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[–]anongirl55 1397 points1398 points  (4 children)

That is one adorable little girl!

I hope that whatever is really going on in private is in her best interest.

[–]briannagrapes 165 points166 points  (2 children)

She has his smile

[–]_SeaOttrs 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Omg, it's the exact same!

[–]Queefer_Sutherland- 1853 points1854 points  (13 children)

[–]DripIntravenous 254 points255 points  (1 child)

[–]stocktonbound 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I've been laughing at this for the last 87 years and I'm retiring now

[–]yourshaddow3 84 points85 points  (0 children)

Omg I love this.

[–]KyaHaiBaeAll bangers, all the time 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Stealing this so I can use it to death for all Bollywood celebs 🤣

[–]GuiltyPleasureAltcharlie day is my bird lawyer 27 points28 points  (0 children)

🤣🤣🤣

I will spread this far & wide

[–]StretchTucker 10 points11 points  (2 children)

what is that?

[–]rocket2themoon353 63 points64 points  (1 child)

A trash lid

[–]StretchTucker 18 points19 points  (0 children)

thank u

[–]ShymaidenAll tea, all shade 🐸☕️ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love this.

[–]CrissBliss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂

[–]theonewhodidthat 315 points316 points  (0 children)

[–]SentimentalSaladBowlThe dude abides. 397 points398 points  (4 children)

I’m probably just thinking of the same story written a few years ago about the same child but this is why I stopped crushing on his “WwooooooOoooOoW” ass.

[–][deleted] 69 points70 points  (3 children)

Luke is the superior brother anyway

[–]ccc2801[🍰] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

[–]slaymamacita 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did not realise they were brothers

[–]mel-06 234 points235 points  (0 children)

[–]Talisa87 388 points389 points  (16 children)

I remember reading about his refusal to see her when she was born. Was pretty baffled that he just straight up did not want to be around that child.

[–]Aware-Vacation6570 105 points106 points  (1 child)

I’m gonna say this. Grown men who make the grown men decision to sleep with a woman have to accept that if she gets pregnant and decides to keep the baby, you have to do the grown man thing and not only financially support the child, but to be there for them as well. Legally, all you have to do is financially support them but morally that doesn’t cut it. If you don’t like the sound of that, then wear a condom or get a vasectomy. Don’t just expect women to abort or your child to be cool with you never acknowledging them.

You don’t get to be a man only when you’re fucking someone.

[–]heartof_glass 329 points330 points  (22 children)

Yeah I’ve heard this before. Apparently he didn’t want more children and the mother knew this though I might be mistaken about the second part. That’s just what I remember seeing. Regardless, he has a daughter, provides for her financially and is already a father to his sons so I can’t imagine why he wouldn’t roll with the punches and be there for this little girl. Like is it really so much to give when the alternative is that she grows up feeling abandoned and ignored? Plus he had a long term relationship with this woman prior to her birth.

[–]Kianna9 309 points310 points  (4 children)

If he didn't want more kids probably should have done a vasectomy (assuming he didn't)

[–]heartof_glass 281 points282 points  (3 children)

Yup, definitely. Men are allergic to owning their reproductive health and decisions.

[–]meanmilf 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Ask Tristan Thompson, or Caitlyn Jenner, David foster, Jude law, Eddie Murphy

[–]late2reddit19All tea, all shade 🐸☕️ 104 points105 points  (1 child)

It’s immature and selfish to blame an innocent child for his and the mother’s choices. She looks just like him. He has the money and the time considering that I don’t see him in a lot of movies anymore. Why can’t he devote the time to see her?

[–]MichelleAntonia 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Because he simply doesn't want to, which makes him a huge dick.

[–]Afraid-Cow-6164 71 points72 points  (0 children)

he didn’t want more children and the mother knew this

These men out here will do anything but get a vasectomy

[–]estofaulty 112 points113 points  (0 children)

He didn’t want another kid? Then why did he come in her? Huh? Why? That’s his fault.

[–]ShymaidenAll tea, all shade 🐸☕️ 107 points108 points  (0 children)

No excuse.

[–]Signal-Illustrator38 1111 points1112 points  (51 children)

I'm very surprised by the tone of the comments so far. Of course we don't know what's going on behind the scenes, but for him to pay child support means that he recognises she's his child. He has access to the best lawyers so I really dont see the mothr being able to legally block access. So in short, this powerful, wealthy man has never met his 3 year old, who he acknowledges is his. What a deadbeat scumbag.

