Feeling very rough right now. I'm a woman who has been childfree forever. My partner is older than me and is totally on board with not having children, but is not per say childfree. He would've liked to have them when he was younger, but said he was not super on board with having a baby/toddlers at his age. The main difference between us while I don't hate children, I really just don't feel like spending any time around them, and don't feel as though they are this huge blessing that everyone always talks about. My partner thinks kids are amazing. I thought when I got into a relationship with him that this would be fine, seeing as though he is ok with not having kids. I am now re-thinking this decision.

I was finally cleared to have my Bisalp surgery for this summer. I am so ecstatic and have been wanting this for years. I was lucky enough to get my OBGYN to book the surgery with no fuss. She told me she was very confident I knew what was best for me.

So I get home and I am smiling and literally jumping around in excitement until this. My partner says he's happy for me BUT "if you are going to post about this on social media, please really think about it before you do, because we have friends that may not be able to have kids who want them, and that would be really inconsiderate of you". FULL STOP. I was taken aback. I immediately asked that if we were announcing a pregnancy, would the first thing out of your mouth be to reconsider posting about it, because other people can't have kids and it may hurt their feelings? And he said it's not the same thing. I think it's very valid to point out the hypocrisy. I said it may actually hurt someone more to see their friends posting about their new babies, but they don't have to be considerate right? Because everyone thinks babies and pregnancy are the greatest things in the world, so that's ok to talk about, but me talking about how empowered I feel as a woman to be able to get sterilized is shameful and should be private. We got into a huge fight.

Please tell me I'm not overreacting here????

Edit: It's gotten worse. He came to talk to me to try and smooth things out but brought up "you really don't think what you're going through is the same as having a baby right?" And I acknowledged that bringing a baby is a much bigger responsibility, but that his reaction could still have been much more positive. He doubled down with "bringing a baby is a continuation of your bloodline" and "lots more people are happy for people who have babies, and not so much for other situations". I could not believe my ears hearing this. I told him who the f cares about bloodline because when you're dead, you're dead. I reiterated that I don't want kids and probably not marriage.... The most excited I have ever seen him is when his niece was born and I expressed he's never had even close to that reaction to anything in the long-term entirety of our relationship. I don't ever feel like I'll be put first compared to his family. This sucks.