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[MINI FAQ] Do I have to be a woman to participate here? What about the subreddit name? What about trans women? What are the rules, anyway?

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A woman in 'excruciating' pain believed she had appendicitis but 3 different doctors disagreed. Surgery revealed she had appendicitis.

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Gyno called me a crazy cat lady because I asked to be sterilized

I'm not kidding. He refused to treat me until I saw a psychiatrist for my "obvious instability" because I "might need medicine!" He told me I had control issues because I asked about birth control side effects. He gave me a psychiatric referral and refused to treat me further until I sought treatment because I "would sue" if he did. I have never felt so disrespected or hopeless about my medical care.

My primary told me he was her gyno and that he shared her values. She said he'd help me. Instead he belittled me, made me feel stupid and like I was wasting his time, and actually called me crazy at multiple points during the 15 minute appointment.

I just wanted to take control of my reproductive future. I live in a red state. I don't have options. I was chastised and treated like a Victorian era hysteric for trying to exercise the choices I have. I was so excited about the appointment too. Maybe I am crazy--I really thought he would help me.

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BREAKING: United States Supreme Court Justice Samuel Alito temporarily BLOCKS Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals ruling on abortion pill, access to the pill has been FULLY restored nationwide as full Supreme Court reviews case

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I’m tired of men misrepresenting themselves in early dating.

I’ve had this experience with two of my exes, who early on would make it seem that we have SO much in common. I naively fell for it with both of them, thinking we really do have common interests and talking about them for a long time afterwards only to realize they had lied and pretended to be interested so they would create this false narrative of shared interests and a fake sense of commonality.

My most recent ex did it to an extreme. He pretended to read a book about my research (later admitting he read only a couples pages and stopped) and pretended he was so interested in academia, listened to the music I like, “did” yoga because I like it so much, and agreed to my political/cultural opinions. Later the truth came out and he actually started saying how “he is so far from the world of academia” and how it’s not important for him to visit a city he had pretended to really want to see (I was really excited to show it to him and expressed it many times). It feels so crappy to feel seen by the person you’re dating and start liking them only to discover they were being disingenuous. The issue is that they genuinely feel like they have put effort into you by doing this and get hurt when you complain.

What in the world is this dating strategy? Is this their way of “getting” us? Then what? The truth comes out and you expect me to like you still because you started off being so fake? My therapist kind of disagrees with me on this. She says people do this in early dating. From my perspective, I can take interest in someone and engage with them about their hobbies and values by listening to them and asking questions without adopting them myself. I actually love hearing people talk about things they are passionate about and their own interests. I find that much more attractive than someone who molds themselves to please me.

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Had a guy walk on our date because I wasn’t comfortable accepting an expensive gift

So, I met this guy for the first time yesterday. We had been texting and had a phone conversation, but I didn't really know what to expect when we finally met up at the mall. As we walked around, I spotted this really cute bag, and it cost around $80. Well, this guy I was with - let's call him Mr. Big Spender - noticed me admiring it and before I knew it, he had plucked it off the shelf and said he wanted to buy it for me.

While somewhat flattered, I wasn't exactly comfortable with him buying me something like that on a first date. I told him this several times in no uncertain terms, very STRONGLY, but he just shrugged it off and headed to the register. I was getting more and more annoyed as the seconds ticked by, but I wasn't about to cause a scene in the store. Well, when we got out of the store, I told him straight up that I hoped he enjoyed his new Hello Kitty bag because I wasn't going to be taking it home with me. I made it clear that I felt as if he had disrespected me by not respecting my wishes and ignoring my boundaries, and that I wasn't comfortable accepting such an extravagant gift from someone I barely knew.

Well, Mr. Big Spender wasn't having it. He got really angry and told me that it was "my problem" because he was just trying to do something nice. He accused me of overreacting and said that he wasn't even expecting me to "go on another date or have sex with him" - yikes! We argued back and forth for a bit, but I stood my ground.

That's when things really took a turn for the worse. Mr. Big Spender told me that if I didn't accept the bag, he would throw it in the trash! I couldn't believe he was for real?? I told him to just please return it, but he huffily tossed it onto one of those mall massage chairs and stormed off with a "You have fun with that"

I'm sure he thought he was "forcing me" to keep the bag but luckily he had used his credit card to make the purchase, so I was able to return it to the store without any trouble. I haven't heard from Mr. Big Spender since, and honestly, I don't give a single shit.

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