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I’m 22 and scared about what I’ll do next in life. There’s so much uncertainty. Sorry for ranting, but I hope I’ll get a bit of encouragement from here

My father never loved me, though he did feed me and paid for my schooling until I passed 12th, all while taunting me to get a government job(as if it was that easy to get a govt job in a country with population like India). He has always been abusive, beating and cursing my mother and us, childhood was horrible. Initially, I couldn’t stand up to him for obvious reasons, him being stronger.

But soon after I finished my 12th and started graduation, he one day started to beat my mother. I stood up, pushed him away, and from then he left me hanging in the middle, with no payment for education or any other money like my mobile bills, wifi, and other necessities. I still ate and lived in his house like a dog without self-respect because I had no other place to go—I was 19 then.

To sustain myself and pay my graduation fees and other tuition fees, clothing, etc., I started freelancing. I made social media content for an MLM company, earning around 1.5 lakhs rs, which sustained me for three years during my graduation period until September 2023. I could pay my bills, clothings and everything with that amount, and as I mentioned earlier, I didn’t have to worry about food since I was still living under his roof, albeit without respect.

In 2023, the MLM company was dismissed, and I was left with no job. But I completed my graduation in arts, so I had two options: either fight for a government job or get a master’s degree first. I chose the latter because I didn’t want to spend a year or more just staying at his home, not doing anything deemed productive and there was no certainty of getting govt job anyway. I decided to pursue a master’s and started preparing for entrance, got a place in du for my master’s.

Meanwhile, I got small gigs that paid me enough to think of moving out. Now, I have saved around 3 lakhs, and since I got a place at a college, I’ll have to move to Delhi before August (I’ve booked a flight for the 22nd). I’m somehow happy that I won’t have to live where I’m treated like a doormat and slave, where I’m not welcome.

But I’m scared. What if I don’t end up getting a job or a side income? How am I going to sustain myself? What if I end up committing something bad? I’m constantly in hustle mode, stressed, learning graphic design, web development, and UI/UX design. Honestly, I’m exhausted from all this hustle. I have no life. I take hypertension meds just to calm my mind down, I have high blood pressure, and I’ve been diagnosed with depression, taking antidepressants.

Life has been a constant struggle for the past 4-5 years, I feel like an orphan. Now I just want to rest, not worry about money and how to sustain myself, but that doesn’t seem to be an option for me. I don’t know how much rent and all will cost me in Delhi, especially since I’ll be taking my mother with me and hence pg is not an option.

I feel like I’m working as if I’m in my 40s. I have to think of making money while finishing my master’s, and the thought of that scares me a lot. I would love to hear what you people have to say and any advice you might have.

We had booked about 16 tickets from Pune to Kolkata for a wedding which took place on 11th July in Kolkata. The tickets were booked well in advance (April) so we had all confirmed tickets with travelling date of 5th July.

Unfortunately the train(Azad Hind Express) was cancelled (due to operational reasons) and we received a message for the same on 29th June..As it was an important wedding and couldnt be missed we started looking for option which were Duronto Train or Airline. Duronto had only RAC available which did not make any sense and also each ticket was around 3900-4100 range.

Airline tickets costed us around 7k average and we had to book them as no other option was there...coming from a lower middle class family it was way over our budget as we have to spend a huge amount on them. somehow we arranged funds and booked tickets.

Then on 3rd of July we received a message that the train which was cancelled has been restored. we decided to cancel airline tickets but the amount deducted would be around 4.5k per tickets. we did go by flights which was super time saving and convenient but financially it was difficult. we had to cancel the train tickets for which the railways charged us around 180-200 rs per ticket.

Is there any way I can take action against Railways for what happend.

Also while returning the train was delayed by almost 10 hrs. Planning not to travel by train anymore but our budget makes it difficult to avail flight services.

I'm 26, Male, I work in the US now. I have developed an insurmountable rage towards the older generation parents deciding whats best for their kids.

My ex and I met during our BTech, we loved each other and wanted to marry.. guess what? Her family didn't agree because of caste (similar castes) & religion, and apparently, she couldn't hurt their wishes (no regard for me, eh?). I have slowly watched someone that loved me turn into a stranger for reasons that were completely fictional! Everyone knew that we'd be in the US once married, yet, her parents told me that they are not that "broad minded" to let me marry their daughter. Reason? My mom converted into christianity after we lost my dad and sister in a car accident. I don't even care about religion that much, neither did my ex. I practically begged her to fight for herself, and for me. I saw pure helplessness in her eyes.. and in the end, she gave up and left me completely broken and helpless, all while I'm studying my MS degree. She finally married someone else of her caste/hindu and ended up coming to the US last year (the irony!).

