are you a southeast asian/east asian person on social media? here, pick your annoyance for the day!

• person acting like southeast asia is a primitive jungle of exploitable cheap labour

• person acting like east asia is an advanced utopia free from the vilest sexism, colourism, and rape culture imaginable. i mean china doesn't even fucking have a marital rape law. molestation and sexual harassment in japan is so frequent they have women-only trains. south koreans are the biggest customers of southeast asian sex trafficking. you want me to believe asia is an utopia? get real.

BONUS ROUND (you cannot skip this)

• abuse apologist asian person acting like both southeast and east asia needs to be "saved" from "western thought colonialism" (i.e, any form of thought that challenges abusive norms in asia - rape culture, child abuse etc etc)

i hate it when non-asians, or worse, north american asians, act like east asia is an utopia free from "problems that plague the western world" when more often than not, they're romanticizing the abusive way men treat women and children here. (or more generally, the way elders treat the their younger ones.) it's mildly better in some places but lord if i could wipe the idea that "asian women/children are more obedient because it's okay to abuse-er, i mean discipline them in asia" i would.

i don't know how to explain this but when i was sexually assualted as a teen, my parents insinuated that my mind was "rotted from western media" when I TOLD THEM I WAS ASSAULTED. asian attitudes around sexuality and child-rearing are fucking deplorable, and it's reflected in the way we talk about it and make art about it. and to act as if it's racism to criticize the amount of fucked up shit that's glorified in asian media??? oh, please. shut up. call a spade a spade. abuse is universally disgusting. asians, especially non-diaspora/"mainland" ones look fucking embarrassing when they act as if it's our ""heritage"" to make embarrassing shitty b-grade rape fiction, like 50 shades of gray with asian paint on. or to valorize taking care of parents that did nothing but abuse us all throughout our childhoods. i hate it when mainland asians act as if north american asians are whiny and overprivileged. acting as if they should be "grateful" for the objectification they experience because it's actually "appreciation". your white-worshipping syndrome is showing. you were NEVER raised in north america, you have NO experience with being a racial minority in that region where racialized violence is a reality, and yet you dare to speak over asians who have been through all that? shut up.

i'm not embarrassed because we "look bad" in front of white people, i'm embarrassed because this shit is just trying to justify cruelty with faux-progressive, vaguely nationalistic/supremacist language. which is pathetic considering how much east and southeast asian cultures have influenced each other before we even could verbalize what cultural identity was. you don't feel good about the shit you do and you only cling onto a made-up ideal of "preserving the culture" because you're so enamored with idealizing cruelty and being awful you don't have a single benevolent trait to be proud of. "thought police?" what thought police? someone gets mad at you acting like a clown online and you wanna play the poor oppressed victim? i hope you never have kids.

fuck this shit.