Say for instance you’re the “hot teacher”, students go crazy for you and you’re into that dynamic. You cannot, under any circumstance, reciprocate those feelings or else you’re out of a job as well as any and all good standing with society, not to mention it’s highly unprofessional as a teacher. Even without the threat of lifelong ostracisation, it’d just destroy you inside.
And if you’re not into that sort of thing, you basically have to go to work for 7 hours a day, 5 days a week and do your job like you’re not being constantly perved on by what are basically adults. I’ve been perved on by people I didn’t like, it’s uncomfy. I knew a guy in year 9 who admitted to me that he would just stare at the ass of our female English teacher during lessons. While she was an attractive woman, in my head I’m still like “Miss Elshaw did not take up teaching for you to objectify her.”
It’s a lose lose situation no matter how you slice it. It’s also why I think people in their 20’s should NOT be teaching high school, they’re close enough in age to where they could develop feelings for one another. Like, naturally so.
I’ve (unfortunately) been to a lot of funerals (huge huge family), and acting proper and like there’s a stick up your ass all day because it’s a funeral is really tiresome. I’m 100000% sure that if you could talk to a dead person they would demand you chill the fuck out and relax.
I tell my family all the time that at my funeral the dress code is whatever is comfortable. I don’t care if it’s PJs, t shirt and gym shorts, I just don’t care. I guess I see a funeral as a celebration of a life more so than what they typically are.
Now with that said, there are ABSOLUTELY a lot of situations where funerals are horrible horrible horrible things. A kid dies, someone dies of a freak accident or a crime, etc. I don’t expect those to be anything but terrible and somber affairs. But for funerals for grandparents, old parents, basically when it isn’t a surprise that they died is what I’m mostly talking about.