My (42F) husband (48M) of 3 years and I have a blended family.

He has two daughters (17F, 10F) and I have a daughter (11F) and a son (14M) "Ethan". My son has cerebral palsy, but despite being in a wheelchair he is mostly independent and all but one of his grades in school has been an A or B.

My husband is a dentist who started his own practice 2 years ago, and has been growing his social media presence. He wanted to showcase his kids/ family as part of it. So we have done cute pictures of the girls with cute pink scrubs on sitting in dad's chair, stocking up the waiting room with toys, etc.

Since the social media accounts have been gaining traction, there's been a lot of drama. His ex (47F) was angry that her younger daughter was being tagged in posts that listed Botox as part of the services offered. She also said her 10 year old could not consent to be featured on a public Instagram the way her older sister could. So my younger stepdaughter was erased from my husband's public accounts.

Labor Day is coming up and my husband is throwing a party and doing a photoshoot. My husband wanted to showcase us as a blended family, so I assumed it would all our kids minus his 10 year old.

However, he told me he wasn't crazy about having Ethan at the party. He does suffer from dysarthria, so his speech can be a bit distorted. However, my husband's major concern is that Ethan can be a bit slow with social cues and can talk on and on.

It's been a bit of an adjustment with regards to my husband and Ethan. Ethan is known as a class clown, most people think he's funny, but my husband complains he doesn't get the jokes. In addition, while my husband has introduced my daughter to a lot of business associates and on social media, but a lot of people don't really know that much of Ethan. My husband said he didn't want a picture with Ethan and people online going " wait who is he?!"

My husband asked that we send Ethan to his dad's for the party and photoshoot. I asked my ex to take him for the long weekend and he was upset. He said my husband looks down on disabled people and he's been excluding Ethan. He demanded I say that either both kids are included or none are.

I told him I was not going to threaten to not support my husband at his event or photoshoot. It is his party and therefore his choice, and I wasn't going to ruin his wish to have a blended family presence/ picture. My ex said he thinks I'm in some honeymoon period fog and that he liked my husband at first, but he sees scorn in the way he looks at Ethan. He said mark his words and that if I didn't stick up for Ethan, he'd be exerting his own parental rights to the fullest extent going forward with regards to both kids.

AITA? I wish my husband would invite Ethan but sometimes two people have trouble getting along and I think that's what's happening here. My husband has countless patients who are sick or disabled- the word " scorn" is an insult to his character.