Oof yeah I've heard that's rough. My husband's is a bit before Christmas so he always just got shafted for both. I try to make sure he has a lot of good presents for both now to make up for when he was a kid.

I went from having huge costume parties every year and getting candy from everyone for my birthday to having to set up the decorations/candy station and pumpkins, plan/organize/coordinate getting everyone dressed and ready and out the door and then do the walk-along trick-or-treating which is cute but less fun and more arduous as an adult, then sort through okay candy and put hyper excited kids to bed before I can collapse and be done. Sometimes we do gifts and a cake after trick or treating, but most of the time my husband and I just go out for dinner the weekend before or after and call that my birthday now because it's just too exhausting and overloading to enjoy my birthday after making Halloween happen for everyone else.