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Posted byu/[deleted]3 years ago

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Posted by6 hours ago

Letter Issues

My fiancé (not a wife yet but have no idea where else I can ask this) is at Navy OCS and has been there for roughly two and a half weeks. I have sent a letter almost daily, but I have yet to receive a letter back and neither has his family. I’ve been trying to do some reading online, and it all says that they can receive letters day 1, but I can’t find anything about whether they have the supplies or are allowed to send letters back at any given point. I might be a tad dramatic just because I miss him so much, but I’m starting to get very worried about him and the fact that I haven’t gotten any letters yet. Is there anything I should know? Am I blowing this out of proportion?

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Posted by22 hours ago

Perspective...

So my long distance husband is a recruiter in the military, I recently realised he has had his own recruiter social media accounts for the last maybe 4 years.

I noticed this one girl likes all of his content every single post, sometimes it's just her that likes his posts instagram and fb esp one that said we go together like coffee and doughnuts which was a bit odd that this one chic liked it and odd to post that anyway on a work profile. I then realised he's been liking her posts and selfies on insta and FB since she just left school over 3 years.

I'm pretty sure they've been to some events together due to her affiliation and he's told me before that he gets a government allowance to get coffees and pizzas etc...

I'm just worried that this girl will think that he likes her, if he's liking her insta and FB selfies, buying her food and often picks up and drops off applicants. Where is the boundary with young recruits... Are friendships with young recruits even permitted? I'm not even sure if he gave her one of his teddies she now poses with in all her pictures dunnt he had the same one on his shelf. When I visited him last all the teddies were gone. Maybe it means nothing. But to a young recruit maybe it meant something..

He even took me to a place when I last visited him that's actually her favourite location she posted on her insta makes me wonder where he got the idea from...

He claims that liking a recruit's selfie on instagram and fb that of a 17year/ 18 year old helps the algorithm lol. I can't see how that would positively boost his mission on instagram liking her selfie maybe I'm out of the loop he seems to only be liking her sefies though.

Is this what military recruitment is about you go around liking selfies of young girls online, take them out, pick them up in your car for coffee and events , buy them food on the gov tab gifts etc.. It just makes me feel a little weird if I'm honest like the government is paying for him to go on what feels like dates.

I just notice that this girl is one of the very few accounts he actually follows and he has a tonne of followers. I'm already having trust issues as we are in a long distance marriage and at times emotionally he can be quite cold. He also hid his friends on his work fb page lol.

Is alll this normal/ professional even from a military recruiter?

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Posted by1 day ago

Why do military spouses want everything for free?

I’m part of a military wives Facebook page. I post stuff like baby stuff, formula that my son won’t use because he was very lactose intolerant, and other stuff like my prom dress from 2019 which is Sherri hill. The spouses on the page had a fit because I was selling unopened formula to get my moneys back. They had a fit because I wasn’t gifting it for free. But as soon as i set it out for curb alert. Those women swiped up and took everything. It’s like if it’s not for free they don’t want it. Is this a common thing?

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Posted by2 days ago

Research Participant Request

Hi! I'm a military spouse finishing up my dissertation on subjective well-being in military spouses during COVID-19 (self-identifying as women) and I'm looking for 10-20 more participants. Please consider participating in this study, and feel free to share the link anywhere military spouses may see it!!

Survey

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Posted by6 days ago

Spouses Family Members

As many of us spouses know how difficult it is visiting home. Managing time between family members and such. But at what point do you say enough is enough? My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now, been together for over 6. I am also pregnant with our first baby on the way. Every time we visit home there’s some type of drama, especially from my overbearing FIL who demands on seeing his son almost every single day. We finally moved back to the US, my husband is now only 2 states away from our home state and his father/that side of his family is upset how he didn’t go visit them for the millionth time to say goodbye before he left for training for literally 2 months when he was spending time with me.. his again, pregnant wife. I’m in no way trying to sound entitled and I understand family is important too.. but what happens when our daughter is born? Will they have the same expectations even though my husband has his own family now? Not sure if it’s the pregnancy hormones kicking in but my husband and I got 1 month of leave aka normalcy outside deployments, long distance, week long trainings at home and I feel like the majority of that time was spent with my husband driving everywhere to visit various family members. We did not even get the chance to have 101 dates, go out by ourselves or have a beach weekend like we wanted. How should we go about this on distancing ourselves? Establishing boundaries? Anyone else deal with something similar? Because I am truly done with this headache and also getting blamed for my husband not being with family everyday when he is home.

Also want to add that my FIL/that side of his family can drive and make the trip to visit my husband whenever they please. It is only a 9 hour drive. But they never make the effort and expect my husband to do all the work.

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Posted by7 days ago