Woah is this that same prick who had the sexual purity episode too? Makes sense now.
You need to find an activity or hobby to get your confidence up. You're not ugly at all but your self esteem is very low. I'm sure you could pick up women in person if you learnt to love yourself and be confident in who you are
I normally just give a job title but I always get asked "what does that involve?" because most of my matches don't typically know what a civil engineer does. I would give a brief run down but never location or company in case someone ends up being unhinged.
I try and change the topic though because it's no fun discussing work even though I do like my job/some guys get intimidated by a female engineer.
I like my job but I don't like when it becomes a topic in 70% of conversations. I'd much prefer to talk about what people get up to in their spare time for fun
At this stage of your career, the idea is to gain broad experience. Making more money is just a side benefit.
Don't ever make the mistake of thinking about "loyalty" to a company as a moral issue. The company has no moral reference and no concept of loyalty to anyone.
Loyalty is something that we save for our families. Not our employers.
Maybe loyalty was a bad word but relevant experience is not rewarded in my grad role is what I meant. I will be ready to do stuff without training as I already am but I will start on the same salary as someone who's fresh to the door and will need to go through the 6 week training. That's the part that made me feel ripped off
A comment for some backstory:
So I ended up matching with someone on tinder who was very forward, open and pretty attractive. After talking throughout the week we went on a date which turned into an all day thing, but I couldn't help having this 'off' feeling about her. She was moving things very quickly, and wasn't shy about getting into sexual conversations. I found it a bit odd since she was talking about wanting something serious, but I chalked it up to it being tinder, or her being nervous.
We planned on seeing each other the next weekend, and I texted her that night to make sure she got home. She texted me the next morning, but I had to hop onto work that day and couldn't get back for a few hours. During that time I got a call from a blocked number, I figured it was spam and answered it out of curiosity. I could hear a few voices in the background so I said 'hello' and the caller immediately hung up.
A few more hours go by, and I get this text from her '👀👀👀', then she unsent it and maybe 20 minutes later I got a call from another blocked number. I was stupid and answered, said 'hello' and heard a gasp before she hung up. At this point I wasn't vibing on talking to her again. I went to the grocery store after work and called my buddy on the phone to talk about it. In that time she called me one more time on her number and two more times on a blocked number (screenshots). Then she texted me accusing me of ghosting her and calling me a pussy. I texted back saying I didn't think we were a good fit and I wish her the best.
Then she acted all surprised and asked me why we weren't a good fit. I told her the lashing out and blocked calls made me uncomfortable, and that I wished her the best. She called me 3 more times after that, then begged to try again before I blocked her.
This was all after one date lmao. I checked tinder this morning and saw that I was banned, which is obviously because of her. Ultimately if I can't use tinder anymore after this experience, I'm not too bummed but I'm curious if I can make an appeal. You can check out the screenshots for some of the crazy I had to deal with.
TLDR; My date went crazy on me the day after our date, called me multiple times throughout the day with and without blocked numbers. She didn't handle my rejection well and got me banned. Is it possible to appeal this?
EDIT: grammar
What a psycho. I hope she doesn't find you on any social media
I’m not Black, but I am multiracial (Native American father, white mother) and get very, very few likes on dating apps despite living in a medium-sized city. My white friends have easily found relationships on dating apps, but to be fair, my Black friends here have too, though it took them longer.
My anecdotal - and admittedly slightly bitter - belief is that women of color get thought of more often as hookups, while white women get seen as serious options. I’ve mentioned this to other women of color and had them confirm that they felt the same. Maybe I’m just being an asshole about this, but seeing how much less white women need to contribute to be seen as relationship material has really driven this home for me. It may just be local to where I live. Either way, good luck!
I feel this too, I think it boils down to some people aren't willing to date interacially but will absolutely hook up
Urgh I get this so much and I hate it so much. The constant race questions “are you into white guys” “have you ever been with a white guy”. I wish there were more black people in my area or just mature people, I’ll have to try travel and find a bigger city near me
Right!! I'm not fussy, I'd be down to date someone from any part of the world as long as they don't make it weird
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Can someone please explain to me? I don’t really follow the line of thinking here
"Sexual purity" is a made up bs social concept to shame women for their sexual activity. Adult relationships include sex. Typically if you want someone who is sexually pure they are going to be a lot younger.
There's comments in the original thread that explain it a lot better than I did.
It’s so toxic but nicki vs cardi. Cardi tossing her shoe at Nicki!!!!!
This is up there with the Solange vs Jay Z elevator takedown
i just remembered this from when 50 Cent and Ja Rule were in a fight
I absolutely loved that one so damn petty and the Groupon deal was the icing on the cake
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