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r/entitledparents

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r/Adopted

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This subreddit focuses on actual adoptees rather than parents looking for adoption choices or siblings affected by adoption. With so many other subreddits that cover other participants of an adoption, this community is for adoptees. * If you are interested in surveying the community, message me first. If you don't your post will be removed. * If you come into the sub for research and you were not adopted, I will most likely ask you to visit r/adoption or a similar sub.

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•Posted by2 years ago

New adoptive mom here!

We just finalized our adoption a few months ago, after baby was placed with us at 1 day old. It was a private adoption with a family friend's teenager and it seems like she (bio mom "L") has spiraled out of control since the adoption. We agreed from the beginning it would be an open adoption as long as the relationship is healthy for baby, but after several months with no contact, a change in L's living situation and guardian, and the reports we've heard about from her family of drinking, drugs, sneaking out, etc, I'm at a loss for how to nurture that relationship without putting baby at risk or possibly further traumatizing L, who's obviously going through some tough stuff.

Anyone been through something similar or just willing to talk through some of this with me?

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•Posted by10 days ago

I don’t have a relationship with my adoptive mother and I don’t think I want one.

I was adopted at 18 months but still feel like I have no connection with my adoptive mother. She is controlling, petty, holds grudges and is just cold emotionally. She provides the basics and even beyond but she’s never been there for me emotionally. Also she had a biological son that she treated better because he was her only son that was her’s biologically unlike my siblings who were also adopted. I just don’t see me having any relationship with her does any else feel this way?

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Classic case of biological mother flexing imagined superiority over adoptive mother

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•Posted by1 month ago

My (adoptive) mom called my (bio) kids her kids

I'm just so upset and need to talk about it. She has now blocked me. She is dating a racist and i stressed that that man was to never be around my children (I have half custody). She took him around my elder son anyway and when I confronted her, she said "I would be lonely if I went to see my kids without him." Idk what to do. I guess there isn't anything I can do right now. She has always chosen men over me. I have spoken to both of my childrens' fathers and they both agreed to not let my mom have access to them until this is resolved; we all have pretty good co-parenting relationships. Idk what I'm looking for here; I'm just feeling really hurt.

Edit because I was unclear: I have half custody between myself and my childrens' fathers, not my mother. She has zero custody rights to my kids.

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•Posted by3 months ago

I made it though a birthday breakfast with my adoptive mother

Background: I’m a domestic infant adoptee from the Baby Scoop Era. I was raised as an only child, with very little extended family (adoptive dad was estranged from his family, and he passed 31 years ago, adoptive mom had a lot of family around but her brothers lived far away and most of her generation has passed) I’m married almost 30yrs and we have three adult children, one lives overseas. My adoptive mother lives nearby, but we get along best when our time is limited and for a specific purpose. My birthday is next week, and I decided it would be easier to meet for breakfast out with two of my children who live nearby than it would be to just avoid it altogether.

I’ll skip the details of complicated scheduling, planning around school and work and auto repairs, plus a morning activity I didn’t want to miss. But that’s typical of just about any get together. Anyway- we get to the restaurant- a National chain which would not be my top choice but it’s easy and predictable and has a menu that accommodates everyone. I’m OK with that! My birthday gift was a nice card and some knickknacks that are not at all my style- but I truly don’t care about gifts so that’s fine! What was most troubling was, not once in the conversation was anything about me. We talked out my children’s pets, jobs, classes, friends, homes, spouses, etc but not one thing directly or personally about me.

It’s never about me, it never was, and it never will be. I’m not surprised, I’m not even mad, I’m just sad.

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•Posted by3 months ago

my call history with my (adoptive) mom is her ignoring my calls all the way back to feb 10. but i still call and im still hurt every time.

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•Posted by4 months ago

Adoptive Mother knows about my bio-siblings and is hiding it from me

This is my first ever post, so I apologize in advance if this is not appropriate or well-written. Any advice or support is much appreciated!!

I (25F) was adopted at birth. My adoptive parents were arguably better than most, but still not great. My adoptive mother has always been very insecure about it and generally ignorant towards my perspective of being adopted versus her experience as an adoptive mother. [EX: all of my good traits are attributed to her, all of my bad traits go to my genes; actively celebrates that I am white-passing; dyed my hair blonde; complains that we are not closer and that it is my fault; etc.] My adoptive father was much better/less sensitive towards the *adoption topic.* He would answer my questions, speak highly of my biological mother, and encourage me to explore my known racial/ethnic background.

At my grad school graduation celebration, my adoptive mother was very drunk (not uncommon - she borders on functioning alcoholism and has for my entire life). She started confessing to one of my close friends that she had friended my biological mother on Facebook and learned that I have multiple younger biological siblings ALL of whom are living with my biological mother seemingly happily. She then profusely begged this friend to NOT tell me. Luckily, through my own social media snooping, I already knew this information and had actually discussed this previously with this friend. The friend then told me about this entire conversation.

This was almost a year ago and my adoptive mother has yet to say anything to me about this. I am seeing her for the first time in a long time without any buffer. My adoptive father unexpectedly died a few years ago, and I usually try to bring a buffer (e.g., boyfriend, friend, cousin, etc.) when I go visit her, but this trip I will be completely alone. I am nervous that she may bring this situation up to me and what I am supposed to say to her. I can't get upset without her completely exploding. My stomach has been in knots since I made the plans to visit her. Am I right to be annoyed that she would be knowingly keeping this information from me?

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•Posted by3 months ago

My Adoptive Mother Said She Regrets Adopting Me.

Told me that all of the thoughts and feelings I had about hating myself must've been a result of the fact it was an interracial adoption and not due to their neglect and ignorance.

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