These last 2 years have been a living hell for me, I've been trying to make peace with it, I've tried dating others, transformed every bit of myself into someone new, I felt better for a while, but ever since she got married last year, I'm back to square one... I was able to let go of her promises, our memories together, the future I've clung on to.. but I can't seem to let go of that helplessness I saw in her, the helplessness I felt, the same feeling I still do. I still end up in tears whenever I'm not occupied, I don't know how to fix myself anymore... I can't seem to find hope that I'll be able to find love again, be capable of loving again. I'm tired. all this for what? this cruelty is just something I'll never be able to understand or forgive. and fuck, why do indian girls think they should do whatever their parents ask of them? You loved someone, and you're willing to break their heart and yours, just because you're not willing to argue and stand up to your parents? That feels just as cruel if not more.

Please help.. how do I heal? I don't want to keep feeling like this.

Edit: Thank you so much everyone, I haven't expected such an overwhelming response to this. I feel truly supported, thank you everyone for taking the time. I realize I have a long uphill climb from here, and I'm mustering up the courage and energy to take one daunting step at a time on this.

Now, I only wish my closest friends were like this, they played the diplomacy card since we're all from the same friends group.. they supported her because she's a woman and I guess I felt abandoned.

i 20f have been in a pretty bad condition for sometime now. it's been 4 months that i lost my mother. yeah nothing new but I'm tired of how people just say move on its life etc. people around me have started to make peace with the fact shes not around. they say give away her things etc but how can you just remove someone's presence who meant so much to us. idk how my father and brother are coping but it just too bad to see no one talking about her. i have tons of regrets which I'm guilty off but I wish I had her with me for a bit longer. my heart cries everyday thinking about her and the fact i won't have her with me anytime now. i just need her. they tell me talk to someone you'll feel better but how long do you keep involving people in your shit? how long do you make yourself a burden to them? it's hard to move on. to everyone out there no matter how much you don't like your mom for sitting on our heads for everything trust me she wants the best for y'all. give her the best of yourself, don't hold your ego against her just apologise to her even if she's wrong. respect her the most. keep telling her that she's the best. tell her I love you everyday. give her a peck on her cheeks for being the best mother ever. no one is perfect but a mother will try her best to be there for you. trust me you don't want to put yourself in my shoes it's not good here.

Today for my sisters birthday, my parents were going to get her earrings. I was scrolling my phone in my room when i heard the commotion outside and went outside to check what was going on. All of them are frantically searching the entire house for something. i ask my sister about it and she told me that Dad had kept around 20,000 rs in the bag that contains the car documents, and those are now missing. After around an hour of searching he told us that he had got that money from a second business, and that he had hidden it for surprising my sister. Now I know full well that he pulled that argument out of his ass because he didnt even tell our mother and my sister is 14. How would she care about money when she is getting the earrings. He told us that he had got that money a few days ago and after that he had gone on a trip with village friends where they spents 2 nights drinking and dancing in the cropfields. He got stressed alot and started searching for it in places where the money wouldnt even have gotten. It was getting late so my mother went to the shop to get milk for tommorow, in that team he entered moms room and searched her cupboad, and the secret compartment inside it. After she came back she took him out for a walk to calm him down a bit. After tonights dinner he went for a cigarette on the roof and mom went with him. After sometime she came down back with tears in her eyes. i asked her what happened and she told that he was blaming her now. Saying that it is not possible that i dropped the money somewhere, you must have taken it. Mind you she didnt even know that he had hidden money in the blue car bag. after he came down he said "Nhi Dene Toh Mat Do" and went away in the car. Everyone in the house is very troubled. He has grown worse in the past few months, He always is upset with us because we dont smile much, and what is the benefit of him earning money if we dont smile. Like We cant smile all the time. He comes late drunk almost every 2nd day and shouts"Mai Aaj late aaya toh so gye sab, aise toh 12 baje tak jaage rehte ho". He wants us to be like this bollywood family that is always happy and always in a mood to serve him. He rubs the "I earm money" in our faces all the time.

seriously i am very upset with my father and would like to leave with my mother and sister as soon as possible.

