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Yesterday I (15ftm) was talking with a (lesbian 15f) friend at my art club about hate crime and I mentioned I have been hate-crimed before. She then said “but you aren’t hate-crimeable” (I’m white and wasn’t out) so then I asked for clarification and she said “you aren’t a minority” (I had mentioned several times I was gay but okay).

I responded “I’m gay and I’m trans and I’m disabled (autistic)” and then she said “why are you lying you literally aren’t trans” and I said “that’s transphobic” to which she replied “oh but you aren’t really trans though, like you don’t go by another name or different pronouns” (even though I literally mentioned multiple times I go by a different name and pronouns outside of my interactions with her)

Then she said I’m “not properly gay” because I’ve never had a girlfriend (even though I’m trans so having a girlfriend would be m/f and not “gay”) and then I said I do have a partner (my partner is under the non binary umbrella and has been my phone wallpaper for a year so she probably should have noticed by now) to which she said “prove it I don’t believe you have a girlfriend” completely misgendering my partner (who I only referred to with they/them pronouns)

She then said another one of the friends who were with us was the token straight even though he’s mentioned being gay before. I genuinely think she thinks she’s the only person in the world who is queer.

This whole situation was so uncomfortable and she made such a scene telling me I wasn’t trans she forced me to basically out myself to the people around us which I did not want to do.