Sorry, I know this is talking about men and won't apply to a good chunk of you. But I feel like I'm going a bit crazy here and need to ask some women on their experience.

Does your male partner (if they go to the gym regularly) act like this is something they do as a way to provide for the whole household? Its not a hobby for them, they work AND go to the gym whereas you (the woman) just work (assuming you don't go to the gym) therefore you need to do more for the household to make up for this effort gap?

I have just noticed my partner has this mentality. He doesn't have much time or energy because of it, but its on me to support this lifestyle instead of on him maybe doing less of his hobby.

I subtly talked about it to my male friends sp I'm not pointing fingers and I get a similar reaction, that they go to the gym for themselves, but also as a way to provide.

If it was completely up to me to pick selfishly if my partner was to go to the gym or not, I would make him stay at home. Of course its not my choice and I'm happy he has this thing he enjoys and is passionate about, but beyond that him going to the gym provides nothing of value to me.

Does anyone else notice this pattern of behaviour or is it just me? Do I need to have a sit down convo with the men in my life?

Edit: I know exercise is good for your health and shouldn't be considered solely a hobby, particularly if you are doing the reccomended few hours a week focusing on health. He easily does 15+ hours a week. I think it becomes a hobby at that point.