Our grandfather was poor sheep herder in village Rajasthan, earn by day & buy wine by night basically darudiya. Had 5 bigha land but he never beat his wife. He has 2 sons lets say Manoj48 (my dad) and Deep50 (my uncle)

Deep did various work from childhood & studied by himself till college 2nd yr and my dad manoj is 8th pass. Deep married in 1998 and came in search of job in tier 3 city with his wife, soon got a job in industiral area & managed a job for my dad as well, All 3 lived in same house, Deep arranged everthing for my dad's marriage. Both worked in a mill, earned 3000 rs / month, soon they fight and separated living. One day Deep left his job and started his own loom making and gradually become supplier to company, he took a big risk but it worked & they entered middle class (Manoj continued with job)

In 2015 Deep took another big risk, he took huge loans & put all his money to get dealership of P&G (owner of tide, pampers, gillete, more) completely different field deep worked in for last 15 yrs but it worked, Deep became wholesaler & soon took Dabur, Amul, Kellogs dealership. Sales crossed 1 cr per month with profit margin of 5% he made 5 lakh per month and giving all the loan installments he was left with 2.5lakh, Hired 7 people including my dad who use to get 12k per month out of 5lakh ; others got 7k (we are in tier 3 city)

In 2019, Deep earned so much money that he had an affair and we are from village so divorce isnt option and it's common here when someone gets big they have affairs and covid hit the same time so he had to close all dealerships as they went in loss.

Deep built a luxury 3 side facing, 2 storied, 4bhk home of 2000 sq ft surrounded by 3 gardens 2000, 1000 and 800 sq ft, house itself is of 2crs and you have to drive 60 meters from main gate to home like in movies. And a 1500 sq ft plot is on 4th side to park their vehicles, All this on loans

Deep kids are Saya(25) Maya(23) Kartik(18) and Manoj's has me(18) Hema(21).Both girls are toppers and kartik got 94% in 10th CBSE but 65 in 12th, he went to Allen kota for 2 yrs

My dad have 2 home, we live in a 1bhk and we've rented out the ground floor for 8k per month and both floors of another same house so total rent 24kper month and my dad earn 18k so around 42k per month. They have modular kitchen and furniture almari and we've that middle class jali to keep utensils, they have AC's, solar panels, door knobs, invertor, lavish furniture & false ceiling even in bathrooms.

Deep bought a Maruti 800 in 2008 & now have a fortuner, bullet, 2 activas and my dad have a 8 yr old splendor. Deep bought a alto and taught saya to drive car with it

All their properties were about to be auctioned out in 2020 (Bank Nilami karne wali thi) as Deep defaulted but he stopped DM to take any action using his connections with politician and now they are having a settlement wherein he will pay the bank 60% of total loan after the court ruling on the case, also they will stretch the case for 2-3 yrs

Once my dad was caught by police and in heat he slapped policeman, my dad was arrested but we called his brother deep & inspector got a phone call and he was released, thanks uncleji for it

Deep has rich friend who will take the loan on his name and deep will pay the instalments as he his back to his supplier work and makes around 1.5 lakh now, also has a office in market

Kartik is now going outside in a good private college cost 22lakh and i got 85.4 in 10th Rajasthan board and 68.6 in 12th, im going to a nearby college cost 3Lakh for all 4 yrs. Saya gave UPSC & went till interview but not selected & Maya is doing another 2 yr course, they both are toppers while my sister was married off and she never went to college, his husband works in jaipur earns around 30k/month. All 3 of them have laptops while i am using my dad's phone which he bought 2nd hand

sometimes i wonder what if i was born in that family, i am going to be unemployed in next 4 yrs and i dont like studies, i used an app that removing so many grammer mistake but it is asking for money now, sorry for bad english.

So I(16f) went to the gynecologist today because I thought I had a yeast infection, so I went there, got on to the bed as instructed by the doctor, I layed there and spread my vagina apart and she started inspecting the area but then she hit me hard for blocking her view and then started screaming at me because my hymen was ruptured.

She started asking when I had sexual intercourse or who was my sexual partner and I replied " I'm only 16,why would I have sex "and then she started saying how she had a 14 year old pregnant patient yesterday " she told my dad to keep me in close eyes and keep me controlled. She was making me seem like I'm a whore even though I don't get laid because I got no rizz and I'm ugly .

She is probably still following her old textbooks where it's written that hymen is a sign of virginity even though newer ncert clearly mentions that hymen can be easily ruptured and some women are even born without it.

