Hello I am a 25 F who had went through a pretty bad break up back in June 2021. I had ended things with my fiance 25m at the time over his dishonesty in the relationship. I had heard him admit to me through him being overly drunk saying that he had bought services from a strip club back in the beginning of our relationship. Later to find out that he had still been going and I had no clue up until our engagement. During the finding out May- June 21 I had learned things about him watching porn rather then have sex with me .. by seeing it threw his phone and also purchasing only fans. I was more mad/hurt /frustrated that he had kept things like this from me that I decided to end things.. but what concerned me looking back was his reaction to my tears. He never cried or even really wanted to talk about things he did and only blamed my reaction to why he was dishonest. He would avoid me and make the home hostile. Even making me sleep on the couch... And threw a bed in the basement for me... Until I left .. we tried couple counseling and he was very resistant, felt like he was just getting blamed and didn't see it as any way else... Part of me can see he is Narrsisictic, or selfish... But I don't know what to believe anymore...
What runs through my mind my ex fiance was my dream man and I was sooo on love and happy... I moved on and we were engaged within 8 m and we had a house dog and a wonderful home ... So his decite hurt me more.
Its now been almost a year and him wanting me back. He had dated multiple women hooked up and says that he is done and now wants me. He knows he messed up he says and had a good woman... Knowing this hurts me alot thinking of him with other women... So quick to replace me .. My ex never liked giving me head and only wanted sex on weekends... Witch always odded me out .. his family always made me feel like I was kind of dumb... Now my ex wants to fuck me all the time ... ( I haven't sex yet) he says he wants to please me forever....
During the break up it was hard for me ... I dated one guy, and never was into hookup culture so I never did.. Family and friends councilor have all said I deserve Soo much better.
and now I feel like I have to choose between my ex fiance or the guy I dated....
The 1 guy I dated after my ex is everything that you'd dream of but I had always felt like I didn't have that spark like I did when I was with my ex... He's loyal honest and is very sweet to me.. we don't really go on dates but we do sit back and watch tv and drink... His family is amazing and I feel comfortable....But I still think about my life with my ex... He hasn't said I love you ... He loves to please me sexually..
I feel like Had anyone else gone through this or felt like one way or the other...
Did u go back to ur ex who was unhonest or did you stay with the man who treated you with the respect from the very beginning?
