William Leslie Arnold Disappearance Solved

elinordash · 2023-05-09T20:10:37+00:00

That thread is very focused on saying "It wasn't Meghan stans!" but Nicole Cliffe literally identified herself as a Meghan stan. I think that is the real source, some message board or discord of Meghan stans got this idea after the Sun article and Nicole Cliffe tweeted it.

elinordash · 2023-05-09T15:54:51+00:00

I don't feel super strongly about the fidelity of Will and Kate's marriage. I think both cheating and open marriages are fairly common among famous people. Having a parent that cheats often sets people up for infidelity in their own lives and both of Will's parents cheated (Diana had tons of affairs). But Will does seem like a very straight arrow.

I remember first seeing the William/Rose rumor on twitter via Nicole Cliffe. At that point, the idea of an affair not been reported on in the media. If I were more obsessive, I would try to track down receipts on when the rumor hit Twitter vs the press, but I swear it was on American twitter long before it made the press and that doesn't really make sense. Why would some rando in Utah have the inside scoop?

I seriously wonder if the whole affair thing is just a Twitter rumor. IMO Meghan Markle has the second most obsessive fans in the world (first place goes to Selena Gomez, third goes to Taylor Swift). I don't think Meghan leaked it, but I think her fans might be the reason it exists at all as a rumor.

A gag order is a legal order. The Royals cannot just create a gag order, a court or governmental body would have to create it and there is no reason why they would over an affair.

In the 90s Charles, Diana and Fergie all gave very personal interviews thinking that if people understood what they were dealing with they would be sympathetic. It didn't work out for any of them. All it did was create more tabloid attention and more disgust towards the monarchy. That tabloid attention led to Diana's death and her eventually canonization as the most wonderful person ever. After Diana's death the Royals went on press lockdown. Between 1997 and 2021, no Royal gave a truly personal interview. Kate didn't give an interview at all until she was engaged, despite 10 years of tabloid harassment.

The Royals are all afraid of the press- Harry said as much in the Oprah interview. I am sure there is some level of horse-trading that happens, but I don't think they are straight up planting stories. I think a lot of stories get leaked through general gossip. A dozen people were involved in the bridesmaid dress saga- any of them could have leaked that story. But the lack of British sources makes me think the whole Rose rumor is just Twitter nonsense.

elinordash · 2023-05-08T21:47:59+00:00

Class Action Park

elinordash · 2023-05-07T11:50:31+00:00

Haiti has literally been begging for peacekeepers for six months. And the Haitians know how badly things can go with peacekeepers, but they are desperate.

It is incredibly myopic to use what is happening in Haiti as a soapbox for ACAB. The world is bigger and more complicated than the three issues you care about and think you understand.

elinordash · 2023-05-07T11:48:03+00:00

Haiti is in deep trouble right now and it is surprising how little international press it is getting.

Why Haiti Asked for an Intervention, The Daily podcast, December 2022

Months after Haiti's prime minister and the UN pleaded for intervention in the violence-ravaged nation, world powers are searching for new ideas with no country eager to lead a force...Volker Turk, the UN high commissioner for human rights, told the Security Council on Wednesday that Haiti was "dangling over an abyss.", AFP May 5 2023

elinordash · 2023-05-06T22:12:32+00:00

NTA, but you could have easily avoided the whole comparison issue by giving everyone the exact same gift card.

elinordash · 2023-05-06T21:51:47+00:00

Diana was very young when she got married and it is shocking anyone thought it was a good idea for a 20 year old to marry a world famous 31 year old, but I think this comment really takes away her agency. No one forced Diana and Charles to marry and a lot of the messiness later on was Diana's own choice.

Charles and Diana briefly met when she was about 15 and he went on a couple of dates with her older sister. Charles cut off the relationship because Sarah gave a comment to the tabloids.

Charles and Diana met again when she was 19 and she asks how he is doing after his great-uncle's death. Charles is charmed by her and thinks she is super graceful and empathetic. They go on a handful of group dates.

Diana gets invited to visit Balmoral partly because she is seeing Charles, partly because her grandma is already there as a lady in waiting. Everyone loves her and Charles continues to invite Diana out.

The press catch wind of things and Philip tells Charles the press will ruin Diana's life unless she is protected and they can't really protect her until she is engaged. I don't think he was pushing Charles to marry her, but he was pushing him to make a decision. Charles decides to propose. At this point, Charles and Diana had been on like 3 solo dates and 12 group hangs. They barely knew each other. From Charles's 30-year-old perspective, obviously they were not in love but maybe love could grow and if it didn't they'd work something out. But Diana was only 19 and had never had a boyfriend, her ideas about love were simple so of course she thought he must be madly in love to propose.