I came home and started crying I'm never going to this illiterate doctor anymore

Edit : I will leave a review on her but I won't reveal her name in reddit

So recently I ordered a wakefit mattress by going to their store and placing an order through one of the employees in the store. Transaction amount was around 20k. So on my end it showed transaction on UPI is successful but on their end it said session timed out. So during this situation if transaction id is generated and my UPI app says trans successful then money will be definitely transferred to them. They said no, money will be returned back to me. After too much back and forth with them I said okay will wait for 2 days for money to return to my account. Employee was a total dud. Looked decent at first but after talking to him I realised he is really dumb. I raised an issue with wakefit from their website. They promise a response in 48 hours. Every 48 hours I got a response please wait for 48 more hours. This went on for 10 days. Between that I even called their customer care he said wait for 24 hours more. He said you contact anyone else the reply would be same to wait for some time. After 15 days I received my refund. I even contacted my bank they said you can go ahead with an amount freeze in their account i.e. they won't be able to use the money you deposited in their account. The store employee kept delaying and saying we have raised your complaint. I asked for a mail from them that they haven't received any money which they sent me after 4 days of nagging. I had to fight so hard for my money to be returned to my account. Very poor experience.

Growing up, I wasn't a popular kid either with other students or with teachers.

When I was bullied for being the way I am by other students, I ignored it or fought back or moved on pretty quickly.

But it's the bullying of teachers that still haunt me even though it's been over 15 years.

There were times when I was slapped for truly no fault of my own, insulted in front of the class for being dyslexic, denied opportunities to participate in Olympiads for not being on their good list.

And the worst part was that they did so with absolute authority - I couldn't hit back or talk back, because you just can't. It's not something a child should go through in their formative age.

I don't have kids of my own but have nephews and nieces and I know that if I hear anything that teachers continue to behave like they did when I was kid, I will destroy their careers.

PS. The only thing I believe is that I am doing better than those teachers are, and it gives me a sense of superiority but doesn't heal anything.

Hello Reddit community,

I wanted to share a recent experience with OnePlus's exchange offer, which has left my family extremely disappointed and frustrated. As a long-time OnePlus customer, my brother-in-law recently encountered an issue with his OnePlus 8T after an OS update, causing the display to malfunction with green and pink lines.

So he visited the OnePlus showroom to avail of their exchange offer, where he was assured that he will receive a voucher for the faulty device. However, after submitting his phone and signing the paperwork, he later discovered that the voucher could only be used for the OnePlus 11R model, a device known for its existing issues and not what he intended to purchase, he wanted to buy OnePlus 12.

What's more concerning is that this restriction was not disclosed to him upfront. The showroom personnel showed him a document with a handwritten note indicating the model restriction, which was absent when he signed the initial paperwork. He has a copy of the document that clearly shows there was no such handwritten note at the time of signing.

To make matters worse, the OnePlus 11R model is currently out of stock, and the voucher expires on July 31st, leaving him unable to utilise it at all. Despite his repeated attempts to seek a resolution, OnePlus has been dismissive and unhelpful, offering no viable alternatives.

We are deeply disappointed by OnePlus's deceptive practices and lack of transparency. As loyal customers, we expected better treatment and honesty from a company we once admired. This experience has left us feeling deceived and mistreated.

I hope that by sharing my experience here, other consumers can be informed about OnePlus's exchange offer policies and make informed decisions.

Thank you for reading.

I don't know how to say this but I'm fucking traumatized and scared now. Today I visited a doctor as I was having fever for the last seven days. And I went there alone because my mom had to visit my brother's school for PTM . So while coming back I had to take the bus, though the bus was crowded still I went in because the next bus was really late and I was not feeling well due to fever. As I enter the bus more people started coming in making the bus fully packed. And I was freaking cornered. But after sometimes I felt someone touching side of my boobs, at first I thought maybe it happened accidentally, so I decided to cover my boobs using my hands anyway, the next moment I felt someone was squeezing my butt, and then I freaked out, I tured back to see who was it but I couldn't figured out who it could be, and I literally started crying right there. An aunty who was sitting in front of me looked at my face and asked me if I'm ok. And I wanted to tell her what happened but I just nodded my head telling nothing. I don't know but I was not able to tell her anything. I got down of the bus on next stop, took an auto and came back home, even the autowala was asking if I'm ok. I literally had a panic attack there because I was sexually assaulted as a child as well as a teen. Last time I was almost raped. This happened again. I came back home and I can't stop crying since then. The worst part is I was clean for the last two months and this incident triggered my self harm. I literally have nail scratches all over my body. Why men do this? Are these guys so heartless that they touch random girls like this? Are these country men so fucked up that I can't even visit a doctor in the broad daylight. The worst part is I can't share this with my parents otherwise they'll put restrictions on my little left freedom.

