Ain’t this the truth. I’m a trans man and looked like a boy almost my entire youth since I was about 6 years old. In elementary school, if I went into the girls restroom I’d get in trouble because I looked like a boy, and I would get in trouble if I went into the boys because I was really a girl. I eventually just learned to hold my piss for 10 hours as a little kid because using a public restroom was so stressful and uncomfortable. I started transitioning when I was 18, and I got comfortable going to the men’s. Once there was targeted focus on trans people in bathrooms, I’ve become a little stressed about it again. At that point, I was bald and bearded and looked like a cis man, and actually had nothing to worry about. But still, all it takes is one asshole and with decades of being uncomfortable in public restrooms it can be hard to let go of. I actively avoid the multiple occupancy restrooms at work, and choose the single restroom instead. I’m approaching 40 years old, and public restrooms have been my arch enemy for over 30 years now.