Diana's grandma tried to talk her out of the engagement (before it hit the press). Diana's youth wasn't her objection, grandma knew Diana was already a bit emotionally unstable and didn't think she would hold up to the pressures of royal life. Diana brushed off her concerns. (Charles was a massive get at this point and Diana was never big on taking anyone's advice).

Because everything happened quickly, Charles was basically out of town for most of the engagement. Diana was lonely and unhappy. She finds out that his BFF Camilla was also his ex (I truly believe C&C were platonic at this point but I know others disagree). Diana considers calling off the wedding, but at this point it would be a national scandal that would follow her for the rest of her life. Might as well be a famous princess.

Diana and Charles take their honeymoon on the Royal Yacht and it is a disaster. Charles wants to spend the morning reading on deck, have lunch, then swim together. Diana is not a reader and takes Charles's desire to read as a personal slight. Charles lacks the emotional intelligence to talk Diana through issues like this one and as the older person he has more responsibility to act maturely, but Diana is also hypersensitive and has an explosive temper. (Example- at the age of 29, Diana pushed her stepmother down a flight of stairs because she felt like her mother wasn't being honored properly)

The marriage was a disaster from the start. Maybe if they'd been in couples counselling right away it could have worked, but in a lot of ways they were just too different to function together. After Harry's birth Charles borderline moves out (to his country place). Supposedly he wasn't sleeping with Camilla yet and Diana was the first to step out on the marriage. Her first affair was with a married man who had young kids. When he called off the affair, Diana began harassing his wife and the police had to get involved.

By 1990, Charles and Diana are functionally separated and they are both sleeping with other people. But they are still publicly together. Diana begins recording a series of audio tapes that are turned into a book by Andrew Morton. When the book is published it is advertised as "Diana's closest friends spoke to the author." Everyone who knows her in real life knows that is bullshit- the book is very much in Diana's voice and has info only she would know. People close to her ask why she participated with the book when it does so much to fuel the rumor mill. Diana denies to everyone that she was involved. Everyone knows she is lying.

A couple of years pass and Diana does the Bashir interview. She is sort of tricked into it by Bashir, but it is explosive and embarrassing to everyone. Will is hugely upset about it and Diana ignores his calls until the headmaster of Eton calls her and demands that she actually talk to her son. The Queen pushes Diana and Charles to divorce. I don't think Diana had any idea the interview would change her life so drastically. Diana makes out like a bandit in the divorce.

I feel sympathy for Diana because she was very young when she got married and there is no way someone that young could 100% understand what she was getting into. But she actively chose that marriage, it wasn't just something that happened to her. And there is a point when she is 30 with two kids and a string of exes where I feel like she could have chosen happiness and instead chose tabloid drama. I have sympathy for her, but I think Tina Brown is probably right that Diana had borderline personality disorder. I think it would have taken a tremendous amount of therapy for her to be happy with anyone.

elinordash · 2023-05-06T19:55:45+00:00

This reads like a college paper. Like this person is so deep in the ivory tower that they can't even begin to think about the practical elements of social change. I googled her and unsurprisingly, she is a PhD publishing her first book.

elinordash · 2023-05-06T18:14:20+00:00

NAH.

This is why I don't like diaper cakes. They are this big arts and crafts project that you can technically unwrap and use, but it can be a lot of work to take it apart and it isn't super hygienic.

I think neither your sister and brother in law didn't understand they could actually use the diaper cake diapers. They thought it was a decoration. Very few people would expect you to use 3 year old unboxed diapers, but lots of people pass along party decorations.

This is not a call-out situation IMO. This is a funny story that you share the next time your sister gets invited to a baby shower. "I know you meant well, but ...."

elinordash · 2023-05-06T17:45:29+00:00

I don't think the show is placing the blame on Suzie for Midge being absent.

Midge specifically said that she had already been on the road for 15 years when Suzy started booking her casino residencies. Depending on whether or not Midge is counting the early 60s as her road years, Ethan and Esther would have been in their late teens or possibly twenties when Midge was at the casinos. And she is specifically complaining about those residencies and not the earlier touring.

elinordash · 2023-05-06T17:41:34+00:00

Long before he was a comedian Lenny Bruce faked homosexuality to get out of WWII.

A decade before the obscenity arrests, he was pretending to be a priest and soliciting donations for a fake charity to pay his own bills.

The obscenity arrests didn't drive him off the edge, the obscenity arrests were a sign of how he was already off the edge. A lot of thirtysomething comedians with a kid to support would chose a clean act over the notoriety of repeated arrests.

elinordash · 2023-05-06T17:33:48+00:00

What you are describing sounds more like an ex becoming family. Midge called off a wedding ten years after her divorce because she is still hung up on Joel. That isn't friend chemistry, that makes it seem like Joel and Midge are the end game. Which can be romantic on screen, but would be kind of fucked up in real life because of how many people they would have hurt over the last 20 years.

elinordash · 2023-05-06T17:26:01+00:00

I don't think the show is placing the blame on Suzie for Midge being absent.

