I left my ex-wife after 10 years of deadbedroom. I left as soon as my youngest was 18 and I didnt hide my happiness while doing it. I threw a "ditch the bitch" party and I wake up everyday since then, with a smile on my face. My kids were not thrilled at this and stopped talking to me. I decided not to make amends with them or share my side of the story because I have done my part, I was there till they went to college, if they need me all they have to do is ask. But I am 46 and I plan to fill my life with as much joy and happiness as I can. I just dont have enough time left to try to convince my kids to not hate me.

I asked for divorce one year ago and two days later I met a woman online. My plan was to remain casual. That didnt pan out as I planned because this woman became my gf pretty fast.

Apparently my ex has been feeding lies in my kids minds that I left her for my gf and I was already cheating on her. My daughter who is the oldest started messaging to my gf on IG, saying bad things to her, how she is a home wrecker.

I ask my daughter to meet me and talk to me directly instead of harassing my gf. I bought her dinner and told her that I never cheated on her mother. Which honestly I regret, I should have cheated on her, I wasted my time suffering. I told her about deadbedroom and how she didn't put effort in our relationship(she is 22 so I think she can handle it).

She asked me why didn't I leave her mother before and I told her that I had this notion that I should ride it out until kids are 18. I thought that was right thing to do but I am not sure anymore. What I do know is that I don't want to think about it. I want to look forward to my future and if she wants to hate me she is free to do so. I seriously do not have any plans to convince her otherwise.

I want to spend rest of my life with people who wants to be with me. I really don't have any plans to convince others to be with me, even if they are my own kids. So if she wants to spend time with me, my doors are always open for her and her brother but she cant harass the woman who makes me happy. If she has so much problem with her then its best that we keep our distance.

My daughter asked me to give her proof that I only started dating my gf after separation and I showed her my messages. It took her about a month to process it but She eventually apologized to my gf and we spent time on together on new year eve. As my daughter got to know my gf, she understood how cool she is. They are bonding very well.

My ex raged when she learned that my daughter spent time with my gf. My daughter told her about what I said and told her that she does not blame me anymore and want to move on.

Now my ex is up my ass, sending me nasty messages about how I shouldn't have told our daughter about our sex life, how I am disgusting etc etc.

AITAH?