[–]Aware-Vacation6570 556 points557 points  (13 children)

this is gonna hit home for too many people tbh. people have to believe their dad/boyfriends were kept away from their children for reasons they can’t understand, when the truth is if they want to see their children they are legally entitled to see them.

[–]mtvcrips 324 points325 points  (7 children)

Yup I still see this weird rhetoric on here where people try to make it seem like men can’t legally go fight for the rights to see their children if they really wanted to.

[–]kaw027 207 points208 points  (5 children)

I don’t have them on hand but I’ve definitely read that men who do fight for rights to their children overwhelmingly win them

[–]buddlecug 234 points235 points  (1 child)

They don't even have to fight. Courts default to joint custody. Children on the internet are just echoing the cheap excuses their dads gave for why they never called.

[–]OohBeesIhateEm 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Ooh, ouch

[–]petielvrrr 157 points158 points  (1 child)

I believe it’s something like 94% of child custody cases are handled outside of court, and those who do go to court are almost always given joint custody. So when people point out that only 20% of fathers have some form of custody, it’s not an issue with the court system they’re talking about, it’s an issue with fathers not fighting for custody.

[–]wildgoldchai 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I’m a solicitor in the UK. You’re right, the majority of custody cases are usually taken place through “family courts” or mediation. Due to the many nuances involved, no two cases will ever be alike though of course, you’ll have precedent cases present.

It is only when there is significant battle over the splitting of custody, is it escalated to the courts. It’s often the case that father lets the mother assume full/majority or 50% of the parental responsibility/custody. If the former applies, it’s for a reason. However, it’s sadly not often that the father (or mother) seeks to challenge this.

[–]wigglebuttbiscuits 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yup. It’s far more likely that a woman will be forced to share custody with her abuser than that a good dad will be denied custody of his kids if he fights in court. Meanwhile deadbeat dads say they didn’t bother with court because ‘it’s so biased against dads’ and everyone just nods sagely.

[–]tattooedplant 30 points31 points  (1 child)

My dad had to make sure I was legally his before he abandoned me. Lmao. I was pretty young and still remember the swab, court house, and everything. What’s sad is that he literally always lived a town over while I was growing up. It was prob good though bc my bio dad is a piece of shit. My mom knew I would always find out the truth of the situation though.

[–]Aware-Vacation6570 10 points11 points  (0 children)

ugh I am so sorry. there’s no excuse for his actions and it’s not your fault.

[–]throwtheclownaway20 62 points63 points  (2 children)

Yeah, you have to be a massive piece of shit with serious receipts against you for the courts to completely bar you from access to the child. Or your ex is rich & well-connected.

[–]panicked-honk 199 points200 points  (6 children)

I don’t think most people realize how hard it is to completely loose custody/visitation rights with your children. Even DV against the other parent isn’t enough to completely lose it…In most states you really have to fuck up or just not care about being a parent.

[–]capulets 58 points59 points  (1 child)

i remember the josh duggar case two years ago. he was still allowed access to his children while on trial for watching child porn.

[–]ABowlOfPetunias_ 97 points98 points  (0 children)

Yep. I have sole legal and physical custody legally. My kids father still has a right to supervised visits to her.

He just never takes them up despite me going to him and asking who I his family he’d like to be the supervisor. All of the people he chose are always willing to supervise. They’re in his home state and mine. I have been willing to travel.

He threatened to kill me because I “kept him away from our daughter”. I’ve never done that. He could have visited or taken her any time before threatening me. But after threatening me he forced me to go to court so I went for child support and sole custody.

I don’t trust men at all when they say they’re kept away from their kid. If you wanted to, you’d be there.

[–]designing-cats 28 points29 points  (1 child)

It really depends on the judge. I knew a lady (a close friend's aunt) who lost all custody rights to her two children because she attempted suicide like a decade before the first was born - her ex apparently was able to spin it as her being emotionally unstable and was awarded full custody. However, a HS classmate of mine got joint custody of his kids despite being an active opioid addict. These were both in NYS (different counties, however).

[–]skyewardeyes 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Owen did have a suicide attempt a few years ago--my first thought when I saw this post was that I wonder if the two are related.

[–]Sudden_Cabinet_1479 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Even DV to the kid isn't enough half the time!

