Honestly, I think that there's potential in the idea of a Star Trek prequel, but rather than setting it, like, ten or a hundred years before the original series, I would set it like...five years after First Contact. The Earth still is still recovering from nuclear devastation and there's still serious famine and plague and tyranny in many parts of the world, but now there's the twin promise of a new frontier in space and new ideas filtering in from an alien species. Meanwhile, the Vulcans are extremely cagey about how they feel about having this species, which has been very, very violent in its extremely recent history, spreading into the universe.
whats the best way to trim the crest+beard of a silkie? this lady can barely see with all that floof!
chickenkeeping
apparently some people use little headbands to keep the fluff out of their eyes
80s chickens
yo im late but when i first got my polish frizzle bantams years ago from their breeder their crests were up to keep them out of the mud (because they’re show birds) and the result was amazing
chef hats/make-up brush hair
chickenkeeping
i love them thank you for the advice
chickenkeeping
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I had to Google what frizzles looked like normally and
Sorry he asked so nicey i had to make a spongebob cream pie tonight
*thinking*: "SpongeBob creampie"
Whenever I get a puncture wound I feel so smug towards any tetanus that might be in there. They have no idea about my sick ass vaccinated immune system. While you were crawling in soil my cells were studying Tdap. Now die by the hands of my learnéd warriors.
put the fucking post button back on the bottom bar i can’t see my dash with it roaming free like a feral beast
it’s too sickly to survive amongst the wilds. what if it sees a breasts image and dies?
Anonymous asked:
why are you glorifying a serial killer
aileen served
tsarbucks-deactivated20190812
the clickhole people take no prisoners yet again
Men love to talk about how they never get compliments, but like they literally can’t take a compliment?? Even if there is a guy dressed well, he will either take your compliment as flirtation and an invitation to sexually harass you aggressively. OR if he isn’t attracted to you, he will take it as an opportunity to reject you. Just very rude, I’ve had guys just look over my head and walk away without saying anything. Like I told you your shirt was cool because it had a penguin or something on it, it’s really not that deep.
So yeah, no compliments for y’all. Ask your buddy if he thinks you look cute today idk.
Signs of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)
Since CEN is about what your parents DIDN’T do rather than DID, it can be hard to identify if you were emotionally neglected as a child. Here are some signs of potential CEN, paraphrased from Jonice Webb’s Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect.
1. Expressing guilt, discomfort or self-directed anger for having feelings (especially negative feelings)
Apologizing for crying in front of therapists, friends, or loved ones. Preceding statements of emotions with apologies: “I feel terrible saying this, but I didn’t really want to go to the family reunion.” “I know this is wrong, but I felt like walking out.” “I know this means I’m a bad person, but I get really angry when she does that.”
2. Fiercely defending parents from negative interpretations (from therapists, friends, or loved ones)
The emotionally neglected are desperate to protect their parents from blame. They tend to view their parents as somewhat ideal, and are naturally driven to blame themselves for their struggles. When others get close to identifying ways in which their parents may have failed them, the emotionally neglected adult is quick to explain that their parents “did the best they could” or “aren’t to blame.”
3. Doubting the substance of their memories from childhood
Many emotionally neglected adults have difficulty recalling specific things about their childhoods. They often report that their childhood feels like a blur that’s hard to differentiate into exact events. furthermore, they often distrust their own emotional read on the childhood memories that they do have. When they’re reporting their mother’s temper, their father’s workaholism, etc. in therapy sessions with me, they often pause to question the reality, importance or validity of their memory. “I feel like I’m probably exaggerating it. It wasn’t really that bad,” one woman said to me while tears were rolling down her cheeks. “Isn’t this boring for you to listen to?” one man said to me while telling me about his parents’ lack of reaction to the death of his dog when he was ten. Or, “I don’t know why I’m telling you this, it’s probably not important,” another man said while relaying a story about how his cherished stepfather disappeared from his life after divorcing his mother.
