For those who donโ€™t know, texts have surfaced from Jonah Hillโ€™s ex about him trying to control her posting certain types of pictures, what she wears and who she hangs out with.

It makes me sad because it reminds me (m23) of words I have said and thought processes I have possessed in my relationships. I never wanted to be harmful or controling. But as men we can be so encouraged to project our insecurities and issues onto the women in our life. Itโ€™s not right and it should be talked about.

It makes me sad that this behaviour is so commonplace that its become a trending discourse. It makes me sad I used to be part of it. It makes me sad that I donโ€™t know how to make it right.

I want to do better. I want to see the impacts of toxic masculinity in my life and deal with them in healthy ways. I hope we all get there.

edit: to everyone who got upset about me for talking about toxic masculinity, take your misplaced energy and negativity elsewhere. To the incels downvoting me, youโ€™re not achieving anything. I thought this was a self improvement sub but a lot of very secure men got very upset at me for daring to self reflect. Its sad, but Iโ€™m gonna stop engaging with the post as theyโ€™ve overrun it. To the people who engaged in good faith, thank you so much. You helped me a lot.