So my partner told me about this website she frequents that has a little chat community that she has been a part of for a couple of years, she told me it’s fun and she knows everyone and they’re all random friends and all that. The site is about something that I enjoyed years ago so I joined the community a week ago. Today I decide to join the chat and to my surprise I immediately identified her from some dead giveaways on the account name. I don’t know if it’s wrong of me but I felt curious to see what they were talking about and scrolled up the chat history. I saw messages from her saying she is horny, that is feeling horny and wants to have sex (in general), asking other users to show their dicks (sort of in a joking manner), and she had sent a selfie of herself (not dirty, but still to a group of random strangers) and asked if they remember the one she sent a couple days ago when she was drunk. When I read that my stomach sunk and I just couldn’t believe it. I wanted to throw up. When I figured it was her (before I scrolled up the chat) I texted her asking like “hey I think I found you in the chat is this you?” And then I scrolled up and read everything and saw the selfie, and I texted her like “wow that’s fucked up, I did not need to see that.”

I don’t know what to feel or how to feel about it. I’m so confused. When I told her what I saw and how I felt she did apologize and said she’d delete the app but that it’s all raunchy talk in the group chat and it’s all jokes. And I get it but still. I’m not sure if I’m being just overly sensitive and insecure or this is a real problem.

TLDR: gf invited me to an online community chat she is a part of, a week later I join and find her chatting about wanting to have sex and asking for dick pics and sending pictures of herself.