[–]Pippin_the_parrot 107 points108 points  (6 children)

Oh, he doesn’t like the mother of the child and told her he didn’t want any more kids, then he did the thing with her that makes kids. He has no interest in this kid and it’s gross.

[–]ParsleyandCumin 3 points4 points  (5 children)

Yes, it is possible to want sex without wanting to procreate.

[–]Jerkrollatex 121 points122 points  (1 child)

If only there was a thing a man who wants to have sex but doesn't want more children could have done 🙄

[–]Pippin_the_parrot 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Yeah, I get that’s what he wanted and yet it’s not how sex works. Actions have consequences. Unwanted babies are a consequence of sex.

Go to a bar and tell the bartender you do not want a dui tonight. Then proceed to get drunk and drive home. I’m sure if you explain to the cops that you did not want to go to jail, and see if they let you go? Sure, you did the things that lead to a dui, but it’s not what you wanted. I’m sure they’ll be very understanding.

[–]livthelove 170 points171 points  (2 children)

Yeah this is bizarre to me. Everyone who is defending him by saying he didn’t want another child… too bad, you have one. Take some responsibility and be a parent. This little girl didn’t choose to be born; how awful to grow up knowing your very famous father wants nothing to do with you, especially if he is involved in his other children’s lives.

[–]remadeforme 129 points130 points  (0 children)

If he knew he didn't want more kids then he should have taken control of his reproductive health and gotten a vasectomy.

I'll never understand the men who don't do this. My partner did, we're childfree. He had 0 issues from it and has encouraged several other men to do it too.

[–]le_chaaat_noir 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Exactly right. He knows how babies are made. If he didn't want one, he should have made sure it didn't happen. It's not that difficult.

[–]aewright0316 21 points22 points  (2 children)

This is my situation, with the exception of my son’s father not being wealthy and powerful. He gives me a sad pittance of child support every month, which doesn’t even cover toiletries, but has no desire to know his son. He walked out on my son’s third birthday and never looked back.

[–]Aware-Vacation6570 12 points13 points  (1 child)

I’m so sorry. That’s a sad excuse of a man. Wishing you and your son well🤍

[–]aewright0316 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much ♥️

[–]anastasia_dlcz 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yeah the tone of the “well he legally gave up rights!!” In what universe does legality equal morality? He may legally not have to see his daughter but he’s still an asshole for parenting two kids and willingly leaving another in the dust. I have my own deadbeat dad abandonment issues but that situation is beyond my comprehension.

[–]ChampionEither5412 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I would understand if he was totally against having kids and if this had been a one night stand, but he's an active parent to his first two kids and it was a five year relationship. Why would you enjoy being a dad to the first two but refuse to even meet your third child?

It's not like he doesn't have the time or money. If he doesn't want to see the ex-girlfriend, I'm sure he could figure out a way to communicate with her minimally or through an intermediary. I just don't get why he would feel so differently about this one child, who did nothing wrong herself. She's just an innocent kid. Why not be a dad to her?

[–]CokeMoochpopculturechat’s #1 Trueblood fan 🧛🏻 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Wtf are these comments rn?

[–]abortionleftovers 179 points180 points  (5 children)

Two things can be true at once: it can be true that it’s really shitty for him to KNOW he’s her father and completely emotionally abandon her, and it’s also true that she’s probably better off that he not half ass participate in raising a child he doesn’t want. It’s a huge void to not know your parent but it’s IMO way more emotionally damaging to have a parent who comes and goes in and out of your life, and resents your existence when you’re with them. If he knows he can’t be a good father to her then not being a father at all is the right choice and also is really shitty that he’s a person who can have a child they don’t even try to love.

[–]Megs0226 58 points59 points  (3 children)

My friend’s daughter deals with this. She’s old enough to know her dad is a POS and doesn’t want to be around him anymore when he does come by. My friend wants him gone altogether. I guess sometimes it’s better not to know your parents, sad as that is.

[–]HeartFullOfHappy 100 points101 points  (6 children)

I mean we could go around and around about this. Really we could.

Wilson made it clear that he did not want a child but instead of taking control of the situation himself and getting a vasectomy, he chose to maybe only use a condom and it broke or the woman’s birth control failed. Or maybe the woman he was with tricked him and lied about being on birth control or some other crazy situation. We don’t know.

The woman chose to have a baby with a man who explicitly said he did not want anymore children. She made the decision to have this child. She gets ample child support and is raising the child alone.