The red tape that has clogged our system is the reason why we hear of countless cases of scams, corruption, and outright fucking thievery every day of the week. I MEAN WHEN DOES IT STOP?

Be it the NEET Scam, the UPSC Scam w that recent Puja Khedkar woman, the countless bridges that keep falling in Bihar, or shambolic number of cases where a rich brat kills someone and gets away with it, this country absolutely does not give a single flying fuck about the value of it's citizens.

There's 1.4 Billion of us, so what if another 200 die right? It pains to see how badly and corruptly India is going. A developed country is one where the value of every fucking citizen matters. India unfortunately just deals with people like rats. Nobody will give a shit if you're found dead on the side of the road.

Roads in my city are in pathetic conditions. Some areas don't get water from the municipal body purely because the local politicians are getting money from the water tanker mafia who make 1000s of crores each year.

Our system is fucked. If we just ignore this everyday, which I see a lot of people saying, "oh the system is too big, you know how things go, XYZ will just get a slap on the wrist". fuck your lawyer talk, fuck your defeatist attitude. you're the reason India is this way.

We need real change. A body that only fights cases of corruption in both the public sphere and the judicial sphere. A movement is needed. It doesn't fucking matter if you're from the left or right, corruption that hurts everyone. Let's make it a political movement and an important election issue going forward.

I recharged a SIM card that belonged to my late my father on 8th July 2024. The recharge amount was ₹199. I was using the number for accounts on Amazon, swiggy etc.

Despite the recharge being successful the SIM card was not able to connect to the network. Not able to make/receive calls.

Tried calling Airtel on 121 but the IVR did not have the option of transferring the call to a customer service agent.

I then raised a complaint on their X (twitter) handle and asked for a callback. Got a callback the next day but was only given the process on how to acquire a duplicate SIM card. My request for a refund was dismissed.

I continued the conversation via DM demanding a refund be made as I did not want to acquire a duplicate SIM card but the request was ignored.

Today I finally connected with 4 agents and here’s how it went

1st Agent: Screams at me that I do not understand the concern - that the SIM card is no longer functional

2nd Agent: There’s some disturbance on the line and it’s disconnected

3rd Agent (Ms. Usaq): Tells me that Airtel has no presence on social media and that the @Airtel_Presence handle on X (Twitter) is actually a “fraud”. Her words.

4th Agent (Mr. Shahid): Tells me that since I didn’t register a complaint via email or phone that my concern is not valid. Furthermore, the call I received from their social media team was a “scam call” Their social media handle is only for news/updates. Any complaint raised via their Thanks app is also not valid.

I have been a loyal customer of theirs for over 15 years using their broadband and mobile services (have 2 other numbers from them) and this is how they behave.

Any one reading this, please consider this a PSA. Do not use social media or their app to raise complaints or requests. They will not be considered valid by their customer service department. I am utterly disgusted.

I bought Lifelong LLTM 162 treadmill from flipkart on 17/02/2023 through flipkart worth Rs 13,000 and was working fine for about one and a half year and then stopped working.So i called lifelong support and they arranged technician visit to look at the same treadmill with visit charges of about 620 Rs which i agreed to pay.

After visiting the technician declared that the motor is dead which in simple words can we say is the "heart" of the treadmill after the technician left i saw the motor and to my horror the motor is of 0.75 HP instead of claimed 2 HP in specifications on flipkart and the motor replacement charges is a freaking 10,000 Rs while the treadmill itself is of 13,000.

So i went a little bit deeper and came to know that there exists a similar company in china(which is orginal) which makes the treadmill and lifelong is just a cheap knockoff.

So always buy a reputed treadmill even though it is slightly expensive.

I am leaving the link here just in case :

I recently encountered a concerning issue with Amazon that I wanted to share with you all.

I had placed a few orders for a family relative who isn't very tech-savvy. Some of these orders were prepaid and others as COD. I sent her an order summary screenshot and told her to keep the COD amount in cash ready for the delivery boy.

Yesterday evening, she messaged me that she had received two identical products: one in the morning where the delivery person took a COD payment of 700, and another in the evening for the amount of 500 prepaid. I distinctly remembered the product was prepaid by me, so I checked my Amazon order history. It confirmed that I had ordered the product only once, prepaid, and only 500 Rs. When I asked her why she paid the 700 amount when I told her that the product was prepaid by me, she explained that she did not remember which products were prepaid and which ones were COD, and just paid the delivery boy assuming it must be a COD order.

