Cheaters Being Confronted

My husband has been venting to our friends about our relationship. tl;dr We're 25 and just moved into a new community about six months ago, so these are our new friends he's been venting to...people we don't know super well, and it's uncomfortable. I'm guessing it's uncomfortable for them too.

He'll throw me under the bus for some things, for example if he sets a time for us to meet with our friends at 6pm, and then he has to finish a video game he'll blame me and tell them "she's running late sorry". I can refute this in front of them, but what good will that do? He tells them when we're fighting, which is just...strange to me. I'm a private person and would never ever tell people when I was in an argument or fight with someone, I want to resolve it privately and quietly with that person. And I'm sure these people don't care to know that either. It's awkward. 

He has been venting to our other friend (a guy, but he's our mutual friend who we met at the same time and who we're both friends with) about how annoying it is that I want to cuddle with him (my husband, obviously) at night. He told him a couple days ago, "Dude, it's so annoying. She just wants to cuddle me at night. It f-ing sucks." to which our guy friend hesitated and then said, "that...sucks." But it seemed awkward for him and like he didn't know what to say. He just went through a divorce and what is he supposed to say, sorry your wife wants to cuddle you? It was strange to me. 

He also told our other friends, a lesbian couple, directly that (about me): "she's being weird about hanging out with you two tonight, I think she thinks there's some weird sex thing going on between the three of us. It's weird. Just don't talk to her about it." when that's not at all what I think is happening. He has emotionally cheated in the past so on occasion I've felt uncomfortable with his interactions with them due to his flirtatious behavior, additionally I was busy with school that night, but then he turned it into this big awkward thing that could potentially hurt them. He took a private thing that I have been trying to work through and brought it up to them publicly. It was horrible. It felt awful. And then it felt like it was up to me to resolve the issue. I cried for two days because of that, it felt so awful and terrible. Part of me wanted to tell them about all of his recent past, all the things he would never want out in public (just take a look at my previous posts if needed and I have screenshots of everything), but I wouldn't do that. I wouldn't want to hurt him like that, nor drag our friends into this mess.

He just in general is not having my back or supporting me in front of other people and our community/friends.

He hasn't wanted to go to couples counseling, I have asked about five times and he becomes irate anytime I bring it up saying, "we should be able to work this out ourselves, you can't force me to go"....but I'm not forcing him to go and he never wants to talk about important issues that make him uncomfortable, then will vent to our friends about things I didn't even know were bothering him. I told him that I only vent about him to my therapist, no one else, because I respect him and wouldn't want to hurt him or his reputation. 

Is anyone else going through anything similar? If anyone has advice for me, or has dealt with a partner who was against therapy, but then somehow came around to it, I would love to know. 

Thank you everyone.