Wasn't sure where to post this, so I hope here is fine.
My girlfriend asked me out of nowhere why I never suck on her nipples to fall asleep. I was confused and told her that I'm not an infant any more and I don't really need that to fall asleep. She told me that this is something her ex-boyfriend used to always do which I personally find very weird. I told her that this doesn't sound like normal behaviour to me but she felt like I was just being defensive and refuse to be vulnerable and 'less masculine'.
Which is why I just wanted to know if this behaviour is in fact 'normal' or at least common.
Now you're paying cleaning staff, office supplies, equipment maintenance, utilities.
My SO went from having a very high libido to a low (and sometimes barely existent one). We later found out that this was down to hormonal problems.
We talked about the changes to our sex life, relationship and long story short she said that she was "very ok" (her words) for me to have sex with her as long as I was ok that she wasn't feeling sexy and wouldn't be responding as if she was. She confessed that she had been feeling awkward pretending to be aroused when she wasn't. We communicated about this a lot, I was very clear that it was okay if she didn't want to have sex, that I loved her and this wouldn't change. She was really encouraging and clear that when she wasn't up for it she would say so (and often did).
Ashamed but I went along with this and for several months, maybe once a week, we would have maintenance sex, or rather I had sex with her, and she would more often lie there looking indifferent. It wasn't exactly sexy sex.
While we were in the act she started to sometimes make random comments like "must remember the milk", "must remember to invite blah to the party" kind of thing, carrying on earlier conversations.
The pinnacle was one day while we were having sex. She made a comment and I asked her a follow-up question before immediately fully withdrawing and entering her several times at speed. I thought she might let out a moan, or perhaps ask me to slow down or something relevant to what I was doing down there, but she answered my question and talked as if absolutely nothing was happening.
Looking back I can't get my head around how she could have been so indifferent to penetration.
Has anyone else had an experience like this? I confess my naïve understanding of the mechanics, which I guess would be different for anyone. Can someone with a vagina plausibly not notice when the act changes tempo so significantly?
