Just wanted to vent a bit. Went to the countryside with my girlfriend for some walks and some wine for the long weekend and the first pub we go to for dinner, which we made reservations for, the pub owner makes a snide remake to my girlfriend and myself and it was the first time I had to have the unconfortable conversation with her that, as long as she, a Caucasian woman is dating me, an Asian guy, this will happen fairly frequently as soon as we leave the city.

I think it was the first time she ever experienced racism first hand and it was a long conversation.

Edit: Well that certainly blew up since I last checked it. I read through most of the comments and am thankful for all the support and stories.

A few of you have been asking for what was said, and I have been tossing up if I should reveal it, simply because a single incident can be minimised or explained away (mansplained? Minoritysplained?). I want to stress that I don't think that most people are racist, that my girlfriend is actually a country town girl who wants to explore other places like she grew up, and obviously she's a star so I have nothing against country people. However there are small incidents that continually occur when we go on long visits to places. Perhaps people are right in that it is a small town thing and they are weary of new faces but it doesn't happen to her, and it feels bad. So to me it feels like racism. It also isn't bullish racism where by people are yelling at you to go home or you are a c**** like other people's stories that I've been saddened to read. I have brought up incidents with waiters in comments or like other comments mentioned the just constant staring. In this situation it seems as though it has to do specificly with my interracial relationship as it seems when I'm alone or exploring alone it is fine, and she is always fine but these incidents happens when we are together more frequently or perhaps noticeable to me.

This particular encounter was not a long one, nor was it that crazy as people would seem to imagine. They didn't call me chick or tell me to go home or anything like that. As we walked into the pub, we stood in line to be seated at our booked table. It was quite full thanks to the long weekend. The Publican approached my girlfriend and myself and he turns to her and she says she has a booking for two. I'm standing next to her shoulder to shoulder and he asks if her other reserved party is with her. She looks confused and just looks at me and says, yeah hes right here. He then looks at me quite shocked and says "what? Really?" frowns his face convaying very much a wtf emotion. He turns and just says "huh ok I guess. Follow me." Outwardly this might not seem much to people but this reaction has happened so many times it isn't a coincidence anymore. To have it happen over and over again by different people, in different places implies something deeper than just 1 supprised Publican. This might not be the story people want but it is mine and I hope people can understand where I'm coming from. I'm also not going to name the place simply because like I said, it is small but very common and I would rather discuss the overall problem as a collective effort rather than villanise 1 person who might not know what they did or if they are in the wrong (or perchase they are not and I am overreacting and I am in the wrong). Thanks all for sharing your comments and thoughts. I hope I have answered some of your questions.