Life Pro Tips

I suppose it may be obvious, but i noticed it isn't:

1. you may meet a nice person, but they may just be playing nice o gain advantage or favours, or simply have a hidden, bad side, so be wary;

2. you may meet a gnarly, grumpy, bitter person who helps others, is dependable and does good for society, while not behaving nicely at all, (or they may just be having a bad day) so don't be quick to judge;

Sometimes nice people do it out of habit, or just because it's easier. Sometimes it is just because of education or simply because it makes your existence chill. In fact being nice is very important for a society to function. Being good sometimes can go against a society. Being good often means dirtying your hands, committing to something and that may be unpleasurable, hence bad attitude, angriness, grumpyness, swearing. On the ither hand many people use being nice as a shell and the cincept of being nice = being good is useful to remain low effort and not actually committing to what being good would require.

If I'll be honest i've been noticing both an increase in people falling for niceness (and often being exploited or just finding out the person they met wasn't who they thought) and/or considering "being nice" as a requirement for "being good". Heck sometimes being good means being angry at oppressors or just gathering strength to rebel against a wrong situation. Other times being good and doing the right thing backfires so much you'll get bitter. Butnif you keep yourself together and your morality intact you remain good. Perhaps you lose all the reasons to be happy tho, so being nice would just be a facade.

Anecdotal edit: many people in my life, including my parents always said, if you have to complain while helping, better not help and i've always been like "hell no! I'm helping, you'll take my compaints, they are free!" (Also complaining is useful as it helps pointing out problems and working on solutions, it's why in the grand scheme of things people protest)