My 16 year old daughter made the not so bright decision to get her leg tattooed by a friend of a friend. It looks fucking awful and that’s not just me saying that she also hates it and is embarrassed by it. The guy who did the tattoo very much exaggerated his skill and experience. Basically looks like what you would expect to see doodled in the margins of a high schooler notebook.
Now that it’s fully healed my daughter and her mother (my ex gf) want to get it removed. Her mother does not have the money to pay for the sessions and thinks I should have to pay for the total process because of two reasons:
1: It was my day when our daughter went to the her friend’s house and got the tattoo.
2: I had previously agreed to pay for all of our daughter’s medical expenses since my ex had to go on disability.
My counterpoint to those arguments are:
1: My ex lets our daughter goes to this same friends house all the time when it’s her time.
2: A tattoo removal is far from a necessary medical expense unlike getting it checked to make sure it wasn’t infected and blood tests to check for diseases which I did take care of.
Personally I’m of the opinion that our daughter should get a job and save up to pay for the removal sessions on her own. I feel like this is natural and fair consequence of her choices. Her mom thinks I’m being too harsh. She thinks it’s enough that our daughter is regrets it a lot and is embarrassed by it.
My wife, Amber, has always had trouble with her confidence and making friends. As much as I try to encourage her to get out she was just never comfortable getting too close to anyone. I was actually pretty excited when she met Bill (45M) at work. She came home happy telling me she actually made a friend and that she hopes she doesn’t scare this one off. I reassured her that she’s awesome and has nothing to worry about.
Where things took a turn was just a few days ago when I saw a text thread between them that was extremely flirty. He would say things like “I really like you. I hope to be able to be more than friends one day.” And she have mixed responses from just a simple thank you. To things like, “We will just have to see when one day comes. 😈🥰” how I stumbled across these messages was when I couldn’t find the remote I saw her phone on the coffee table and knew it had the remote app. I grabbed it unlocked it, and found her messages open to someone named Stacy. I didn’t know Stacy so out of curiosity I took a look thinking she made another work friend. But found the flirting and the name change instead.
I confronted her after the kids went to sleep. She kept insisting that it was innocent and the name change was only because she knew I’d be upset and “freak out”. I expressed to her I can understand how outside complements can make someone feel good, but there was a line that was crossed when no matter how innocent it was she lied and did what I considered cheating.
I asked her if she had told Billy that she was married and she admitted she hadn’t but would clear things up the following morning at work.
That evening I asked her if she told Bill. She said she did and that the flirting was over. But the next day she was reclusive and on her phone a lot. I checked our carrier’s log because I had a feeling the whole truth wasn’t being told and saw Bill was the only person she was talking too.
So I got his number from the log and called him. I asked him if he knew Amber was married and he was clueless and polite. He said he isn’t a home wrecker and that he would cut off communications. That it never went beyond text etc. honestly pretty good guy all things considered.
Well this sent my wife over the edge and she is now on her way to her parent to stay the night. Saying that I was controlling for “not allowing” her to have a male friend. I told her I was fine with it until she changed his name in her phone and started flirting. That it was lying and cheating at that point.
So reddit was I in the wrong?
Edit: No rings allowed on the job due to safety rules. Didn’t think that would be an issue when she’s started a few months back.
Edit 2: I would typically agree she would be at the other dudes house in a post like this but we have life360 and I saw her arrive at parents place.