The whole situation sucks but at the end of the day, a child is here. She exists in this planet and Owen Wilson, her father is choosing to all but ignore her existence outside of finances. That is fucked up. It isn’t that little girl’s fault how she came to be. Owen sucks because he is neglecting a child he helped create.

[–]Aware-Vacation6570 25 points26 points  (0 children)

this is the best comment on this godforsaken thread lol

[–]PorkNJellyBeansKim, there’s people that are dying. 22 points23 points  (2 children)

I don’t know what I would do if this were me, bc I’ve never been there, but the only real issue I have with the mom is her airing their business on social media. It’s real passive aggressive. I would want to shield my daughter from knowing her dad doesn’t want to see her & not broadcast that fact to the world.

[–]HeartFullOfHappy 16 points17 points  (1 child)

No, I completely agree with this. The mother is suspicious in this situation but it doesn’t excuse Owen Wilson harming his child in such a devastating manner.

[–]PorkNJellyBeansKim, there’s people that are dying. 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, everyone’s failing this little girl. I just want to give her a big hug and tell her she is wanted and loved.

[–]Pippin_the_parrot 84 points85 points  (3 children)

He’s such a turd sandwich. He plays all these great guys and he’s a fucking dumpster fire. Get a vasectomy or don’t fuck ppl you don’t want kids with. My dad didn’t meet me either and he knew about me. Even though I know my dad was a piece of shit, it still sucks and never really leaves you. Fuck Owen Wilson. I haven’t watched anything of his in years, since I first learned about this poor kid.

[–]ComprehensiveDoubt55 13 points14 points  (2 children)

  1. Owen Wilson sucks.

  2. I’m glad I’m not the only one who says “turd sandwich.”

  3. You deserved better than that, and I’m sorry for everything your dad has caused you to feel.

[–]Pippin_the_parrot 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Thanks ❤️. I’ve had enough therapy to appreciate i was always better off without him. He was in a relationship with my mom, which is a huge red flag. I just wish kids weren’t so disposable. Anywhoozlebee, what a double decker turd sandwich 😬.

[–]ComprehensiveDoubt55 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I always joke with my mom that we all end up fucked up and then we look back and decide which parent we can blame. That’s why I chose to be who I am now once I had my daughter. Kids don’t ask to be born to their parents. She’s sort of an anti-natalist though so she very much reminds me that she didn’t choose to be here in her moments.

I hope you continue your healing. ❤️ His loss.

[–]buddlecug 134 points135 points  (2 children)

Y'all in the comments right now desperate to make this okay:

[–]CollectionFull5254 93 points94 points  (4 children)

I wish more people knew about this. Whatever his issues are, paying enough child support doesn’t fill the hole in his little girl’s heart from knowing her dad didn’t care enough to be around. He’s pathetic

[–]apurrfectplace 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Does the girl see her brothers and his other two baby mamas? Just curious.

[–]StupidNameRejected 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Someone needs to give this penis a vasectomy.

[–]woahtheregonnagetgot 54 points55 points  (0 children)

if he’s an active father for his sons but doesn’t parent his daughter then … isn’t that essentially preventing her from having a relationship with her brothers? otherwise how would she be around her brothers knowing they have their dad but he doesn’t acknowledge her? poor girl

[–]EternalSunshineClem 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Any of you defending him clearly don't have an absentee dad and don't know how much damage this does

[–]TeamOggy 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Not relevant at all, but one time I was walking down a busy sidewalk in Vancouver and some prick was riding his bike on the sidewalk, when there's a seawall bike lane just across the street. Guy gave me a dirty look for not giving him right of way and I shook my head at him. Then I realized it was Owen Wilson and I just assumed he was a dick since then.

[–]JackieTreehorn79 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nah, he’s a scumbag for not being in her life. No excuses.

[–]Horror_Resident_1368 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yep deadbeat. Sorry but monetary support is not enough. Total POS.

[–]lepetitgrenadeWho gon' check me boo? 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Three different women? This is news. Wrap it up, Owen. 😒

[–]Elegant_Panic7858 144 points145 points  (13 children)

In all honesty, he said he didn't want to be her father even before he knew she is a girl, so it's not the "he only wants boys" scenario many tabloids made up.

We obviously have no way of knowing what happens behind close doors, but i think his relationship with her mom ended on a very poor note in order for him to do that. He is very hands on with his oldest kids, so it's not like he is a regular deadbeat.