Midge specifically said that she had already been on the road for 15 years when Suzy started booking her casino residencies. Depending on whether or not Midge is counting the early 60s as her road years, Ethan and Esther would have been in their late teens or possibly twenties when Midge was at the casinos. And she is specifically complaining about those residencies and not the earlier touring.

elinordash · 2023-05-06T15:19:59+00:00

NTA.

It is your wedding, you don't have to include anyone.

However, other people have the right to their feelings about not being included and this create resentment with your parents, siblings, etc. So you aren't necessarily avoiding drama, you're just changing what the drama is about.

elinordash · 2023-05-06T14:10:02+00:00

Time says the sword is 8 pounds.

“[I] will be carrying the Sword of State, which is the heaviest sword, so I’ve been doing some press-ups to train for that,” she told The Times Red Box podcast of her role before the historic day. Mordaunt was required to keep the sword—which represents the king’s authority—at a right angle to her body. “We practiced with some replicas that were weighted, and it’s a huge honor to do it,” she added, noting that her navy background came in handy when preparing.

elinordash · 2023-05-05T15:35:44+00:00

I think the sister probably did approach the situation poorly... because she is overwhelmed. Her poor approach does not negate the fact that she deserves compassion. Part of being a decent person is allowing the people close to you some level of grace when they aren't 100% perfect. This situation is not an either or. OP doesn't have to take on guardianship to help her caretaking sister.

This is genuinely a tough situation. Having family involved is important for the well-being of people in group homes. OP's sister is not taking on a burden for fun, she is doing something valuable and compassionate. OP is not required to take on that burden, but she should be compassionate. Way too many of the posts here ignore the incredibly high stakes here.

elinordash · 2023-05-05T15:10:34+00:00

I think the sister probably did approach the situation poorly... because she is overwhelmed. Her poor approach does not negate the fact that she deserves compassion. Part of being a decent person is allowing the people close to you some level of grace when they aren't 100% perfect. This situation is not an either or. OP doesn't have to take on guardianship to help her caretaking sister.

This is genuinely a tough situation. Having family involved is important for the well-being of people in group homes. OP's sister is not taking on a burden for fun, she is doing something valuable and compassionate. OP is not required to take on that burden, but she should be compassionate. Way too many of the posts here ignore the incredibly high stakes here.

elinordash · 2023-05-05T14:50:31+00:00

The professionals are often overwhelmed dealing with so many needy people. They also don't know the person as well as their family does. Having a family advocate involved is valuable.

If you ever have a family member in a nursing home or group home, it is in their best interest to stay involved and visit in person if you can.

elinordash · 2023-05-05T14:46:54+00:00

This isn't about a hot stove, it is about the well-being of a disabled person. There is genuine value of family remaining involved in the care of someone who is in a home.

The alternative of handing custody over to the state is not a great outcome for the disabled sister and it is not surprising that the caretaker doesn't want to do it.

OP doesn't need to take over guardianship, but she should be willing to acknowledge the value in what the caretaker sibling is doing.

elinordash · 2023-05-05T14:39:15+00:00

They can be involved as in visiting, giving gifts, and doing some advocacy, but they would lose the power to be involved in her medical care.

elinordash · 2023-05-05T14:31:26+00:00

The sister is a single mom with three kids, one probably still in diapers, who is also caretaking her disabled sister. That is a lot.

The OP is incredibly dismissive of the value of what the sister is doing. That shows a lack of compassion.

I think the sister probably did approach the situation poorly... because she is overwhelmed. Her poor approach does not negate the fact that she deserves compassion. Part of being a decent person is allowing the people close to you some level of grace when they aren't 100% perfect. This situation is not an either or. OP doesn't have to take on guardianship to help her caretaking sister.

elinordash · 2023-05-05T14:26:35+00:00

Too many caregivers go into it with blinders on, minimizing the real obstacles.

Because there aren't any easy options in a situation like this. Being aware of how challenging this situation is doesn't actually fix anything.

And again, OP is fine handing over custody to the state so there seems to be no risk associated with the caregiver disappearing. If that actual happened in any real way (which is unlikely IMO), OP could pass custody to the state. So there is no risk for OP is helping a bit.

elinordash · 2023-05-05T14:22:04+00:00

INFO: Is there any reason why your parents wouldn't be excited to find out about this pregnancy?

Most people are excited to be grandparents. Announcing you are expecting on Mother's/Father's Day is one of the few exceptions to "Don't make someone else's day about you."

elinordash · 2023-05-05T14:18:42+00:00

She could babysit her sister's children while her sister does the caretaking.

At the very least, she could show compassion for her sister's work and its value rather than falling back on "I told you so."

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