A Safe Space for Black Women

So I wasn't going to say anything but it's getting to be enough.

It seems like everyday within this forum meant for us someone is talking about hating how they're stereotyped in society as a Black woman only to turn around and do the same thing to Black women from the hood/urban areas.

I just don't understand talking about how hurt you are that someone can't see you're more than their stereotype, or can't except the ways you deviate from stereotypes only to turn around and do the same to us.

Mentioning how a nonBlack person expected you to be a certain way because they think all Black people are like that, or how a Black person expected you to be more in line with a norm where they're from only to launch into 'I'm not like those other negros' territory, or demean those you see as too fitting of the stereotype around things that don't matter like idk being on foodstamps or listening to rap is just hypocritical and really oblivious (let alone, ignores the fact that the 'uppity negro' is also a stereotype)

Black women from the hood dress alternative, listen to music outside of rap/rnb, play video games and do whatever you think is somehow unique to you and even for those of us who don't, so what? Isn't the point to make room for loving yourself authentically, not to just want one way of Blackness accepted, including your own?

Many of us from those areas or who talk in AAVE or who listen to Rap are just as multifaceted as you and the disrespect is out of control.

P.S before anyone starts that 'well Black people never accepted me because of xyz' stuff, I grew up a nerdy, geeky different-dialect bullied girl in my area and one thing I realized is nonBlack kids had their own intraracial version of that. It wasn't all Black people not accepting you, it was you not meshing with some and allowing yourself to be friends with the nonBlack kids you did mesh with, accepting them as people who differed person by person but not Black people, they could only be one way except you in your eyes (ironic in it's own way because those same nonBlack kids were probably getting bullied by their same race peers for being different from the norm but I digress) . Whatever is your difference among the group you're around, there are others you have the same likes and quirks with, but part of finding that within Black people is realizing you are not the only multifaceted, different etc Black person to exist.