That being said, his ex going to the newspapers with this story every year won't help her daughter. Quite the opposite

[–]docileathena 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I just feel bad for a little girl who will one day e aware of a parent that didn’t want to know her growing up (but at least he’s being financially responsible). Maybe they can have a relationship when she’s an adult.

[–]momofwon 79 points80 points  (10 children)

It really gives me the ick when baby mamas sell stories to tabloids. Like, your daughter is going to grow up and read this some day.

[–]Zealousideal-Feed156 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I agree. Also it’s not going to work. You cannot shame somebody into being a good parent.

[–]RosieODonnell 59 points60 points  (5 children)

These stories coming out have always felt very…idk, coercive to me, like it’s pretty obvious at this point that he never wanted this child to be born and made it clear he had no intention of being involved beyond child support etc if she chose to keep the pregnancy. She chose to have this baby knowing the father had 0 intention of being involved, he stuck to that and didn’t even show up for the birth, and then she still appears to go to the media once or twice a year to share how he has still never met his daughter etc. with pictures and sad stories about how him not being involved is impacting the child, like what did you expect? I feel like that just reopens an eternal wound for the innocent child, like let it be a private issue and tell that kid how wanted she was and how loved she is by you (the mom) and leave it out of the media, because guilting him into becoming an involved parent is so much worse than being like k cool, you don’t wanna be involved but I want her, and you can be responsible for your part financially and not involved then, goodbye

[–]frostysboxKim, there’s people that are dying. 16 points17 points  (3 children)

No one knows what happened, but the fact that she does this every year makes me think she’s the type of person who would reproductively coerce someone.

Also, despite the fact that he’s not involved, Owen Wilson does seem like the type of guy who wouldn’t come out and say “It was rape because she said she was on birth control when she knew she wasn’t.”

Despite the fact if you wrote an AITA about it, that’s what everyone would call it. And maybe it is. We just don’t know what happened behind closed doors, but her actions in taking this to the tabloids makes me think it’s more than possible that’s what happened.

[–]comityoferrorsPlease Abraham, I'm not that man 12 points13 points  (0 children)

this is a really gross comment and AITA is not, in any way, shape, or form, the arbiter of normal human morality! I'm so baffled by this that it's almost comical. Wow. "He'd never say it's rape BUT I WILL, WITH NO EVIDENCE." Jesus christ.

[–]HerRoyalRedness 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There are many ways to make sure you don’t have a child when you don’t want one. He is grown and can make his own reproductive choices.

[–]BinkyDalash 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Famous absent dad and a mom who thinks repeatedly trashing him publicly is the way to go…poor kid.

[–]JunkInTheTrunkKim, there’s people that are dying. 35 points36 points  (1 child)

Oh, no, her daughter will grow up and know the truth about her deadbeat dad one day… the horror. He’s made his bed, if it’s embarrassing to lay in it, he’s free to unmake it at any point.

[–]SadDancer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Agree, I think for someone who didn’t want a child but the mother chose to anyway, he’s doing what he’s responsible for doing. Does it matter whether he has two already or not?

There is also a possibility he knew he slept with her and is providing for the child anyway because he has the means to. Like a Catch and Release kinda situation. But then again it’s unlikely he would’ve done that without a paternity test?

[–]outdatedelementz 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s really disappointing to read.

[–]NoshameNoLies 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is what happens when two people are careless, make a baby and then only one of them doesn't want the child.

[–]swayinandsippinThe dude abides. 4 points5 points  (0 children)

wow…

[–]Miamimommy91 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I found this out about 6ish months ago and it also completely changed the way I look at him. I’m glad he pays support but I think poorly of him since he refuses to even meet her once.

[–]NotLibbyChastain 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The grass is always greener, I guess. I can think of a lot of single mothers who wish the father of their children would just give them a pile of money every month and then fuck off, instead of using co-parenting and family court to continue to manipulate, abuse and toxify the family unit.

[–]TuluRobertson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a bummer to hear

[–]Lazy-Bee6087 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn I’m not surprised he sucks lol

[–]mydresserandtv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't know this. And I am extremely disappointed to know this.

[–]l0ngbottom_leaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apparently he questions the paternity, but it’s not like paternity tests are hard to come by? Maybe the mom doesn’t want one done? Lots of missing details honestly

[–]NowIsNew✨May the Force be with you!✨ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

[–]strawberrispaghettiAs you wish! 👸👑 6 points7 points  (0 children)

glad i always hated him

[–]Calm-Perspective-313 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Would you rather have an asshole dad in your life or not know your dad but be provided for financially? I'd choose the latter. Maybe that's why he made that decision

[–]The_Proponent 35 points36 points  (36 children)

[–]Frogmann20 129 points130 points  (24 children)

Sooo get a vasectomy, condoms, keep your dick in your pants maybe?

