Thanks so much for your reply, loads of really helpful things for me there. I guess I always thought because I wasn't necessarily having sex with these women, or even having loads of sex myself, then I couldn't be a sex addict. A slightly broader definition of 'sex' though and it's clear I'm addicted, and using it (and women) to cover my problems.

"relationships to varying degrees with multiple other women" is exactly what I do, regardless of my relationship status - it's good to hear someone else say it too.

Thanks for the tips Re SAA and the 'god stuff'. I didn't realise you could use a different approach to a higher power, so I will look into my nearest meetings. I guess it shows where I'm at that my initial reaction to the thought of going to these meetings was: 'great, maybe there'll be some women there that I can get with'.