I contacted Amazon customer support this morning. Initially, they were of not much help, claiming they could only see one non-returnable order delivered once with a prepaid amount. I pressed further and insisted on a refund, got rude which is when they said to send the order ID of both the product received from the label.

This is where things get interesting - I checked the labels of both deliveries and noticed the morning one labeled as COD 700 had no order ID and the evening one was labeled as prepaid with an order ID visible. The morning label looked so much like Amazon's label format and even had the words - "Shipped by - Amazon Seller Service Pvt Ltd"

I realized Amazon was not at fault and that they only delivered the correct product once.

What I am thinking happened is that sellers who receive order details can potentially make two deliveries and take money for one. The sellers listed on both labels were different, but I suspect a data leak or involvement of sellers in such cases. Even if they get two or three people to pay by mistake, it is enough.

My relative is at fault too for not reading the label but I understand her POV. You cannot blame the receiver either as in this day and age, we often have so many deliveries we accept them blindly. My mother never sees my parcel details or if it is addressed correctly. She just smashes it on my table giving me the dirty "yet another parcel" look.

So TLDR; Make sure you cross-check your COD order from Amazon.

My younger brother is getting married.

Context about myself: I'm already married (for two years). My wife and I are introverts and not into big fat Indian weddings but our families are. We wanted a simple affair with only few close people but the extravaganza of a rich show off wedding with full wealth on display were shoved down our throats. We couldn't do much about it. I jokingly used to say - "It's not my wedding, it's my dad's son's wedding." because it simply looked like a way for our parents to show off their wealth and fake happiness among a thousand people rather than being about their children coming together to start a life.

Cut to two years later, my brother is now getting married, and they are having a much bigger event, with fireworks and dancers and all kinds of expensive clothes. The functions look more like award shows than a marriage ceremony. Since I'm part of the immediate family, I have to be present everywhere and fake smile and talk to all the relatives who care only about looks and money. It's too tiring and there are too many functions to cope with. It all feels so superficial and meaningless. All this money disappearing for nothing, children learning wrong things from their elders (one neice came up to say your wife looks so much better than the new one) and guests feeling the pressure of topping this wedding with their own. By the way, my brother and his fiance don't mind all this, they probably enjoy it just like my parents.

What are your thoughts? If you are anything like me, how do you cope with everything? I'm not really looking for any solutions (they are welcome, though), just like-minded people to pour in their own experiences, because I'm tired of being the black sheep and want badly to know there are other people like me out there.

Well, the concept of helicopter parents doesn't exist in India but THEY ARE.

My mom is a control freak. I can't even go for a walk on the road.
Whenever I say I want to, she always comes up with excuses.

Would make me busy with work. Ghar pocha, Watering the plant and all.

Our classes are continuing in July, so it's the best time to go to school by walking buttt no, "Your skirt gets lifted when you walk."
"You will be drenched in sweat."
etc, etc.

It seems like a concerned mom's behaviour but it's not. It's not about walking. This is just a fragment. There's more.

I can't even watch TV because it will waste my time, this is legit.
I am not allowed to read novels and I accept that it's addictive.
I am not allowed to go out with friends because I am not allowed to go out.

These rules are good but I am a human and I SOMETIMES NEED ENTERTAINMENT!

I am freaking 17 and I have zero communication skills because I am literally living in a Copper Cage.

And she wants to live with me for the graduation period. I can imagine how hell my life will.

Take it however you want. A teenager stupid complains whatever, but I am really frustrated seeing my friend having liberty.
And yeah, I am not even allowed to talk to my friends on the phone.

AAAAAgghh

This country wants to become a superpower and can't have basic infra? This is no just one region but happening everywhere in the country. Some of the infra failures that happened recently.

Delhi Airport roof collapse. South Delhi ( one of the most luxurious areas ) flooded in the rains. Mumbai floods every damn year.

A portion of a flyover in Mumbai collapse a few days back. A new flyover to be constructed in Mumbai was misaligned!!?? How the fuck can you not construct a simple flyover in 2024??

A random bridge collapses every other day in Bihar. The hoarding collapse in Ghatkopar killing 17 people. Numerous railway accidents, stampedes, etc.

Jaipur is flooded in it's first rain. Buildings collapse in UP killing 2 people. Even the cricket parade stampede in Mumbai killed 2 people. Some report 9 being killed.