[–]FederalCar6186 66 points67 points  (13 children)

Fr these ppl will make any excuse for deadbeat white men. Vasectomies are 99% effective and reversible to boot

[–]remadeforme 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Legit it doesn't hurt for long, my husband wasn't even put under for it and got to chill playing video games all weekend to recover.

There's no loss of sensation or lingering pain and it's been years now.

I don't understand why it's such a huge thing that men refuse to do and yet they demand women be in charge of the couples birth control.

[–]Frogmann20 35 points36 points  (3 children)

This thread is mind blowing

[–]Horror_Resident_1368 15 points16 points  (1 child)

This is why we can’t/won’t progress as a society. Internalized misogyny is wild. The call is coming from inside the house.

[–]FederalCar6186 5 points6 points  (0 children)

100%

I swear some women's only hobby is victimizing other women. Shit is sad

[–]comityoferrorsPlease Abraham, I'm not that man 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bet all the folks in here who are falling over backwards to support his choice are the same people who post the "Why doesn't he want me, man?" gif in the threads about most heartbreaking TV moments. Happy to empathize with actors playing roles; unwilling to empathize with the actual people in those situations, especially if an actor they like is the bad guy. Unreal.

[–]Zealousideal-Feed156 10 points11 points  (5 children)

To me this is a bodily autonomy issue. It’s stupid - he should get a vasectomy and if he didn’t have one before I hope he does now.

But he didn’t have to get a vasectomy anymore than any woman has to get an abortion. That’s a choice he gets to make about his body regardless of how stupid it is.

[–]joannchilada 10 points11 points  (4 children)

A vasectomy is minimally invasive and generally has no negative mental health or physical health impacts. The same cannot be said for many kinds of abortion. Plus, vasectomies remain legal and protected while abortion access diminishes. It's apples and oranges.

[–]Zealousideal-Feed156 5 points6 points  (3 children)

Sure but the bottomline is you get to make decisions about your own body regardless of how invasive or not. It’s your own body. I refuse to even entertain this idea.

I live in Georgia (USA) so I am pissed AS FUCK about the abortion bans. But I’m also a purist. Bodily autonomy is for everybody.

[–]joannchilada 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Yes. And if you choose not to have a vasectomy then it's time to step up and be in the life of the child you created.

[–]SpicyWongTong 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Would it really make it any less messed up if he had used a condom that failed?

[–]Frogmann20 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well as an adult I would think if you really didn't want any kids enough to be in their life you would make a more permanent solution.

[–]1_finger_peace_sign 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree that he should've gotten a vasectomy but as he can't go back in time it's pointless to argue what he should have done in the past. He chose not, he chose to have sex with and a pregnancy resulted. He is dealing with consequences- the single legal obligation he had to provide monetary support. She has to deal with the consequences too. She knew from the beginning that following through with the pregnancy would mean that she would be raising her alone with only his financial support so her saying that "she needs a father" now is ridiculous. She was completely aware that that "need" wouldn't be met when she made her decision. So she's just complaining about the consequences of her decision while he's actually dealing with his. If you want your child to have a father in their life- don't have a child with someone who made it clear they don't even want to meet them.

[–]joannchilada 67 points68 points  (4 children)

He has a choice to put himself in the position of impregnating someone. If you truly don't want children, get a vasectomy and confirm it was successful, still use condoms if you're not sure, etc. No one held him down and forced him to knock someone up.

[–]pithyretort 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Legally, men get no say in whether a woman gets an abortion. However, they are within their rights to pay child support and not be present in the life of a child they didn't want.

So? Who is arguing that this isn't within his legal rights? A lot of straight up abusive behavior is also perfectly legal, but that doesn't mean people aren't allowed to call out how shitty it is.

If we only criticized celebrities for things they do that aren't within their legal rights, this sub would be pretty fucking dead.

[–]CheruthCutestory 23 points24 points  (3 children)

Where do you live? Legally women have no say in whether they get an abortion in much of the US and they have to carry it.

[–]suaculpa 5 points6 points  (1 child)

That was definitely NOT the case three years ago.

