently become more common with boys but before the last few years I’d only ever met one other person with it. With social media and stalking and all the crazy availability of information, if I could change it I would. Do what feels right, he can always change it back later if you go that route.

Jesus it’s crazy looking at how other people live. I wish I didn’t care about debt, my future, anything else lol. Thats nuts. You’re probably being very generous not getting into all the accounting specifics, you’ll come out happier in the long run regardless so good for you.

In my state, if I found out my spouse was spending marital money on affair, that would have to be “repaid” to me. See if it’s the same for you.

Sounds like your future will be much more stable than it would’ve otherwise been. What a mess. Do you want to sell your house now? I’m just wondering because my youngest is in high school now so my attorney said no judge would make me sell before she graduates. It’s not an ideal situation but I’m in a HCOL area with a house we bought almost twenty years ago. The local rent is more than double my mortgage so having to sell and stay in the area wouldn’t be doable.

Well for everyone’s sake I hope she gets it together before it’s too late. The whole situation sucks for kids already, why make it worse. Especially for a 16 year old. She wouldn’t even be able to force that in a court at his age.

Wow. Thats wild. As a kid who moved three times in high school, you’re a good dad for standing up for him. Do you have it in writing that she agrees it’s his choice, if so I’d just keep sending shots of it, but I’m petty.

The anger is the longest lasting emotion I think. I initiated and my STBX was beyond infuriated. He genuinely thought I’d never leave and regularly said dumb shit like “cheaper to keep her” so now he’s finding out just how cheap it could’ve been. He also hides money so that’s a fun twist to things. Tell her you’re hiring a forensic accountant just to make sure everything is correct. See how she reacts.

Also, you no longer have to care what she wants regarding lawyer/judge/mediation. You have to do the right thing for you and your son. She’s clearly gonna make things difficult regardless so why not go all the way?

One more thing (I didn’t mean to write a book, sorry) my STBX and I are getting along much better since I filed. He no longer thinks he’s solely in control so he’s not fighting everything. Since the day I hired my attorney, every time he says something about the kids, the house, the divorce, etc. I tell him I got an attorney so that I don’t have to have those conversations with him. He can call my lawyer if he has questions, or his own, but I no longer discuss anything besides generalities. It’s made life so much calmer.