What a shitshow seriously. Where the fuck is the government and what is it doing? Who is accountable for these things? How are we even putting up with this? I am surprised that there are hardly any protests - heck there are no mentions about of these things. No prime time debates, no journalist screaming. Seems no one gives a shit.

Sick of this really

I have been an Amazon customer for ~10 years and I have had no issues until last week. I noticed a strange pattern when my orders started getting returned to the seller shortly after they were out for delivery.

When it happened during the first time, I thought maybe the package was returned as it was damaged. An agent said so, that's why I thought it was real. But the thing is, this has been happening since that order till today (2 items in my order were sent back). The tracking page says the orders were returned because "I refused the orders." This is simply not as I did not receive any calls nor did somebody visit me and ask for my consent to take them back. This was all done in the background without keeping me aware.

The same goes with returns. I had to return one item & 4 pickup attempts failed. In the meanwhile, an investigation was conducted by Amazon and guess what? They blamed it on me saying the warehouse guys told them that I refused to return. Due to this reason, I had to sell the phone and take a huge loss (around INR 20,000). I have one more pickup due for tomorrow and I don't think that will happen too.

What I also did is place another order using another account. I used the same address in that account as well. It was delivered today and I asked the agent what is going on. He did not share a lot of details but he did tell me something shocking - he said they are returning the packages on purpose as soon as they saw my name on them. I was very shocked to know this as it is my money & my right as a customer to receive and return the products. Who are these guys to take decisions for me? Amazon Customer Service has been pathetic in this regards as they keep saying they are looking into this on a priority basis but I have had no luck thus far.

This is discrimination by the warehouse staff or the delivery agent responsible for this shameful incident. I need your help to overcome this situation. Any feedback is welcome. Seeing my name and not delivering or picking up products is absolutely disgraceful behaviour. I hope they do something about this and I at least get my money back for the other damaged item.

Thanks a lot in advance!

Everywhere I see, I find people in software engineering, AI/ML, Data Engineering/science etc are the only people making real money. Rest are just leftovers to serve them. I know people getting jobs of 12-15+LPA as freshers in software firms even from tier 3 colleges and people having to settle for peanuts from tier 2 and 1 colleges in core branches. And if they don't get that much as freshers, they'll switch like light bulbs in 1-2 years and get exponential growth not in percentages but multiples.

I don't know if it has always been like this, but whatever else you maybe passionate about and no matter how little of an interest you may have in computers, that is the only thing that appears to have scope of some sensible career growth today. Rest all the other core branches of engineering like Civil, Mechanical, Electrical leave you only with blue collar jobs in disguise forever. Today a bright topper student with a Civil Engineering degree even from a great college can never even dream of achieving what a below average student who has done Computer Engineering from an average college can 10 yrs down the line. It seems like that field has nothing to do with college education or degree to begin with and everything to do only with what languages you can code with. Now I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that. I know that not everyone does it for the money but many times those other fields literally pay less than manual labourers. What motivation, then, is left for anyone passionate about anything that has nothing to do with computers, to pursue it?

During my time in school, in state board, no one used to give any importance at all to the computer subject. Not even the students who went on to choose computer engineering later on. Many of them didn't even choose computer as their optional subject when there was a choice between that and PT or some other subject. Today's career choices have become

• If you don't know what to do, do computer engineering and you won't have to worry about anything later in life,

• If you're able to get into a good college but not in the computer branch and in some core branch instead, just learn coding and get a job in the computer field, and switch 2-3 times in a couple of years

• If you're not able to get into a good college, get into computer engineering in whatever college you can get and you're set for life.

Colleges are literally having to reduce seats of core branches because no one is genuinely interested in them.

You might argue that TCSs and Infosyses of the world exist which pay peanuts and I agree. What I'm trying to say is that if somehow you're into the IT sector, you atleast have a scope to learn some in demand language or whatever and get upto Googles and Metas of the IT world. Other branches don't even have that possibility.

You might argue that I'm completely ignoring the existence of non engineering fields. I agree that one can be CA, Doctor, Politician, lawyer, MBA, Music, Acting, own a business etc. but they're not the dominant fields of their domains. There can never be as many CAs or Doctor's or Lawyers as there can be engineers. They're not as mainstream as engineering has become today. I'm yet to find a single MBA aspirant who's not interested in MBA for the huge placement packages. Not everyone can start a business today if their family hasn't already been running one since decades or is privileged with generational wealth.