[–]CheruthCutestory 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it was. It’s been the case for 30 years. The official reversing of Roe just cemented it

Like I have zero opinion on Owen Wilson but don’t claim abortions are freely available in the US. Even in a lot of blue states that’s not the case.

[–]frostysboxKim, there’s people that are dying. 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This girl is not 24 months old soooooo

[–]galaxystars1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The thing is though, I hope when the girl gets older and realizes who her dad is that Owen will actually at least meet her.

[–]missihippiequeenYou’re doing amazing, sweetie! 👏👏📸 15 points16 points  (8 children)

I don't know the story to this. But if he was upfront from the beginning about not wanting another child and she chose to go through with the pregnancy anyways , then why should he be present in the child's life? He's doing his part financially . But yall act like he HAS to be in the child's life. She's clearly a child not wanted by him, so she's would feel that either way. Either she doesn't know him at all (like currently) and just wonders why her dad didn't want her someday, or he agreed to visitations but still treated her as if she wasn't wanted. Children can feel when they're not wanted in the presence of adults, and it would've been do different here if he had done visitations with a child he didn't want, he would've never tried to connect with her and would've simply gotten her out of obligation and had a nanny or someone care for her.

[–]eminemilie 16 points17 points  (2 children)

Sure, he’s allowed to not be present in her life if that’s what he wants. But people are allowed to say and express that he’s scum for doing that, because no decent person would allow their child to grow up without both parents involved

[–]The_Proponent 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Legally, if he pays child support than he is within his rights to not see a child that he didn’t want. He allegedly made it clear that he didn’t want more kids, and that he would not be involved in the child’s life when Vongsvirate got pregnant. This might sound harsh, and while I feel for the child, if Vongsvirate wanted her child to have a present father, she should have brought her child into the world with a man who wanted to be one. Wilson pays her 25K a MONTH. She will never have to worry about money, childcare, or a terrible co-parent that steps on her toes. She is so much better off than the majority of single moms. At this point she should go find another man to be her child’s dad rather than reaching out to Wilson.

[–]sea87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand men like him and Hunter Biden who choose to abandon (I’m not talking about child support) just one child

[–]terurinHow can mirrors be real if our eyes aren’t real? 9 points10 points  (29 children)

He pays a TON of money in child support, $25k per month. We don’t know the whole story.

edit: I realize I’m in the minority. In my opinion, with concerns to a father who does not care to raise a child for whatever reason (the whatever reason is the part we are not privy to), I would rather he be absent and send money than present and get in the way of potential future relationships with stepfathers and cause issues related to his not wanting to raise the child/work with the mother. Obviously the ideal scenario is that Owen Wilson would be a doting and present father, but that was never an option. $25k a month is the next best thing.

[–]Aware-Vacation6570 95 points96 points  (7 children)

how much money a day keeps the attachment issues away?

[–]terurinHow can mirrors be real if our eyes aren’t real? 17 points18 points  (4 children)

People act like having a father makes people into healthy human beings…it’s silly. Everyone is fucked up for some reason or another. She has a present mother, set for life financially, if her mom is so concerned that her daughter needs a father, why try to get that from her ex who has made it clear he doesn’t want a part in their life outside of financially instead of other people who may want to be present? What benefit would it have? They agreed on this before she was born. I feel like this is a personal issue we know only one side of.

[–]Alternative_Scene322 50 points51 points  (2 children)

At the end of the day OWEN is her father and that child will have to come to terms with the fact that her dad knows of her but wants nothing to do with her while he happily fathers two other children. That's going to fuck her up and give her issues no matter what anybody in her life tries to do for her. She is the innocent victim here and Own is a douche bag to do that to her.

[–]terurinHow can mirrors be real if our eyes aren’t real? 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Owen provided half her DNA. He made an adult agreement with her mother to not be a part of her life except financially before she was born. We do not know the details of this agreement. Y’all act like stepfathers don’t exist.

[–]Used_Berry_7248 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dad died when I was four, and he wanted me, and my mental health is completely fucked.

[–]ParsleyandCumin 1 point2 points  (1 child)

So if he didn't want the kid at all he should be forced to have a relationship with them, possibly harming the child even more?

[–]Aware-Vacation6570 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Here’s a wild idea: he shouldn’t abandon his child or “possibly harm” her by having a relationship with her. He should get his act together and act like a grown man by being a father to his child.

