I’m talking about very normal/fun things for example using the swing in a park, jumping on a trampoline or whatever. Ever since I reached my mid 20s all I’m hearing is people saying things like “I can’t be doing that at 20 something”. They also avoid laughing at things they find funny just because it doesn’t suit their “age”. I’m really struggling to understand this? Why should I stop having fun because I am a certain age? Or why should I not laugh at things I find funny? I don’t want to be a boring adult lol. I feel judged but whatever!

edit: I don’t mean take it away from kids just so I can enjoy it. And I don’t mean those 2 activities only- that is just very general and those were just examples. I mean having fun or having a laugh in a way that we used to 10 years ago or something:) I am serious when it’s time to be serious, but I mean all the other times.

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Posted by7 hours ago

Why don't public parks have more fruit trees?

Who doesn't love a free apple/pear/plum on their walk?

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Posted by8 hours ago

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If we didn’t have the advancements in medical technology that we have today, might Covid theoretically have been able to wipe out the majority of the worlds population to extinction?

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Posted by15 hours ago

Is it childish to use a backpack as an adult? I swear backpacks make me feel so safe and comfortable, even if they're empty. Is this weird?

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Posted by13 hours ago

Dad is dying and I live thousands of miles away across the country. Just had a spinal fusion and can’t afford plane ticket at the moment. Is it ok not to be there despite how horrible I feel about it?

My dad has Vascular Dementia, and is extremely incoherent. They started hospice care on him a few weeks ago. I have just had a spinal fusion 3 months ago and am not working currently. I’m a veteran so I do get a disability check but it’s going towards rent and life expenses. I’m feeling really torn up inside because I want to be there when he passes but I don’t think it’s possible for me and it’s breaking my heart. My mom said that if he could speak and was in his proper state of mind he wouldn’t want to risk flying with my back. I live in Alaska and they are in Texas. I’m on VA disability and it would be super tight trying to fly down. My folk are poor and I don’t really have much of an extended family. Is it ok not to be there when he passes? I tell him all the time that I love him on the phone but he can only mumble it back and he starts crying. It’s really hard not being there to at least hug him. My mom keeps reassuring me that it’s ok but I feel horrible. My back is pretty messed up atm and that’s a long flight. I guess I’m just looking for some excuse to make me feel like it’s ok not to be there. Has anyone been in a similar situation?

Edit: First I would like to say thank you all for the kind words and insight. It was cathartic to just post about how I’m feeling. I would also like to clarify that I am not looking for a handout or anything of the sort. Your words and wisdom help in more ways than money and as tough as it is for me I do not want to risk the progress I’ve made with my recovery from surgery. Thank you all so very much. I am certain in the future I will come back to this post seeking some solace and knowing that sometimes life throws you curveballs and that’s just how it is.

Edit: it’s 10:45 here and I’m about to head to sleep. I’ll get back on in the morning and check all your messages, I am overwhelmed with the kindness that you have shared with me. It feels good to just get this off my chest and reading your stories and thoughts are very helpful. I have a lot to think about and I hope you wonderful people have a great night or morning wherever you may be. Thank you 🙏❤️

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