For a long time I used to believe that it's all just about supply and demand. There is good demand in the computer domain and not in any other fields. But after so many years now it just feels like a copium made-up by the people outside. This demand only appears to be increasing forever.

There are numerous people from non IT fields who have come to think that not getting into IT was the biggest mistake of their life that they'll have to keep regretting until they die.

I have home loan with ICICI Bank ongoing since 2018. Till date I have been doing part payments using cheques. The reason being I usually pay off amounts greater than 1 lakh & I feel safe & comfortable handing over that amount in form of a cheque to a real bank representative inside a bank branch. The staff of this branch in Pune has always been helpful towards it. They accept the cheque, get me to fill the form, slip, copy of Aadhar & they accepted. It would take 10-15 minutes to do this & I have been doing this for last many years.

But today when I entered the bank, the representative straight away said we are not taking cheque for part payment of home loan. I asked the reason why? To which they he said because we have an online portal on netbanking and you should use it. I replied that cheque is a legal means of transaction & you cannot refuse it. Also I have been doing this same thing till last month. To which he said that their manager is pushing everyone for online payments.

I had to raise my voice to say that No, I am not using you online portal for this payment. I don’t feel safe putting up my 70% of salary on a web portal, I want to make sure my hard earned money goes to right person. The representative again straight away said no & started staring in his phone. I raised my voice again when he called another representative who decided to show me the web portal on her laptop.

She asked me from what bank I am transferring that amount. I said Standard Chartered. So she started showing me the web portal and asked me to log into my Standard Charted netbanking to check if I had the money that I want to transact. This had me angry on how she could ask me to log into my netbanking from an unknown system. While this took 2-3 minutes, the home loan repayment window on her browser sessioned out. This time I raised my voice much louder to make sure it is being heard. If your own portal cannot hold a session for more than few minutes, how do you expect me to trust your portal. They made a second attempt despite my resistance, this time it went through & asked OTP. Now the loan is taken on my wife’s name with me as a co-holder. So the OTP went to her number when she was in office. I was angry at this point & asked them how do you expect one partner to pay when other is away? With cheque it doesn’t matter who is paying till the loan account matches & you get their Aadhar. To which he replied, why don’t you make payment in evening.

I kept fighting on how they can refuse a cheque which is like a basic legal means of payment? Its my loan & I can choose how to pay towards it. With me losing my cool, he rushed to manager’s office. He came back saying we can treat your case as Special. At this moment I was just waiting and wanted to get the part payment processed. It was done as usual.

Now comes the interesting part. I asked to speak with the branch manager over this. I explained my ordeal. He started goving explanations like how it takes 4 people to clear the cheques and with online they would save efforts of these 4 people. All I asked was make provisions online but also keep the offline methods open for those who need it. He replied saying that RBI is going to eliminate cheques anyways. I was said, we’ll figure out what to do that day. But for now bank cannot decline my cheque.

As I left the branch, 5 minutes later I giot a call asking me to notify Standard Chartered bank that this cheque is up for clearing. I mean cheques are in operation since many decades, why would they want to create such issue over it?

TLDR: ICICI Bank forcing to use online portal for part payment & straight away denying cheques.

Banks earn a huge interest on loans, they don’t leave a single penny as processing fees, upsell you insurance & make it part of principle amount to extract more interest. If you default even a single payment, they’ll apply penalties. But to even get the basic thing like processing a cheque, they suddenly remember efforts.

Update: The staff that made things smooth was recently replaced/transferred. This was completely new staff.

I am so not happy with this situation, idk if anyone else has faced this issue but I have been facing this for many years now.

Let's say you go to any govt office to get something done and if the valid options proof of address are Passport, DL, Gass Bill, Electrticity Bill and Aadhaar Card. It does not matter if you present all other IDs as long as you don't produce your Aadhaar card, you can't get shit done in this country.

A few weeks ago I had to send some documents to Canada so I went to India Post Office, there I was asked for a copy of my Aadhaar Card, plus I need to put self-attested photocopy of Aadhaar card on the envelope, It's just so embarrassing when someone abroad asks why do i have my id on the envelope, what am i supposed to tell them, that the govt employees of my country are just incompetent fools??

During covid, I went to get my vaccination with my passport as I needed my passport number on my vaccine certificate to travel abroad, I had to go back home that day because apparently Aadhaar card has more value than Indian Passport.

Same thing happened on Vande Bharat express with me a month ago with TTE/TC.

and these are just a few examples, at so many places in India, people(specially govt office employees) have told me that I need to produce my Aadhaar Card and just showing my passport won't work.