[–]another_feminist 22 points23 points  (3 children)

Did you read the article? He signed away all his rights & noted on the paternity paper that he did not want visitation. That’s the whole story.

[–]terurinHow can mirrors be real if our eyes aren’t real? 7 points8 points  (2 children)

That’s the whole story on paper. We don’t really know the details leading up to that. That’s all I’m saying.

[–]another_feminist 6 points7 points  (1 child)

It’s a weird thing to defend either way.

[–]terurinHow can mirrors be real if our eyes aren’t real? 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not really. I’m also not totally defending his actions… I don’t agree with his decision on a personal level. But it’s better to me that a father that doesn’t want the child stays out of their life. This is not really much different than giving a kid up for adoption.

[–]terurinHow can mirrors be real if our eyes aren’t real? 11 points12 points  (0 children)

So what is everyone’s opinion on giving up a child for no contact adoption when they do not want (or are unable) to keep the child? 🤔

Do those parents still have an obligation to the child? Is it somehow better if both parents agree to have no contact with the child rather than only one of them? Are they inherently selfish and stupid for having sex without protection/with broken protection and not dealing with the consequences? Should parents who don’t want their kids be forced to raise them?

[–]Cautious-Style-7740 58 points59 points  (9 children)

Who gives a shit? Money doesn't fix not having a dad.

[–]terurinHow can mirrors be real if our eyes aren’t real? 21 points22 points  (8 children)

Again…we don’t know the whole story. This was agreed before she was born. Just because her mom says she needs a father doesn’t mean Owen needs to be that father. It’s better for a father who doesn’t want her to be absent than present tbh.

[–]Cautious-Style-7740 28 points29 points  (7 children)

He has an obligation to his child.

He IS her father. Whether he wants to be or not. It's indefensible.

[–]terurinHow can mirrors be real if our eyes aren’t real? 60 points61 points  (5 children)

Technically, no he doesn’t. He signed away the rights to custody and visitation. Would I do that? No. Would I agree to that? No. This shit happens every day though. Every time I hear this story I just can’t help but think it’s one side of an issue we are not privy to further details of. But I’ll withhold further judgement.

[–]Practical_Tear_1012 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't get why this is coming up. They agreed to no custody and paying support. They are grown adults who made what they felt was the best decision. We don't know why that was the agreement.

[–]ParsleyandCumin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No he doesn't. Moral? Maybe, I personally don't think so if this was all agreed beforehand. Legally? Not at all.

[–]kitty_aloof 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m confused by so many comments to this post, calling him a deadbeat. He pays child support; a lot of child support. So how is he a deadbeat? He supports, at least financially, the child.

Do I feel for the child, sure. Hopefully she is surrounded by many people that do love her and care about her.

But I agree, we don’t know the full story.

[–]PossibleNovel3454 3 points4 points  (2 children)

JUST DO A PATERNITY TEST HANSEL!!!!

[–]Elegant_Panic7858 29 points30 points  (0 children)

They did.

[–]jokekiller94 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Just look at the smiles. Just need to hear her say wow to confirm it.

[–]The_Proponent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is going to be an unpopular opinion, but Wilson allegedly made it clear that he did not want more kids and would not be present in the child’s life when Vongsvirate got pregnant. Legally, men get no say in whether a woman gets an abortion. However, they are within their rights to pay child support and not be present in the life of a child that they didn’t want. While I feel for the child, especially if she gets older and wonders where her father is, her mother bought her into the world KNOWING he would not be involved in her life. It’s unfair, but this is the situation that happens based on the rights of all 3 parties.

Wilson pays 25K a MONTH in child support. Vongsvirate is SO much better off than the majority of single mothers; she will NEVER have to worry about money, childcare expenses, or a co-parent stepping on her toes. At this point, it would be in the child’s best interest to accept the situation and find another man to be her child’s dad.

[–]MelodicPiranha 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Imagine being a grown ass man with a lot of money and not accepting your responsibility. He’s a joke.

[–]suaculpa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's paying child support. That isn't the issue.

[–]GamingSince1998 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow!!!!

[–]Puzzleheaded_Eye7311 -5 points-4 points  (2 children)

He would be one of those dads you see in a viral gender reveal where they’re visibly upset that the child is girl, what a horrible dad. Gender disappointment is one thing but pure neglect is VILE

[–]SpicyWongTong 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Someone above said he made it clear he didn't want anything to do with this child before gender was known. So, he's an equal opportunity deadbeat dad...