What can I get you to drink tonight?

Already seeing posts from people saying "why don't black people tip :((" so I thought I'd share a thing that I admire about my dad. I was a server from 16-17 y/o, and met a range of people. Some tipped, some didn't, I never really looked at appearance.

My mom and my siblings are all black, while my father is white, and I never noticed this disparity until he pointed it out.

But recently he finally explained the method to his madness.

Whenever a server greeted my whole family, and asked us all individually what we wanted to eat, he'd always tip 50-70% on the bill. Of course, it depended on how finances were at the time, but we've always been decently well off.

Whenever a server only spoke to him, only asking him what the table wanted, etc, he would only tip 20%. You know? Not the kind of racism you can feel, but somethings probably off (in his mind)

Whenever a server asked weird questions: "is that really your wife/your kids", "awe, are you baby sitting?", "oh look at those cute little monkeys!"

No tip. And probably a talk with the manager, as well as an email to the restaurant, but I was never aware of that last bit!

Honestly I wasn't surprised that my dad noticed disparity like this from servers, he's had a black wife since about the 80's lol, but it just kinda made me think about how often it happened in my childhood when I didn't really notice things like this.

Anyways, happy Juneteenth, and maybe consider stereotype + your own biases might be contributing to a vicious cycle