Purely anecdotal, but in the aftermath of discovering my wife was screwing two married men, part of my discovery process by finally taking the step of checking her messages was realising that her close female friends (also half of them divorced) were actively cheerleading her affairs by 'wanting details on this new guy'. These are all women who I showed nothing but kindness to, including one of them sitting actually crying in our lounge room barely a year before about her own husband's affair while my wife and I tried to comfort her.

While I no longer care for these people, it is sad to think how two-faced they were.

If I had have been a crappy husband who was mistreating my wife, I could understand their attitude. But I was a stand-up husband and father who raised the kids while she was away all the time with her job, all while cooking and cleaning, maintaining the house and finances, while keeping a well-paid FT job myself.

I can honestly say that had a number of people in my similar close circle of male friends found out I was having an affair, I know for a fact that one or two of them would have taken me aside and had stern words with me or an intervention.

I'm sure this isn't just a gender thing, but it seems noting 80%+ of women instigate divorces, their female friends seem more than happy to acquiesce. Don't want to start a gender bash, but maybe it's just a case of broken despicable people being attracted to despicable friends?