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I (21F) had an irregular period for a few months after staring a new birth control.
Unfortunately my periods stained about 1/3 of my undies in the crotch area. It’s faint, but it’s still fairly noticeable. It’s a light rusty brown shade.
Now that my period is more regular the stained pairs have become my “period week underwear”.
The guy I’m seeing says he doesn’t mind period sex, but when we were doing the dirty he got REALLY grossed out when he saw my underwear. I was confused and explained it was an old period blood stain.
He told me how “unsexy” it was to see what looked like a sh*t stain in my underwear (wtf?). He asked if next time I could change into a “clean” pair. Not gonna lie this pissed me off.
I told him to grow up, and sarcastically apologized that my NORMAL BODILY FUNCTIONS is “unsexy” to him. Plus I pointed out he saw me pick out that pair of CLEAN underwear from my freshly washed laundry an hour ago after my shower.
We kept going in circles so I finally kicked him out of my place and texted him I’m not interested in seeing him anymore. I blocked his number. I’m too old to deal with someone who thinks blood stains are icky.
All of my gal pals agree that he’s immature since most women have a designated set of period stained underwear for shark week.
However a few of my guy friends said his reaction was understandable since he didn’t understand what it was, and I was too harsh. I could’ve “educated” him instead of going 0-100.
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I (19m) recently moved into a shared place and there is someone who keeps stealing my food. At first I thought it was just a mistake but even my leftovers were being eaten. It was very clear that the person was doing it on purpose. I spoke to my housemates about how I would just prefer to be asked first but they were nonchalant about it and none of them admitted to doing it and I haven't caught anyone in the act so I just tried to ignore it as it only happened every couple of days or so.
A few days ago I came home from work with a carton of eggs that I found while dumpster diving and some bread. I wanted to give the eggs the water test first before eating them just to make sure that they are safe to consume but I was too tired and went to bed early without eating. The next day I found out that one of my housemates got so sick he ended up having to go to the emergency room. My eggs were not in the fridge where I left them but I saw the carton and shells in the trash and my bread was opened. I had a hunch that it was him because there was a possibility that the eggs had gone bad but I was also annoyed at the fact that he helped himself to my food without asking.
When he came back, I asked him if he had eaten my eggs and bread but he denied. I then said okay but I hope whoever ate them doesn't get as sick as you did because I found the eggs in a dumpster. His face immediately dropped and he looked visibly uncomfortable. He got angry and went from saying that he may have consumed the food by mistake as he wasn't paying attention and doesn't exactly remember and accusing me of poisoning him.
He said that it's a health hazard to bring such food in communal spaces without warning everyone first as it's not uncommon for people in shared places to eat other people's food by mistake. He hasn't spoken to me since then and my housemates are siding with him and called me disgusting for doing that. A part of me feels like I wasn't wrong because they were MY eggs that I was fully intending on eating and I didn't think I had to warn people against eating food that didn't belong to them but I also do feel bad and guilty that he got sick. So Reddit please tell me if I was in the wrong?
EDIT; Just to clarify because I see comments that suggest that I may have done it on purpose, I didn't. I have been dumpster diving for some of my food recently so I was fully intending on eating it just like I have been eating the food that I have been finding while dumpster diving. I try to exercise caution and thankfully it hasn't made me sick yet but had he not eaten it, I was probably going to end up in the ER myself because I was obviously going to eat it.
I didn't randomly do it just to try bait and catch whoever has been eating my food. Food poisoning is not a joke. As I said I just moved recently and I'm just trying to get on my feet. I also understand that although I make sure to wipe my food first, ultimately it is gross to put food that came from a dumpster in a communal fridge or pantry and will not continue to do so. I will just put it in my room from now on.