4. Lacking understanding of how emotions work; their own as well as others.
The emotionally neglected are apt to have a low Emotional Intelligence Quotation (EQ). But it is very difficutl for the emotionally neglected to realize that their emotional understanding is poor. They grew up in families in which this was the case, and they’ve lived their lives this way. Here are some signs of this “alexithymia” (inability to identify and describe emotions in the self). You may need the help of a therapist, friends, or loved ones to identify these signs in yourself:
- repeated physical discomfort (may be evidenced by squirming or fidgeting) when experiencing an emotion, especially a negative one
- telling emotionally intense stories in a way that is completely devoid of emotional content (not talking about how you felt, brushing off your own negative feelings, joking about something that should clearly be emotionally disturbing)
- changing the subject quickly or resorting to humor when someone steers a discussion in an emotional direction
- showing a repeated inability to give answers to feeling-oriented questions. This may consist of giving intellectualized or avoidant answers.
Intellectual response example: Q: “What did you feel when she told you to leave?” A: “I thought she was being a jerk.” (Questioner asked for a feeling; answerer gave a thought or judgment instead.)
Avoidant response example: Q: “What did you feel when she told you to leave?” A: “I hadn’t realized she was that angry until she said that.” (Questioner asked for a feeling; answerer gave information that did not directly answer the question. A feeling answer might have been, “I felt surprised.”)
5. Counter-dependence
The emotionally neglected feel upset with themselves for needing help, especially help from a therapist, friend, or loved one in dealing with their negative emotions. They may see their need for therapy or emotional help as weak, pathetic, shameful, foolish, or frivolous. “Shouldn’t I be over this by now?” “I’ll bet not many 37-year-olds are still trying to learn how to say no.” “I don’t like feeling that I need you. I want to stop treatment for a while, to make sure I can do it on my own.” They feel ashamed for not being able to handle things by themselves.
6. Memories
It’s hard to glean what didn’t happen from childhood memories. Things to listen for:
- Memories of a parent drastically misunderstanding the child’s feelings, needs, or personality. One young woman about to obtain her bachelor’s degree in social work told me about her parents’ pressure upon her all through middle and high school to skip college and take over her father’s brick delivery service. I found myself wondering whether these parents had any idea at all who their daughter was.
- Memories that entail the parent negating, ignoring, or over-simplifying the child’s emotions. For example, one neglectful mother said to her son, “Your big sister misses her father” soon after their father suddenly passed away, paying no heed whatsoever to the feelings of her son.
- Memories of a parent having a favorite phrase that squelches the child’s emotional expression, like “Don’t be a baby,” “Get over it,” or “Stop crying.” (Not that many mindful parents might use these phrases on occasion; it must be either used extremely inappropriately just once, or used frequently, to indicate that it represents a general philosophy of Emotional Neglect.)
- Memories that convey significant feelings of deprivation in some non-physical area that was important to the patient as a child. “I was fascinated with the guitar but my mom insisted that I be a violin player.” “I REALLY wanted to be with my friends in middle school but my parents were really strict.”
- Memories that seem unimportant but have a lot of emotion attached to them. On the surface, the event in a memory might seem trivial, but the lack of emotional attunement from parents can make it memorable. Watch for intense but seemingly meaningless memories, because they’re often remembered specifically because they’re loaded with the invisible pain of emotional neglect.
Some people are able to see on their own that they are depressed or have anxiety. But it is unusual for an adult to identify emotional neglect for themselves. If you doubt if these signs sound like you, try asking a therapist, close friend, or loved one for their opinion!
Di Petsa “pee stain” denim
“are you wearing-” the Di Petsa “pee stain” denim? yes I am.”
fuckelf
“are you wearing”
“The Di Petsa ‘pee stain’ denim? No I am not”
I don't like to add to the noise of Software Developer Do Dumb Thing, but I feel like this is as if the Japanese government sent me an email going "it turns out there are a lot of you named Kenji Tanaka, so to solve this problem we are retiring passport numbers"
Our username system makes it difficult for folks fluent in other languages to express themselves. That's why we're moving to a system like the one on Twitter, where every Asian artist forced to get an alphanumeric username has a handle like @bc2931a or @2023jx or @wabababxa_, which is very easy to remember and shows how versatile alphanumeric handles are at expressing one's non-English-speaking self
Discord's post trying to convince me that we're somehow now extremely allergic to the idea of sharing a number, despite the fact that Nintendo, that video game company that makes stuff for actual children, has had no problem with its users sharing IDs that are 14 digits long