this is a community like r/AmITheAsshole except unlike that subreddit here you can post interpersonal conflicts, anything that's AITA but is not allowed there even posting about Scar from the lion king and trying to convince redditors that he was not the AH. rules: don't berate others and no pornography we have children here
For context I (25M) and my girlfriend (23F) have been together for a year almost 2. When we first got together it was great, I had literally no complaints about her and something I even told her early on the relationship during a conversation about our likes and dislikes that I don’t find body hair on women attractive.
What I mean by body hair, I’m only talking about the armpits and legs. Everything else I don’t care. I told her I don’t mind stubble or just a little bit of growth but full blown long leg and armpit hair I don’t find attractive at all. She didn’t mind that I had that preference because she told me she doesn’t like the sensation of body hair on her.
Well recently she started growing out her body hair. Her armpits and legs almost look like mine now. I’ve asked her multiple times about it, not to remove it straight up but why has she been growing it out, and which she said she saw a TikTok about body positivity and it made her feel more confident.
I tried to like it, but I can’t. It doesn’t look good. I finally told her straight up that I don’t find it attractive. She didn’t like that, and said she doesn’t want me to be like “one of those men”. I told her if she doesn’t shave I’m going to break up since I don’t find her attractive because of this. Let’s just say she got extremely pissed off, that I’m never gonna find a woman that shaves daily for me. AITAH?
Edit: thought I’d add some more info since some people trying to twist it. I never said shave daily. I even said in the post I don’t care about some body hair. She had her leg and armpit hair grown out for months all the while I’m asking her about it. It’s extremely long and not taken care of, and I cannot be forced to like it lol. I did not straight up told her I was going to break up with her, this was after multiple attempts of me trying to ask her about it and saying I was not attracted to it.
Final edit: I looked through the majority of comments, I understand that I am an asshole. I decided to break it off with her. She did not take it lightly, decided to insult me and threatened to break my stuff. She ended up leaving though after some time, to stay at her mom’s house. I didn’t realize at the time it was fucked up of me to give her an ultimatum about this, so I deserved the insults. Thanks for the judgments though, changed my view on this sort of topic, but I’d thought it would be a good thing for the both of us to move on from each other.