This is something that has been a big issue for me. I am 28F, I have mostly lived away from my relatives since I was 18, because I chose to. All my life it has just been me and my mum and the others have always been a source of anxiety and stress for her.

I always tried living in cities far away from my hometown, never informed relatives even if I had to visit the cities they live in and I rarely feel comfortable having a phone conversation with them even tho I am constantly forced to do so. The bond could basically never develop except with hardly one or two people who are more like minded.

Now a few years ago I decided to sell off my childhood home and my mum moved in with me. We live closer to their cities now. She speaks to her siblings once in a while and of course that's fine but I drew the line that I won't be speaking or entertaining anyone. I always did my part when they needed me, stood up for my cousins who were in shitty marriages, visited everytime there was a tragedy or a wedding or if someone was sick. If they reach out for help I always do everything I can.

But I have never once barged into someone's house without reason. I thought it's a basic courtesy to be extended. But till date I receive these last moment calls from people saying "hey, we were in the city and we are coming to see you".

Not even a question! Just informing me to keep everything aside and be available to host them.

My mum suffers from a severe anxiety disorder, has chronic OCD (not the kind that people refer to when they talk about wanting to keep organised, medically severe OCD that obstructs her day to day life massively.)

This weekend again a cousin of mine told me she is visiting, I told her I'll be happy to see her, or host her for a night or drop her to the airport, whatever is needed.

Now I receive a call on Friday that her whole family is coming and they want to meet my mum and I on Sunday.

My mum is panicking because it's her brother visiting, she feels our house is not in order (we have two cats and it's a small 2bhk) and that she needs to prepare a great meal for them and show off our new house.

I don't care about any of these things but the expectations people have that they can arrive anytime they want, without thinking of how prepared or unprepared I am to be hosting them is just bizarre.

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Unemployment keeps me awake at night

Just wanted to share my (24M) recent troubles with being unemployed. I was a good student till 12th grade but I had to drag my ass through college (b.tech) and also had a year drop in between. I graduated 2 years ago and also had a job for about 7 months but I left it a year ago and have been unemployed ever since.

Been trying to get back on track for the past month and it's not easy. If anyone else here has been through this, how did you deal with it?

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Posted by23 hours ago

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Indians on LinkedIn

What's up with so many of us suddenly trying to become sasta Jordan Belfort influencer on Linkedin?

Bro nobody cares about your 5 paragraph post saying almost the same obvious stuff which everyone already knows. People are just commenting to show that they're participating in professional discussions. It's especially annoying if some newbies are posting tips on how to make it after completing just an internship. How the hell can you be experienced enough if you have just 5 months of experience?

Also, what's up with some girls posting legit thirst traps? They'd post some hot pic with the caption saying "felt very motivated to work today and my smile shows it". Woman, no one is looking at your smile. I love thirst traps but why on LinkedIn where middle aged men are commenting hot on it?

Lastly and more importantly, we need to stop glorifying our country's toxic work culture especially in corporate sectors. We will post the most absurd, toxic, untrue shit to get LinkedIn karma. Working over and above for the shittiest salary & working environment shouldn't be called dedication. It should be called apna katwana. HR glorifying how they make their candidates jump through unrealistic hoops to get the best is so disrespectful. I've seen some even justifying how they leave people hanging after interviews.

I'm calling out our population cause majority of such posts are all posted by Indians. Some of them are truly embarrassing the country, like that idiot who praised Hitler. Yaar chup chap job dhundho ispe and niklo na.

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