but i like being called boyflux, it feels like its the right label and i identify as a dude most of the time

This is 100% what labelling is all about. If boyflux makes you feel good, then identify as boyflux! You don’t need to prove anything to anyone about you picking this term. There is no Gender God or Omniscient Identity Being that is going to storm down from the heavens to declare that you’re doing it wrong. Our labels are absolutely human-made for the purpose of humaning. Which means you get to identify off of gut feelings or happiness or absolutely whatever reasoning you have for identifying whatever way.

i really dont know if this is what you do on your blog

We do whatever we want and whatever is needed on this blog. :)

~Pluto

“Everything’s so confusing” should be my life slogan, friend.  You are not alone in this feeling, I can promise you that.  I’m still confused about my own gender, and here I am as a mod for a blog about gender!  If that’s not enough to tell you that it’s okay to be confused, I don’t know what is.  You’re okay, friend.  What you’re describing sounds a bit like demiboy, boyflux, demiboyflux, or proxvir to me, so I would start with those and go from there.  Take as much time as you need, friend.  It’s okay to be confused.

-Quinn

Boyflux or demiboyflux seem to fit this description well.

-Quinn