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I (f21) have been dating my gf (f24) for four months. We’ve known each other about a year. She’s the girl I’ve ever dated or been with in that manner, and I think that this has caused a lot of issues for her.
Since the beginning, she has always commented that my clothes, the way I look, and my hair make me look like a “striaght girl”. She’s never said this in a rude way, just more of an observing way with some undertones to it. I’ve always told her that if my style or way I look bothers her, I’m more than likely not going to change it.
But she says it all the time. Every time I wear something “feminine” which is almost everyday. Every time she is close enough to touch my hair, she tells me “long blonde hair is so straight”. One time I liked a video of two feminine girls who were married on tik tok (the video was then showing their outfits) and my gf got mad and accused me of wanting her to look like them. For context she leans way more masculine, she has short hair, lots of tattoos and piercings, and even binds her chest sometimes.
One time, and I’m going to keep this as pg13 as possible… during sex, she asked me if I wanted… penetration… and I said yes, but apparently I said it “too enthusiastically” and she accused me of “missing dick”. Because I’ve dated men in the past.
Finally last night, we had a birthday dinner for a friend. I was wearing a black dress, really nothing special about it. But when my gf saw she demanded I change. I asked why. She gave me the usual answer. I told her to leave me alone about that and tried to walk past her to the car. Instead of letting me go, she yanked me back inside by my arms and held my face, demanding that change. I told her no- she told me no one was gonna think we were together.
Mind you this is literally all of our fiends, and they already know. I told her as long as she held my hand, I think they’d know. She eventually gave up but we spent the whole dinner pretty mad at each other. When we got home, she made me “prove” I liked girls, which just ended up with me in tears- not because I don’t like girls, but because I don’t like being forced to “prove it”.
She’s still so mad at me, but I just cant fathom that I’m the asshole here? What did I do other than wear what I’m comfortable in?? I don’t know. I said I’m sorry but she won’t take it. AITAH?
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I'm 18f my sister just turned 9 and yesterday around 5am she came to my room and I was already awake and watching a movie. She asked if she could spend time with me since I'm always working or at school and I told her she could.
She climbed into bed with me and we cuddled up in the blanket. Awhile later my dad walks in and sees us and started yelling loud enough that everyone woke up. According to him it's not appropriate for sisters to cuddle when one is significantly older and my mom is mad that I caused him to yell loud enough to wake her.
Her and I were both dressed, we both had shirts she was wearing pajama pants and I had some shorts on so I personally don't understand the issue.